How do I politely ask my neighbors to stop asking me for money , visiting all the time, and asking for rides?
My downstairs neighbors are nice enough people, but they come up all the time wanting to borrow money, (they do pay back SOMEtimes), always want me to drive them somewhere, (they have no car) and just knock on the door and sit down to visit any time of the day or night. They watch to see when I come and go and run to the car if I happen to try to leave when they want something. Ive tried telling them a couple of times, even thought of writing a letter, Ive told them a few times my car isn't good (it's on its last legs, truthfully), that I don't feel well ( not a lie), and they still persist. Im about at the end of my rope. There's no way to break my lease, and they aren't moving either. I am trying to be nice, but Im a private person and just do not want to "neighbor" like they do. Ive explained this to them, to no avail. I dont want to hurt their feelings or make them mad. Like I say, they're nice, but I feel are taking advantage, and/or being too dependent. They're in their 30s and should be capable of going about their life without me catering to them every day. They seem to be becoming more and more "familiar" and it's adding to my already limited stress threshhold. Does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks.
My neighbor wants to borrow a half cup of sugar, but I have a feeling he won't return it. Best way to say no?
are you ****** serious. let the neighbor borrow some ****** suggar.
A new neighbor wants to borrow tools. How do I say no?
Just say you don't like people borrowing your stuff and help them by giving them directions to a home improvement store or point them in the direction of a neighbor who wouldn't mind helping your neighbor out. I highly recommend though you give the guy a little break for now. If the guy needs to barrow a hammer or something cause his personal hammer hasn't come from the other house yet, give him some slack, how many time do you use a hammer per year, maybe like 10 times.
How can I politely decline to give my new car to my neighbor for a long drive?
Well , I finished reading all the 10 answers .The saying related with insurance seems slightly polite but unfortunately not works for country like India. Here , we don't care for such documents in general.Here is my way of politeness..If it is a new car , "Dude, the company mechanic advised me to drive the car as single handed till third service , for the benefit of car in long term , sorry "If it is not a new car, " For last two days, the car has some sort of problem, it turns off often when we shift the third gear and sometimes second gear, I am going to take it to the mechanic today. Sorry "This guy may come again , if he really believed that it was true. So , the next time, you should come up with different reasons like, Dude, Brake pads getting struck often, Dude, back door getting unlocked automatically when I pass the speed breakerDude, Gear knob got some sort of problem , I need to check with mechanicDude, there is wheel alignment problem So, have a set of problems, and reveal it at each time.At one point of time, he will come to know that you are lying to him and he ll stop asking.Well, on the other hand, Forget about to lend something from him in Future.
My neighbour keeps coming over to borrow eggs?
I don't think that borrowing eggs & eating cookies is the sign of a future criminal. If you cannot give from your heart, keep your eggs & cookies. If you have a problem with being kind to children, don't invite them into your house. What you need to do, is learn how to be a truly good neighbor. Right now, you're being a big fake! Because you are giving to your neighbor & inviting them in, when in fact you really don't like them. And you are talking about them, behind their backs-to the entire world. You are really some peice of work! It is obvious, that you have poor neighbors. People who are not struggling don't go around borrowing food! Shame on you!
Should you let your next door neighbors borrow things?
It's a newer neighborhood. We've only been neighbors for 8 months, but this is the type of neighbor that never stops talking. You say you have to get going and he keeps going like he's been holding his stories back for so long and don't really have anybody to tell it to. Thanks everybody for your comments. He dresses nicely, but he's got a reputation for being "anal" person. Like he gets scared of certain things. For example: Let's say, you're mowing the lawn and you want to be good neighbors. So you mow a little on his side of the property. He gets scared that you're trying to steal his land from him, so he questions you in a sarcastic manner. Well, we did indeed loaned it out to him. I don't know when we'll get it back, but we'll see! Hopefully, he'll turn out to be a good neighbor afterall. I just don't get it. The dude is single and has money to buy a big screen TV, how can he not afford a freaking ladder? And he's single for a reason too. It's the talking!
My neighbor comes over at least twice a week to borrow something. How can I ask them to stop doing this without being rude?
Does it bother you? Are the items returned promptly and in same condition you handed it over?You might not be aware of a cry for help…maybe they’re suffering and don’t quite know how to ask for the real help they’re needing. Maybe they’re too poor to buy the tools they know you have.I’d start by asking if they’re ok, ask if you can come over and help them use the tool/item…there may be something much larger at play.It could also be that said neighbor is crushing hard on you, and is looking for any excuse to see you, but hasn’t the nerve to say anything.Please be cautious with that person’s emotional well-being, as such behavior isn’t all that common anymore, without some underlying other issue.
How to get needy neighbors to not be so needy with us?
Read the book ,boundries. Saying no is healthy.