My parents still control me at 22!!!!!!!?
I'm 32 and my parents still control me!! Same situation I recently got divorced after being separated for almost four years, I have four children and I just went back to college. It is great that they are helping me out, but it's still hard because I'm an adult but I have to live by their rules while living in their house! I really hate it sometimes. However, your situation is somewhat different especially if you don't have any children. Your parents do not have the right to ground you or know where you are at every minute of the day. You should still be treated as an adult unless you are doing something that is harmful to you. I think that your best bet though is to get on your feet and move out of their house ASAP. They are being controlling probably because they love you and don't want to see you hurting, but they need to learn that they can't protect you forever. Try to sit down with them and have a serious chat, and let them know that your goal is to be on your own again in a set number of time, whatever that may be to suite your needs. Best of luck to you.
My parents lock me in the house?
They keep me in here with no internet access, (other than the few moments I can plug my laptop in while they sleep) they unplugged and hid the house phones, and they won't help me pay for a new phone, even though I can't get a job. They won't let me out to see my friends, or boyfriend. And just yesterday my boyfriend went out and bought a new hone for me to use to talk to him, because we aren't allowed to anymore, and my parents stole it and won't let me have it again. Every time I say I want to leave they just threaten to call the police and report me a a run-away (which they did, on one occasion) and whenever I get angry or depressed or say I hate it in the house, they say they're going to send me to a place for 'troubled teens'. They also won't allow me to get a drives license. This is all because I decided I wasn't Catholic, and didn't agree with them morally, and I'm not antisocial. (They home schooled me and all my siblings until my freshman year in High school, when they enrolled me) I'm 16
At what age can parents legally kick you out of the house in the United States?
Well, since the ‘law’ stipulates that an individual is an adult at the age of 18, and is legal in all states in the United States, the ‘legal’ age that parents can kick their kids out of the outs is just that….18 years old.Of course, depending on the attitude of some kids who think they know it all and make outrageous and unruly and ungrateful emands on their parents, that could be even at an earlir age, even if it would be illegal to do so and the parents could be charged with chile abuse or improper parenting.I like the claim my dad made when I was a kid and would get unruly or mouth back when told to do something. He’d say to me…’I brought you into this world. I can damn sure take you out of it just as easily’. If nothing else, it got my attention, let me know who the boss was and where I stood in the ‘pecking order’. And there were no rules or laws back then that would get him into trouble of any kind for speaking to me like that. But that’s back when people know what sex they were by age 4, kids were to be seen and not heard, and when seen they’d best be doing something productive NOT destructive or they’d get one hell of an ass whoopin’. And those kids grew up to be ‘men’ and ‘women’ who could deal with life and didn’t need any ‘safe place’ when things got a little ‘iffy’ or hard to deal with at the moment. Now what do we have??? A nation full of whiners and snowflakes. Something the wolf in the storybook tale of the ‘Three Little Pigs’ could have blown over or down with only half a breath and a sever case of COPD.
Is it legal for parents to kick their child out of their house?
It’s not legal to simply boot a child a child under the age of 18 out of the house and leave them to fend for themselves. Parents have a legal responsibility to their children.It is legal (in most nations I’m aware of) to relinquish a child. This is where the child is taken to a police station or hospital, or put in the care of social workers, by a parent who acknowledges they can no longer care for the child’s needs or that the home is no longer safe with the child in it. The child then becomes the legal responsibility of the state.This sometimes occurs when the child has a disability of some kind which makes parenting problematic especially in single parent situations. I know of many single mothers who have had severely autistic sons who grow into their teen years to be larger and stronger than their mothers. And in some cases the autistic child has violent behaviour issues. It breaks their heart but they often have to acknowledge the fact that their son is endangering their own life and often the lives of other children. They don’t feel they have any alternative except to relinquish them.Other parents have children whose level of physical need is greater than they can provide. I worked with a student who at the age of 16 was a very large young man who was incapable of supporting his own weight. His mother had a back injury (caused by trying to lift him years before) and couldn’t assist him even with hoists installed in the house. She had to acknowledge that she was unable to provide the level of care that he required at home and she had to relinquish him to the state.Relinquishing a child doesn’t mean waving goodbye and severing ties. Some parents make this choice (for whatever reason) but most choose to visit regularly and be actively involved in the child’s life. But they’re no longer legally and practically the primary care giver.
How can I get my parents to stop bothering me?
Hi there,I can help you. When I was 14, I came down with a brain disease that involved convulsions and a host of other brain impairments. When I was 15, my mom passed away. My disease went on for many years.You can probably imagine how these events could lead to depression, a sense of hopelessness, and an unwillingness to try or challenge myself.The thing is my dad always had a lot of hopes for me. I felt compelled to fulfill them, to make him happy. So, I suffered my emotional baggage in silence, complaining to myself, hating to myself, crying to myself when I was alone. Nobody else had the slightest idea.Today, everybody knows and I am slowly getting better. The point of this story is that you have to know how to set boundaries. I learned this the hard way.Your mind will find so many reasons to guilt trip you into relaxing your boundaries.“Why am I making such a fuss? She is only checking on me every now and then”“I shouldn’t say anything. It will make them feel bad”Stop that, now! With clear and firm communication set your boundaries. Not only is this an absolutely essential life skill to have, but it is also the only way to deal with intrusion when it’s causing stress, whatever the situation.Today it’s your parents. Tomorrow, it will be your friend or your co worker that “innocently” wants to hang out with you all the time.Believe me, being considerate and not speaking up when something bothers you are two very different things. The firsr has to do with genuine affection. The second has to do with fear of facing discomfort. The second is unhealthy.So, stop it. You won’t be doing anything terrible by saying“Mom, dad, stop coming into my room all the time. I know you don’t mean to cause trouble, but it disrupts my concentration and I take a long time to recover. So, don’t come in when I’m studying”So, say it; loud and clear. After this has been said, the next time they come in, yell, loud and clear. Set your boundaries and don’t back off until they are known and respected by your parents.Hope I helped.
If parents throw a 14 year old out, is it legal for them to live at a friend's house forever?
No.Parents cannot throw a 14 year old out. If your parents are trying to do this, fear not, law is on your side.You must be 18 or emancipated here in Colorado where I live, although the laws may be different in different places.As for living at the freinds house, the answer is no. As fun as it sounds, they do not have your certificate and can't ever prove that you are their child.This means they can't sign off for you on virtually everything, so no, they cannot keep you.Involve the authorities if there is that type of stuff going on in your household.If this is a “just for fun” question, then hope the answer is satisfactory
Help me Help- My father and his family has been troubling me and my mom for a long time .My father has a negative influence?
I am 25 . My father has been a negative influence in our house -he has made my moms life miserable- I am living in my mothers sisters house . My father never did any work ,he was and always locked in room ,he abused my mom ,took money from her ,never guided me , we lived on rents,shiting houses . My mom wore the pants in the house ,working out,taking care of the home , My dad mentally trapped her and does not respect her at all. She has lot of humanity in her -She always gives him chances. My fathers -mother and sister has also expolited my mom .They come to our house use us ,make us work and go back. My father thinks its my moms right to serve him , he thinks she is her slave .They keep having fights but my mom is not able to kick him out of his own sisters house. We live for free -my aunt and her husband have saved our lives.- My dad abuses my moms sister who has give her house for free. My dad had some inhertiance from his father but my grandmother and his sister has taken everything. We have no legal rights, my grandmother is 81 and has all the property. My dad never pays bills on time , he is teaching guitar -he quit his job earlier ,he always keeps a check on my mothers finances , i hate him ,he has been very insulting to me - How to get rid of these people- now my dads sister is coming in 3-4 days again to stay with us.She wants to do shopping for daughter wedding. My mom is not strong and i feel my dad finds a way by shouting ,dominating and locking himself .
Never call my parents mom or dad. Is this abnormal?
Every family is different, if it makes you uncomfortable to call them mom or dad, then don't. Many new age families have their children call them by first name. Are you saying you don't call them anything at all, because thats a little more odd that you don't use title at all but there is nothing wrong with it. Maybe you need a little more practice. Maybe just try using a title here and there, say perhaps you mom asks you to find out what your dad wants for dinner, try calling out "Dad!" before entering the room to get his attention, that way you aren't looking right at him when you say it. I don't know just seems like a good way to get started.