When you turn 18 can your parents still boss you around?
Im about to be 17 in a couple months but i cannot stand my parents and their screwed up views about how to parent. Everybody tells me to just wait till im 18 and then ill be free. Is this true? How much control will they still have over me then? I come from a very dysfunctional family where not even therapy was able to fix it.
Why do parents boss around their children?
Because they came to us with nothing, and keep trying to kill themselves. Parenting is the eternal struggling of keeping them 1. Alive, 2. Safe 3. Healthy and 4. Happy.When they are babies that can't sleep on their belly/back/side … depending on when they are born. You absolutely have to ALWAYS put them on their back/belly/side or they'll just stop breathing and die.Then… they don't always swallow correctly so they could choke. And die.Also, they can't have water. Too much water and they drown. But you have to bathe them- where they spend the whole bath trying to drown themselves.Then they start wiggling and try to jump/push off out of your arms - they're like little kamikaze pilots… or lemmings.Also, they like to be bounced, but too much and you'll get “shaken baby syndrome” and they'll die.Then they start crawling- and trying to put everything in their mouth… or the electrical sockets. Everything you own instantly becomes poisonous/ a choking hazard or could crush them to death.Then.. They walk. But just for about 20 minuted before they run … into traffic.Heaven forbid you have animals- if you do, they'll spend the next 3 years trying to love/eat each other.“Stop!” or “be careful” or “don't hit your sister” or “don't bite the dog” are not skills that we, as humans, come with. We have to be taught. Along with literally everything else we know.And that is only a small sampling of the types of things that will kill them. Then there is the next step of worry- all the things that will scar them-Physically or emotionally.And all the contradictory advice! And the worry of everything that has/will/and will continue to go wrong. Are you fast enough? Strong enough? Smart enough?At some point the baby will be All Grown Up, and we continue to worry. Not because the child isn't trustworthy, or smart, or anything like that- just because worry has become a habit that has kept us all alive.
Why do PARENTS boss their children around?
it depends how you look at it. to you it seems parents are "bossing their children around" which I once thought too, but after I got over myself I realized my parents were only trying to teach me right from wrong and instill their values on me. it's not that they're trying to rule your life, they're just trying to discipline and protect you. if you want your parents' respect and "have your own life", then start doing things to earn it and show that they've done their job.
How can I stop my sister from bossing me around?
Just ignore her if she gets annoying. If she nags you to do her homework you should stand up for yourself and stop being treated like a slave! You doing her homework is bad for you and for your sister. It's bad for you because you get pushed around a lot and you need to learn to stick up for yourself It's bad for her because she won't learn anything from it and she needs her education considering she is 16. If she says to you, "Can you lend me some money" You should say something along the lines of " You need to save up your own money! I have earned this money myself and I won't let you get it off me!" This applies if she wants the money to spend it on herself E.G. her bank account, shopping... bye xx
My brother is always bossing me around. How can i stop him?
He Loves you thats why he does it. He wants to make sure your life is on the right track, and your always safe. I wish i had an older brother that did that for me. As you get older, i think he will ease up a bit. He thinks of you as his own daughter. Love him for it, not hate him for it. Your Lucky that you have one more person to love you! Answer Mine? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Al78zD5PoRLnK8pmhvOIbwLsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081117124935AAL7Fi8
How do I make my sister stop Using me and bossing me around?
ordinarily I would not condone violence but if your parents will not do anything about it and talking obviously does not help I must go along with the first responder. Kick her *** one good time and she will stop it. I don't mean argue or anything I mean smack the hot snot out of her when she bosses you around or beat her down if she takes any of your stuff. React immedatly and with force. Do it like you mean it You will probably get in some trouble but you let your parents know exactly why you did it and tell them and her that you WILL do it again the next time she touches any of your stuff becasue she breaks it up and they don't do anything to stop her so now you are going to stop her. Everyone will be upset but you just let it roll off you . It is the price you will have to pay but if you do it right you will never have any sort of trouble with her ever again.
What is the best way to tell people to stop bossing you around?
A definition of bossy is someone who gives people orders and who wants things his/her own way. A person who is always telling others what to do is an example of someone who is bossy.Nobody should boss you around, employer, parent, school teacher. NOBODY.If this is happening to you then I'd suggest that you may need your confidence building up and you should learn to be assertive. Confidence will make you aware of your own strengths and abilities. Assertiveness will give you the power to stand your ground in a quiet positive way. It's a bit like training a dog. You don't bend over and let that dog do what it likes. No. You talk with a firm voice. If the dog wants to slope off you command it back again and again until it submits. You don't need to raise your voice as you would when dog training. Just keep your voice flat. Stay calm. "No. I'm not going to do that because . . . " or "I think there is a better way for us to get this done than for you to boss me around" "I know this has to be done, it's my next job as you know" are some suggestions. Building up your confidence and making you assertive are not that easy but you must start somewhere. See if there is a local course or an online course. Better in a local group because you will have more experience and practice, your tutor will see and help you improve. It can be daunting but you must take enthusiastic positive action to change. So shoulders back and speak with a smile. A smile will usually defuse this sort of situation. Good luck. YOU CAN DO IT. Write a comment or send a message to tell me about your success.
Would it be rude to tell my stepmom to stop bossing me around Because she not my mother?
I'm sixteen Two months ago My dad and stepmom grounded for two months because I was late for curfew they didn't even give me a chance to explain what happened. If they had answered the phone when I called I would have told them that my kick me out of the car and left me on the side of the road. I think they was wrong because that was the first time I was ever late for curfew My ex-boyfriend kick me out of the car because wouldn't have sex with him. I had to call my step brother and I asked him to come and get me. a week later after they grounded me my stepmom told me that my step-brother told her what happened. she asked me why I didn't tell them about it I said because y'all didn't give me a chance y'all just jumped conclusions. She did not unground me because cursed at her the night they grounded me. My stepmom is always on my case about everything especially School it aggravates the crap out of me. My stepmom gets upset because I energy drinks all the time like it's any of her business. She is always telling that energy drinks are bad for me . My stepmom thinks she has a right to know if I'm having sex with my boyfriend which I'm not because I'm not ready for the that and it's none of her business. I don't appreciate my stepmother going through my room and throwing my energy drinks and stacker3 away. Sometimes I just want to tell her to mind her own business and to leave me alone and it stay out of my life but I don't want to be rude or hurt her feelings.