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How can I help my 2 year old son cope with my new boyfriend, who is the father of my unborn child?

What's happening is that right now, your son is going through a stage where he loves you. Ask your son who he is going to marry when he grows up and I bet he says "my mom". So, naturally, he is going to be jealous of any man that he sees as trying to take his mom away from him. It would be the same situation towards his dad, but since this guy is somewhat new, he feels extra threatened. Some kids have it worse than others. Freud explains it in his crazy ways. I believe being mother to son its the Orphelia complex . Don't quote me on it, but its all psychology.

Eventually, this behavior should pass. It may help to have the two do things together. Maybe go to a museum or something. That will give you some time alone to relax and give the boys some bonding time. Maybe your son will see that your boyfriend isnt so bad and that he isn't trying to compete with him.

However, depending on the situation with his father, he may be upset and withdrawing. Did he know his father? Does he see him? This may all be upsetting to him. He may think that this new guy is just trying to take over. Try to talk to your son. I know he's two, and getting straight answers from him may be hard, but just talk to him and let him know that you care about his feelings. Then explain to him the things that he does that aren't nice-when he does. Get eye level with him and just explain it.

As for talking with him, a general rule of thumb is only ask a question once. If you ask if twice, children think that they answered it wrong, so they change the answer to see if you approve.

Good luck, and give it some time. If you just moved in, your child is adjusting to a lot of new things. If you need to, give him some mommy time before the baby is here as well. Hope all goes well and congrats with the new baby!

How do I tell me new boyfriend, that I had a kid?


Let me first tell you how impressed I am every time I learn that someone was brave enough, strong enough, and selfless enough to place their child into another family who can give them the very best in life. What a wonderful gift you have provided for your child.

You will always be a parent, but in a different way, so your parenting from afar does not need to come out immediately to the men you date. Once you get to know each other much better you can then gage if this is really going to be a long term relationship - longer than just a few months - if you believe you will be with this guy for a serious relationship then you can share your experience with him when you're ready. It's not necessary to tell everyone about your child early in any relationship and that includes when you meet new females too.

If your child scares men away, then that's a sign that they aren't the right guy for you. This is your history and you can't change your history, so they either have to be okay with it or they shouldn't be in your life.

As far as how to tell someone maybe the best time would be after you decide he's worthy of knowing this about you, but before you decide to have sex with him. Make a plan and practice how you will tell him so you don't chicken out or blow it off like it wasn't a big deal. Just tell him there is something that you experienced in High School that was the best and the most difficult thing you've ever experienced in your life and you feel so close to him now that you think it's time that he knew too. Then just say it, but don't forget to ask him what his thoughts are about what you just told him. His answer will determine if you're staying with him or breaking up with him.

Good luck!

How do I tell my boyfriend?

I'm sorry to hear you're having such a rough time at the moment. You're not alone. I have PTSD myself and I know it can be a complete ***** and also really scary to talk about.

You clearly have a very strong bond with your boyfriend so that's a good start. Obviously it's harder with him not being in the country, but it would be better for you to have the conversation face-to-face if you can. Set aside some time that is convenient for both of you to have a long talk because it will probably be quite emotional for both of you (you, because you'll have to talk about it and him simply because he loves you and doesn't want you to get hurt).
You don't have to tell him if you don't want to and you don't have to give lots of detail. If you feel like the conversation is out of your control, just say "I'm sorry, but I don't feel ready to talk about that yet", and he will understand. Some things will be okay and some things will be difficult, and you need to explain that to him.

Your boyfriend will undoubtedly have lots of questions so make sure you know about any conditions you may have (if you still have PTSD etc) so that you can give him answers that will enable him to help you. The more he knows, the more he can help. Again, if you don't feel ready to talk about it just say so. It's a very personal thing.

I wish you both the best of luck and I hope that things get better soon. :)

How do I tell my new boyfriend I have genital hsv1?

That's tough.
Honestly, there isn't a certain way to tell him. I think you should just be upfront with your boyfriend - and if he leaves you, well, you can't stop him. How do you expect him to react, anyhow? Did you think he'd still be willing and accepting of you even though you chose to have unprotected sex despite your ex having contracted an STD? It was foolish for both of you to engage in unprotected sex.

Be honest with him - nothing less, nothing more. What else can you say? It'd be worse to not tell him and keep having unprotected sex with him. Lying isn't going to solve anything; the guilt may eat you alive and you'll regret it later.

How do I get my ex boyfriend to respond to my texts?

Have you lost your ex, and are now asking for help on "how to get my ex back when he's moved on'? Don't bother moping, because what you have lost does not mean you have lost it forever. Here are some quick and simple tips for learning how to get your ex back even if he has moved on to another woman and no longer appears to be interested in associating with you. Learn here

1 - One of the most advantageous things that you can do is simply to be his friend. Make a really good friend to him, showing him that you understand him and that you can be around him without creating any drama. Show him that you can joke around with him and have a healthy friendship with him. When the drama and stress of the relationship and breakup have subsided, he may realize that he wants you again.

2 - The first step to getting the man of your dreams back is finding a way to convince him that he still wants you. Unless he really, really does not want anything to do with you, then there are a number of options that you can employ from this point on.

3 - When you communicate with your ex boyfriend, be sweet and kind to him but don't be afraid to have a little bit of attitude. You are going to want him to want you, but you're also going to want to give him the feeling that he cannot have you just yet. While playing games is not the best way to go, you do not want give an air of hard to get, making him more interested in the process.

4 - You should be playing a little bit hard to get, but you also want to make sure that he knows you are available. You shouldn't completely rule out the concept of flirting and hanging out with friends, because drumming up a little bit of jealousy never hurt anyone - But it is important that you play it safe because if he doesn't think you are available, he probably will not find the motivation to pursue you.

5 - Avoid acting desperate at all costs. If you act desperate, your ex boyfriend will under estimate you. You are going to want to play things cool, letting him know that you are okay with everything that has happened, and that you are willing to move on. If you act desperate, things won't work out the way you are intending them to, so avoid doing this at all costs.

How do I deal with the childish behavior of my ex boyfriend?

Hey everyone. My ex of 2 years and I have been broken up for little more than 6 months. The breakup wasn't bad, but sudden. He threw me the old excuse, "It's been a long time coming, and I'm holding you back from what you really want to do." (aka the new girlfriend excuse, right ladies? lol!) So I was really kinda torn up about it and I told him civilly, and he apologized. I asked if we could still be friends, he said yes, in about a month to mull over our feelings, and we went our seperate ways. Very mature, graceful, and sensible, right?

Well, things started to change. He deleted me off of Facebook suddenly, and I was kind of weirded out, but okay. He apparently no longer wanted to talk to me, so I texted him to see if I could get my things back. No reply. Again a day later. No reply. Repeat. No reply. I had to call his MOM to get my things back, and she got them back to me promptly. I mean, he must've knew.

Now for the kicker. I went in to his mom's restaurant the other day with my mom just to say hi and chat because we both get along great, and I saw my ex there. I was surprised, because I was home from college and I didn't expect him to be too. He knew I was there because his mom greeted us within earshot, and I was about to say hi to him too until he walked by with a plate of food and my mom said, "Hey, Jared!" And guess what? He gave her a side glance and walked right on by. I could've slapped him. Then, he hid in the back and washed dishes when he was supposed to be serving the entire time we were there! (I know, because I used to work there with them, lol.)

I know it shouldn't bother me, but to disrespect my mom like that and be so childish he can't even do his job? And not having one bit of respect to give me back my things when I asked for them? I keep replaying it over and over and it irritates me so much. And replaying the things he did when we were together, like accuse me of being an alcoholic when I would see my girlfriends on the weekends and have a responsible cocktail or two, it's maddening. I know it's none of my business and it's over but it just makes me so mad. Anyone else have a situation like this and how did you deal with it? Thanks!

How do I feel comfortable with my body with my new boyfriend?

A real man and a real lover will never base their love on your breast size. They will base it on your personality, the way you treat them, the way you respect them (and you should also receive the same respect), and the overall compatibility of the relationship.

If your boyfriend loves you, he will love your breasts whether they are 32A or 38DDD. Breast size is a non-factor when a man truly loves a women. Breasts, however, are a bonus and as long as you are intimate with him, you should not deny him the pleasures based on your unfounded insecurities.

There is also a very good chance that he is like me and a lot of other men who are far more attracted to smaller breast which means that granting him access would fulfill one of his deepest fantasies.

I realize that your "boob man" was not mature enough to be in an adult relationship and I realize that high school kids can be very cruel in putting girls down due to their breast size. It does not make their words true in any way, shape or form. It just tells you that they need to grow up and get some sensitivity training. It is not fair to compare your current boyfriend to your ex or anybody else. As I said, if he is like me, he will be extremely attracted to small breasts and you will be denying him a true pleasure if you hold the past against him.

If you look through Yahoo Answers regarding this issue, you will see that there are women who are proud to proclaim that their guys love their small breasts. Having small breasts does not define who you are and it does not mean that nobody will love you (or your breasts). You need to learn to accept that having small breasts is just a fact and remove the emotional aspect that has scarred you. Once you can accept this, you will feel far more confident and happy - and your boyfriend will be grateful, too.

Do not talk to him about your insecurities. Instead, next time you both get intimate, take his hand and lead it your your sexy breasts and allow him full access. If he wants to worship them, don't freak out or deny him - allow him his pleasures. You will likely get pleasure yourself once you realize that your insecurity robbed both of you of this pleasure.

Feel free to email me if you have any concerns. I will be respectful at all times.

I wish you both all the best!