How can I feel happy in any uncomfortable situation?
Let yourself be uncomfortable but don’t let it affect your well-being.Step back in your mind and tell yourself: I am uncomfortable right now, it will pass.Just by doing that you allow yourself to think in a more positive way, getting weight off your shoulders, knowing it is temporary.When the uncomfortable situation will be over, you will appreciate it even more than if you tried to bottle up your discomfort.Simply be mindful. Being happy is a way to live, not a mood.
Uncomfortable situation...husband of friend / acquaintance is hitting on me. Their married, I'm divorced.
I'm in very uncomfortable situation. I have a friend/acquaintance that I visit at a private local book store. We all know each other in the bookstore and are all nice acquaintence friends and often share hugs with our hellos. One woman there is my same age range (50), she has been married one year (she's known him about 6 years), and lately when I go in to the store her husband will also hug me, but lately more closely, a bit longer embrace. He once followed up the hug with a kiss on my cheek, as he saw my friend (his wife) just do that, he seems to want to talk to me a bit longer, lingers in my company . . . once when I was at the counter talking with his wife on the other side, her husband came around to my side and began moving his hand at back of my neck under my hair just a bit...I motioned with my body language for him to stop, he then began moving his hand down my back. I treasure my woman friend's friendship, don't mess with another's guy...how do I handle this situation ?
Why do I feel uncomfortable and nervous in social situations?
Social phobia is a term that i would use to describe your current condition.It happens when you are constantly affected by what is happening in your surroundings. There is a difference between being alert and being on the edge. I am guessing you were bullied as a child, maybe had an embarrassing episode with the public and by public I mean your peers. Its that trauma which has not allowed you to come out and move on.I would advice the following-1. Stop seeking approval or appreciation from people. It will only make you lose your identity.2. Do what you fear the most. If its the Social culture that frightens you, start talking with strangers. Look for a book called "How to talk to anyone, anywhere and anytime" by Larry King.3. Aim to Express and not Impress.4. Stop looking at their faces when you are stressed out, the reactions on people's faces is just a distraction.Goodluck!!
How can I stop being so nervous in social situations?
I had this same problem. First, you have to retrain your mind to stop obsessing over small (and even big) mistakes. Every time you realize that you're thinking about it, think about something else. Changing your physical position (rolling over in bed, or standing up), can help. Try to remember positive things about your social interactions. Remember when you really had the right thing to say, or you had a good conversation with someone. Also, try to see yourself as if you were someone else. If someone else had said what you said, would you have thought they were stupid? Of course not! And no one else thinks that about you. While you're talking to someone, don't worry about what your saying. Just say it. It's only at an extreme that you can go wrong with what you say, and it's very likely that you'll never come close to those extremes (like being offensive). "Think before you speak" actually isn't very good advice. Just say what comes to mind.
How can I stop being quiet and awkward in social situations and be confident and more talkative?
Fellow introvert, I feel for ya.Seems you fall into the more extreme introvert category. The other end is the functional introvert, which is what I call myself. Talking to a bunch of random strangers drains me, but I can do it.Here’s the greatest single piece of advice I can give ya:Other people love to talk about themselves.Ok sweet, this makes it really fucking easy to deal with others then! Since we’re introverted, we also hate to talk about ourselves, right?Awesome, so follow along with me here.You don’t necessarily need to be more talkative. All you have to do is start a conversation with someone with a few simple words, then just hammer the ever living fuck out of them with questions about their job, their life, their views, you name it.But here’s the trick with that: you shouldn’t be asking a random assortment of questions that go off topic after they answer each one. The idea is to build upon what they say.It’s like a game to me now: I listen to what they say, then find something in their answer that I use to ask another question about.So the “talking” that you do is really just asking another question.The confident part? Just keep your attention on them, don’t look past them while they’re looking at you, don’t check your watch, don’t look around you too much. These are all signals you don’t care about the conversation and are checked out.So to recap:How to be more talkative? You don’t, you just pepper the person with question after question based on what they answer with.How to be more confident? Give them your attention. Don’t look distracted. Nothing roasts my goat more than someone who appears checked out when I’m talking to them.Enjoy!