This lady is starting drama at work.. what do I do?
This guy and I, who I also work with, started dating 7 months ago (not anymore) went on a trip together, etc. things were great. Little did I know, that he had just broke it off with a girl (who also works with us) a few weeks before he started dating me. They had been in a 3 year relationship. Anyway, when we got back from our trip, things changed, and he told me he had to figure things out, so I let him be. Well his ex found out that we went on a trip and apparently he cheated on her with me, without me even knowing. We dated for a month, then when she found out, he tried to smooth things over with her. Ever since that happened (7 months ago) I've kept quiet about the situation since they both work with me. Well, he lied to her about me and had asked someone else who works with us. I was mad because I never wanted this out in the open. I haven't confronted him about this for a very long time and we still remain friendly at work even though sometimes it's awkward. Well she found cell phone # & contacted me about it, asking me 20+ questions. Since I was mad at him at the time for trying to talk to her again, I told her about our relationship because I felt bad for her, but I also said I still had feelings for him. I thought he'd get mad after I told her things, but he hasn't change towards me and has been flirting, and staring at me a lot more lately because I heard they fight constantly and I'm the reason why they fight, which is pretty pathetic considering this all happened 7 months ago. Well today, I found out that the girl is telling people about our situation!! I couldn't believe it, you would think she would keep things professional at work, but she's basically trying to make me look like a fool when I did nothing wrong. I'm trying my hardest to hold myself back, but I don't know what to do. Should I confront the guy about this? I feel like I can kind of talk to him, but I don't know if he'll ignore me. I'm sure most of this is because of jealousy, but I don't want everyone knowing at work. Why is she doing this and what should I do?
What is the best way to avoid drama at work?
I work with a bunch of grown azz women ranging from 23-50 that do nothing but start drama and keep it going. I thought one of these ladies was my friend HUGE MISTAKE because all she did was talk about me behind my back. I live in a small town but I am a big city girl and I have never seen anything like this. We are in a professional environment and it's all DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA and the bad thing is that people find ways to involve you. Every since I stopped talking to this lady she has done nothing but try to drag my name through the mud and it's quite sad and beginning to really bother me. Talking to her isn't an option, she be-trade my trust and she knows it because I told her and kept it pushing meaning I never looked back. How do I avoid all this drama? Should I not talk to or confide in anyone? It's hard spending so much time working with people and you can't trust anyone. Never seen so many unhappy people in one place in my life.
Should we stop using the term “educated” to indicate arts or drama degree holders working for McDonald’s?
Usually when people make derogatory statements about artists, it is because they themselves never pursued their artistic ambitions. Almost every hedge fund millionaire, lawyer, tech professional I have ever met has expressed a longing to quit it all and get the band back together. To assume every arts major is working fast food is a woefully uneducated statement. My billionaire ex-landlord/developer wanted to be a drummer. My first lawyer played guitar. The CEO of the multi billion dollar advertising agency I worked at wanted to be a dancer. They all took a safer route and worked hard to make themselves… yet they respected artists and saw them as equals and would never dare take the tone of this question. They had the right idea.Education in the arts is just as important as education in law, tech, finance, etc. One is not “better” then the other. They are different areas of expertise that appeal to people of different talents. (Although people in some groups do tend to look down on artists, which is not cool).Art is just as important to society as legal services, financial services etc.It may be true that the artist’s life is more of a gamble financially. That is not a reflection of an artist’s value at all and does not make the work any less important. Any artist who takes a job to support themselves so they can continue to create art is to be respected, not written off as inferior or less educated. In many cases, they may have a higher intellect even if they have a survival job to support themselves. This question also rules out the countless people that 1) Go on to have successful, lucrative careers in the arts and 2) become successful entrepreneurs incorporating skills honed while earning their arts degrees.Additionally a food service worker should never be written off as uneducated simply for the nature of their job. Eating is a necessity, their services contribute something valuable to society… i.e. providing food and it is impossible to know where they are in their education simply because they are behind a counter. Intellegence and education can not always be determined by job title. I know some brilliant food service workers and some pretty dumb lawyers (and vice versa).
Why can't I stop watching korean drama?
Hehehe!! Join the club, my friend.I started watching Kdramas five years ago. Initially, I watched out of curiosity as most of my friends were then watching Coffee Prince or You Are Beautiful or Boys Over Flowers. Fast forward to next year and a half, my friends had gone back to watching the usual English shows, but I was still stuck to Kdramas. I started following blogs to replace the post-show bonhomie that my friends no longer provided me with. Then, about two years back, my favourite blogger announced her retirement from the world of Kdramas. That was a rude wake-up call for me. I started taking interest in life again, forcefully. My friends were thankfully understanding and my social life went back to being normal. I still watch Kdramas, but in moderation.You can tell if you are a Kdrama addict with the help of these sites:-11 Tell-Tale Signs You're a KDrama-addict9 steps down the road to K-drama addictionHelp, I have a serious addiction problem…On a serious note, if you really want to do something about it, you can-identify the source you get to watch Kdramas from- If it is on netflix, cancel your subscription; if it is on the internet, use parent controls to block the sites you stream it from; if it is a friend/DVD place, just avoid them. Whatever your source, just cut it off.Get meaningfully occupied- Get a job/internship/anything. I assume you have some means to pay your bills. Focus on that. If nothing else, volunteer for a social cause (nothing related to Kdramas!). Get a new hobby- preferably something that requires you to spend time outdoors. One can't watch Kdramas or anything else for that matter when one is exhausted.here are some sites to help with itHow to Stop Watching Kdramas: Self Help for Korean Drama AddictsHow to overcome addiction towards Korean Drama and MoviesIf you still can't get over it, please get professional help. I am chincha serious.
Why am I such a drama queen and how to stop!?
I never thought I was a drama queen. Until I found out through the grapevine my nickname at my last job was "drama queen." My fiance even says I'm being too dramatic from time to time. At work, I keep to myself and don't talk much. The issue at hand is that I am so negative with myself...and I worry about the littlest things! People say I make a big deal out of nothing...but I want to be perfect, and I want things to go very well, I worry about what people say, I worry about if somebody is trying to sabotage me...I worry if I'm not good looking at all...I worry about friends, family, bills...other people say I can't relax. I overthink things....this is so bad that I upset myself. It stemmed from when I was being picked on in school and I had no friends...and I internalized everything. To this day, I don't understand why...but I make myself suffer!! I will be having a good day, and thoughts will turn into something bad and get misconstued to a point where I worry and think..."maybe she meant to sabotage me"...or, "maybe he thinks I'm not as attractive as her." It could be the furthest thing but the truth, but then I manage to get myself to believe it. I am TRULY my own worst enemy. I sabotage myself. PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO HEAL!? Thank you so much!
How do I avoid workplace drama?
It's everywhere. There's almost no avoiding it. Just refuse to engage in that type of conversation and stick to your job. Don't become a recluse by any means, just avoid joining in their gossip. Listen if you have to but avoid commenting. Also hold your tongue when you feel like telling them they're all a bunch of adolescent idiots.
HOW do i cure my k-pop k-drama k-everything ADDICTION?
If the only thing you like about Korea is the Dramas and Music it will fade with time, trust me. How old are you anyways? --- Obsessions are common amongst young people. -- I was obsessed with NSYNC when I was around 11/12 years old. -- But that was an obsession of something superficial. If you grow up and come to know the true culture of Korea, then it may just become part of your life. I've been interested in Korean culture since I was 15 years old, I'm 22 now --- I now live in Korea as a University student and I'm almost done my degree and then I'll be coming to Korea to work as an English teacher. Honestly when I was 15 my parents thought it was a phase, they thought I was trying to learn Korean then but that after a year or so I would drop it. But that was not the case since my passion was true and I did not love Korea because of superficial reasons. Music bands come and go, but if you have a true love for the people, and the culture of Korea -- that is not something which is going away. If you're crying over a band member getting a GF or checking some kpop news site every hour, then yes ... it's a little crazy but young people are crazy about that kind of stuff I guess. If you're 12 years old I can understand it. But if you're 18/19 then ... maybe that's not so healthy. People can love music for the rest of their lives. You can listen to Korean music until the day you die and there's nothing wrong with it. But you're not going to hold onto a love for Korea with just listening to music or watching the dramas and do not appreciate the Korean culture as a whole. The problem is when people mix up Korean culture with Korean Dramas or Music. They fall in love with a false ideal of Korea. Korea is nothing like the Korea you see from dramas or the lifestyles you see of Korean pop stars. Think about it, is America like it is in the movies? Do Americans all live like Paris Hilton? Not all Koreans look like celebrity idols, just as not all Americans look like Hollywood stars. --- Sure, Korean music and dramas hold a place in Korean culture --- but just as much as Hollywood movies hold a place in American society.
How to avoid drama at work?
There is this girl at work who lives around the corner from me and so far I have given her 12 rides. But the 2 times that I didn’t she made a big deal about it and is now telling the rest of my coworkers being very ghetto and aggressive about it..my other coworkers are talking about me behind my back saying things like “that’s sad you guys live around the corner she should always take you”..when I don’t text her back she acts like she wants to fight..at first this girl was cool but now she is putting me in a very high school petty situations..now at work everyone thinks that I’m ghetto and am a problem just because of how she is acting..please help? How to avoid drama?
How do you deal with drama queens in the work place?
I'm so frustrated with my job. There are so many miscommunications and no one wants to discuss things with each other so we're constantly being dragged into meetings to discuss hurt feelings or unravel gossip. What's most disappointing is that all of this drama involves women - the men are never involved. I just want to do my job, but if I'm quiet and keep to myself, then people's feelings get hurt, because I'm not being social. If I'm social, then I risk being pulled into the middle of 'she said, she said' and have to sit in meetings and defend myself. I was sick and on cold medicine and someone told my boss that they had a problem because I wasn't chatty that day - I'm not kidding. This is NUTS! This is so frustrating and it's pointless to quit, because a lot of offices have similar atmospheres. So how do you deal with the drama queens of your office?