How can I stop talking too much?
In school I talk way too much and it's really annoying and hyper and all over the place. People don't really say anything but I know I'm annoying them. But at home I'm always quiet and minding my own business. So how can I stop talking too much at school? I know that 'keeping my mouth shut' is most obvious answer but I tried and I couldn't. And please don't say that I should 'be myself' and 'embrace who I am' and 'accept myself the way I am' because I'm not the type of person I am in school, my true personality is who I am when I'm not in school. Please answer serious answers or don't answer at all.
How to stop talking so fast?
i talk reaallyy fast too . some of my friends have just learned to deal with it and they understand it . but others are always like WOAH what did you just say ?! so i have to repeat it . . anyways - - if you really wanna stop , then everything you start saying , say it reallly slow like say - - i want to go out to eat tonight < - - fast . . but if you want to stop it then you would need to do it like this i pause want pause to pause go pause out pause to pause eat pause tonight . you need to pause between every word . thats the only way .
How do you stop your mind from talking too much?
Ever hear of the phrase "That which you resist will persist"? Well, then don't be resistant. It's kind of like trying to stop yourself from thinking of a pink elephant, you can't help but rebel and do it anyway. It's a lot easier to give in to the chatter. What you don't want to do is respond or contemplate on the thoughts as they come. It's like what they teach in meditation. Quieting the mind isn't about silencing it, the brain doesn't work like that. It's constantly signaling neurons and interpreting data. You need to instead focus on seeing the incoming thoughts the way you would see a leaf floating past you on a lake. You don't try to analyze the leaf or project any meaning to it. You simply observe it and then let it pass. So if you hear a dog barking, it's easy to get caught up on where the bark is coming from, wonder why the dog is up at this hour, maybe google how owners put a muzzle on it, or maybe you picture yourself dropping a Xanax in its doggy bowl. You could prevent getting sucked in by merely observing the incident by stating "Oh a dog is barking" and then watch that thought float away or imagine the phrase itself fade out. I also find focusing on one task helps. I try to center on my breath coming in and out, or I'll try to say the alphabet backwards. Keeping your mind busy on one task forces it not to get away from you. Hope this helps :)
How can I stop talking so much?
Why do you think your annoying? Do people say that to you? Everyone probably asked you what's wrong because your not being yourself. They don't ask her because she is normally quite. If you talk a lot then that's just who you are. Don't be ashamed and don't try to be someone your not. What's the situation with her? Are her parents around? Do your parents feel like they have to be there for her cause her parents aren't? It's seems to me that you might be trying to be like her cause you might not be getting the right amount of attention from your parents and you think being like her will get you that. If you were my child and you felt like that I would hope you would come to me and have a honest and mature conversation with me about it. I say to have a mature conversation so that they know you seriously feel this way. They might not realize they are making you feel that way. You seem like a good kid. continue below...
How can I learn to stop talking so much?
Being talkitive is all I'm ever known for, people have written it in my yearbooks for cryin' out loud! And I know it bothers pretty much everyone I know, I'm getting pretty sick of it myself! I really want to change, but I don't know how. Can you help me out?
How do I stop talking too much from the heart?
In my experience, most people ‘talk’ to others. They comment about things, complain, gossip, boast and report (repeat things), but when it comes to ‘sharing’ (e.g. Becoming venerable) MOST people have a hard time doing this.‘Talking from your heart’ is sharing and it's precious. It's putting yourself out there and open to rejection. It shows you care about the person you are engaged with regardless of what you are discussing. But because it's so difficult for some people (most people) to do, they often don't know how to respond when they are engaged in conversation with someone who is sharing. Consequently some people may make a joke or change the subject or even react poorly. This is not your fault but I have experienced this many times. They don't know how to deal with venerability because it's foreign to them. Many people live day to day with shallow conversations never allowing themselves the opportunity to have ‘deeper’ conversations.Some people are so far removed from their feelings that they don't know how to get in touch with them.Your question is how can you stop talking so much from the heart? My answer would be don't. BUT know your audience. When it's appropriate, share your feelings, but experience will tell you when it's the right audience and time. Being venerable and sharing your feelings is freeing and catapults your relationships to a different level.As a point of interest I will share with you I was once on a train next to a young man who was one of the best looking human beings I had ever seen. We were traveling from Stockholm, Sweden to Paris, France. I was 21 and he was 25 and he was traveling to enter the Preisthood. It was a two day trip and we talked and shared the ENTIRE trip. Ragnar, ( that was his name ) taught me the ‘gift’ of sharing. We were total strangers and by the end of the trip I knew him better than most people that have ever been in my life. He was nervous about the decision to devote his life to God, yet confident it was what he wanted. His gift to me, teaching me to be open and share my feelings, was one of the greatest gifts of my life. I cried when we parted ways. He did join the preisthood and in a subsequent trip to Paris, I visited him. It was merely a coincidence that our paths crossed, yet he changed my life.Someday your sharing something could change someone's life.
How can I stop myself from talking too much and being loud?
Self awareness (Do I do this?) is the first step and it appears that you are there. Many people have this difficulty and are unaware that it is annoying to most. Next comes self monitoring (Am I doing this now?) and self discipline (“Stop it”). My favorite adage regarding this is, “We are born with two ears and one mouth.”, suggesting that we should listen twice as much as we speak. Not a bad rule of thumb. You will score interpersonal points, by being a good listener.As a rule, people want to tell you their problems or situations more than they want to listen to yours so patience is a virtue in this case. It will take work not just good intentions. Always match the level of your voice to the environment and situation of the conversation. If you operate above the norm you will be labeled loud and obnoxious. I used to get involved in a conversation so much that I would interrupt or try to complete the speaker’s thought, Once, I realized how unwelcome that was, I was able to modify that behavior to acceptable levels (once in a great while).
I talk too much and I'm really loud? How do I stop!!!?
If it truly is a problem, then I would suggest professional help. Nowadays, anything and everything has the possibility to be called a mental disorder. I am not calling you stupid, or anything negative. Rather there has to be a professional who can mentor you to quiet your mind and open your ears. I could easily tell you "just be quiet" or "listen before you speak", etc. But it is like telling a chain-smoker to put down a cigarette and quit. Ironically, words on our behalf can only do so much. Action and professional help is needed. -jg p.s. When I mean professional help, I could mean a shrink, but even they could refer you to alternate methods like yoga, or meditation or some kind of therapy. So don't cringe and think white coats and lab equipment.
How can I stop talking too much? I want to speak less. How can I?
By constantly reminding yourself in any situation the more you reveal and the less you listen/observe, the more likely you are to end up regretting it.To be in the spotlight, or to be admired, noticed, whatever one might see it as, many people feel they must fill in the awkward silences, entertain those present, make other people laugh all the time, etc. When instead I have always noted people who are followed throughout life by those needing to be led, are the strong silent types who speak only after they think. Answering a question as simple as which dealership you purchased your car can be relatively innocent to severely invasive, or even dangerous depending upon who is doing the asking, who is doing the talking, and who is, or might be doing the listening.I hope you're getting what I mean….The other advantage to talking less is learning more. The things I've learned in my short lifetime ! And just by sitting back and listening instead of caring if it was silent or asking myself if I should entertain those present. I will never regret the unavoidably annoying moments I have endured like that to gain the knowledge I have ! It is beyond worth it.My suggestionPlace a thick rubber band on your upper arm, not a tight one that cuts the circulation off or even slightly feels uncomfortable. Make sure it is breast level, along the thin, sensitive skin that runs along your underarm.Now, the very next conversation you are in, practice listening more. Do not listen with the intent to talk. Listen with the intent to actually listen, then think a brief moment before you reply. It will eventually, if practised constantly, become second nature before long. But until then grab that elastic and snap it against the thin sensitive skin on the underarm area to jolt you each time you are about to engage in conversation. Make a simple phrase to go with the pinch like Listen and Silence are both spelt with the same letters.Truly though, you never want to end up in a bad situation where you come up empty handed and it's completely due to you putting your foot into your own mouth.