How to tell parents that you want to move out without hurting feelings?
If you are old enough to move out and support yourself, then I strongly encourage you to do so. I'm the youngest of 5 kids and there was some supposition that I was supposed to remain at "home" to do the parent's bidding but I escaped! Do that! Escape! I moved back near them 40 years later and did help them both out in the years before their death. But not in between. I had my life and they had theirs and the two rarely crossed. And that was good. Move out. My folks found out when I moved. Which was a little mean but it seemed the best move for me to make. However, I was 17. You are a legal adult. Get yourself situated and let them know you are moving out. And it's OKAY to ignore their threats. You have your own road to travel. You don't need their money. And what they are saying is blackmail. Don't fall for it.
How do I tell my Mom to back off without hurting her feelings?
I had my son 6 months ago, my mother has been trying to tell me how to do things from the start. I know that she is trying to help, but she is really getting on my nerves. This is my first child, so I'm learning every day and think I'm doing a great job. I don't know how to tell her to just back off and if I need advise I'll ask without hurting her feelings she is very sensitive and I am sure she will take it personally.
How do I move out of my parents' house without making my mom really sad?
'Running away' is very different from leaving home to work, travel, or start an independant life as an adult. 'Running away' implies no contact or information about where or how you are; leaving your mother uncertain and fearful. Of course her heart couldn't handle that. The most graceful way to leave involves acknowledging her attatchment to you, making sure she does not need to worry unduly (she'll still worry) about you, and sharing your new-found independant life with her in such a way as to offer her the compensation of knowing she raised her child to be a thoughtful, considerate and reasonable adult.As you help care for your brother, I'd suggest you start with short trips away to enable her to adapt. Have a purpose to your trip, share it with her. She doesn't have to be 'good at technology' to use an app like WhatsApp, just literate (enough) and have internet access. If she doesn't have the internet, do phone.. but either way, internet or no - send postcards, even if you are only away for a weekend in the next town, and you will get home before they arrive. You thought of her when you were away. You took the time to express that. You don't stop caring about her when you walk out the door. She will be able to look at the postcards when you are away, and know that your closeness continues as you grow.
How do i get rid of my moms boyfriend without hurting my mom too much???
ok well obviously i dislike my mom's boyfriend, actually..... i HATE him. at first he was ok, but now he's like an evil parasite that won't go away and is ruining my sister and mines life!!! my mom is always going over to his house, and he's hurt her (tried to leave/end it) like five times and she gets so upset. i feel really bad for her but she won't listen to what me and my sister have to say. we try telling her about how its not a healthy relationship and how its hurting me and my sister too, but she always starts bantering about how all relationships are work and none are perfect. but she JUST DOESN'T GET IT!!! he's rude to her and our family, he insults my mothers parenting abilities (which are perfectly fine by the way) and UGH! i want to be like one of those evil step children who puts frogs in their step parents coffee to try and get them to leave. I've been extremely patient with her and her boyfriend, but i've come to the end of my rope. If you have any suggestions, do tell!!
My mom hates me, loves my brothers ...it hurts.?
my mom talks about me behind my back to my brothers all the time. they tell me about it because they know what shes doing. When I use to live with her, she only made me pay rent and other expenses, as my brothers didnt have to. When she would cook dinner, she would only tell my bros to eat, not me, i had to cook my own food, as well as buy my own groceries, and soap..etc..which my bros didnt. We all worked full time. She always lies about being short for bills, tries to make me feel sorry for her, and when i give her money she spends on purses and shoes. she has 20-30 pairs! 20 purses or more! im tired of her, and dont have anyone to talk to. then she kicked me out because i stop falling for her lies. i told her if my bros dont pay rent y should I? a wk later she told me she thinks i should get my own place. She also cheats on my dad with some 30 yr old man. I wanna rat on her but i feel sorry for my dad. i dont want to hurt him. My moms name is Veronica Long.
How do I get my mom to move out?
No you don't have to respect her every wish. She has moved into your house like a cuckoo in the nest and has taken it over! No wonder you don't want to go home. Seems she has done this to all the family and been booted out. She is leeching onto you emotionally and financially and obviously believes that she is there to stay.As Elizabeth has suggested, you might go to your doctor first and then on to Social Services - not sure what they call it wherever you are - and see who can help you. You don't say whether you have some older male relatives who might be prepared to help you move her on. A family conference is in order to decide what can be done about her. The situation cannot continue and I applaud you for being a good daughter (I have a feeling that you are a daughter) and not wanting to hurt your mum, but she has chosen to move in on you and quite frankly, has no concerns about hurting you.