Advice on moving out at 17...?
okay heres the situation -my dad is a paranoid skitzo -he and my mom have my life hell for the past 16 years -i called the police station and they said i can live independantly at 17 -so im outta here as soon as im 17 and get a car which will be around fall 08 i need advice on getting an apartment that will rent to me, and just advice in general ya know? i plan on saving pretty much every dime i make in the next 10 months and im gonna work a 2nd shift part time job and a 2nd shift full time job in the summer....do u tihnk i could have someone over 18 sign my lease even thought they wont be living there? how would i pull that off? i live in van buren county michigan by the way and im turning 17 on july 7th
When should I tell my parents I’m moving out (sort of like a notice)? I’m 19 and have everything I need to move out.
If you’re on good terms with your parents and they trust your judgment (and you trust theirs), there’s no reason to wait to tell them. They may have some good suggestions or wisdom in dealing with landlords you might not be aware of. They may have some knowledge or access to people with knowledge about where you’re thinking of renting. If you’re all on good terms with each other, they can be an invaluable help in enabling you to leave the nest with the most success. They might even find you a better place for less money - then you’ll have more options than you had before.If you are not on good terms with them, then I wouldn’t personally give them more than a week. Maybe less, depending on how bad things are. If really bad, don’t give them notice, just get gone. As others have said - don’t change your mind or waffle. It’s less critical with supportive parents - but it’s very critical for parent/child relationships that are strained. Supportive parents will recognize that you’re new to all this. Negatively critical parents will take it as proof you’re not ready for the world and undercut your confidence.But at 19 - you’re as ready as you’re going to get. Go out there, make mistakes like every other person does - and learn from them but don’t stress over them.You didn’t say whether you are paying them anything in rent. I don’t think the assumption that you aren’t should be made. If you are paying them some rent and you’re on good terms with them, a month would be fair so they can adjust their own budget accordingly. It is typical for a tenant to give a month’s notice on any move - I see no reason why you should treat your parents worse than you would treat a stranger. This of course presumes you are on good terms with them.Best of luck. None of us were born with any of this knowledge. There will be things you didn’t foresee. That’s ok: none of us have 20/20 foresight.
How should I tell my overprotective mom I'm moving out soon with my 2 friends? I know she won't react well. I'm 20 and I've been planning this since last June.
Here’s how my youngest did it. He left one day without telling me he had plans (unusual and not required by me as he was 20 but it was just a courtesy that we developed). He had said in the past that he and some friends were considering doing this (they were 17 at that time and my son was 19) but I had not heard anything more about it. The other two friends graduated early and one turned 18 right after graduation. By then, my son had just turned 21. When he returned that day I just had the mom-scence that something was up. I said, “You know, I know you guys may be considering moving out and that’s fine but since you are the oldest, please don’t sign anything until dad and I can go over it with you so you are well aware of what you are getting into”. His answer? “Too late”. Two weeks later, he was moved out. Sometimes you have to JUMP. She’ll be okay. It’s a transition for both of you. So, my advice:Do your homework (where to live, discuss with your friends how to split the fees BEFORE you move in, who does what, etc.).Read the contract COMPLETELY before you sign it. If you have questions, ASK until you understand. KNOW YOUR RENTERS RIGHTS!!!Save money. Have a good cushion in case anything happens financially. Make a budget and learn to stick to it.Give your mom a break. Let her help where she can and where you will allow her to. Ask her opinion about things and remember to CALL HER to keep in touch.
Should I tell my parents I'm moving out or not? I'm cutting them off.
The next question do you have job some place to live that you can live there for a long time. Do you have food to eat, a place to wash your cloths, a way to get to work. Do you have everything that you need to move out? There are many things to consider when you get ready to move. Do you still go to school? Do you plan to go to college? I am 61 and now I am taking care of my mom now that my dad is going and mom knows that I am here to take of her now. Me and my wife take turns taking care for her. We come and stay overnight cook meals, and sometimes wash her cloths. Are you the only child and when they get old will you take care of them or just put them in a home someplace and forget all about them. There is a time and place for everything. Most parents try the best they can and they try to help you do better than they had it when they were growing up. Life is what we make it and when we get our own place and then we can make our own rules but do we have to leave mom and dad behind in our lives. No matter what they are still your mom and dad. As they get older you get older too.I think that you should sit down and talk to them that you want to try to live on your own for awhile to see if you really can do it. So this way they get to understand that this is what you really want. The thing is they might not be ready for you to move out and be on your own have you realized that? Some parents can comprehend that the children are old enough to move out on there own. You have to get them a little time to realize that it is time for you to be on your own. I remember when I told dad that I was moving out when I was 22 and dad said mom was not ready for us kids to move out yet. They still wanted to shelter us for everything that life has for us. I guess no matter what we have to learn the hard way that LIFE IS NOT FAIR. So sat down and talk to mom and dad about you move out. Then see what they say about it. You never know they might say can I help you pack.
How to tell my parents I'm moving out? Please help!?
You're right, you are an adult. So have an adult conversation with them. Tell them you'd like to sit down and discuss some important issues with them. Don't sit there and say 'I'm moving because you treat me like a baby!' (even if it's true.) Say, "Mom, Dad, I have decided that I am going to move out and live with my boyfriend. We have found a place that we can afford and I still plan on working and going to school." You can know where to go from there by their reaction. If they start getting mad and yelling, stay calm, answer any questions you can, and remain firm. Tell them you love them, appreciate all they've done for you, and that you hope they trust you enough to go out on your own. That they've raised you well and you've thought this through. (I hope you have, some parents are willing to take their kids back if something unexpected occurs, but others are not.) I'd wait to tell them about the engagement until there is an actual wedding being planned. Moving is the issue right now. If they make the last month or so of you living with them hell, that is their choice. You decide if you feel guilty or not, not your mom. You can tell her 'Mom I'm sorry you feel that way, but this needs to be done.' and let it be. Repeat that if necessary if a conversation about you moving turns into an argument. Also, make sure you're ready for their response. And that you've sat down and drawn up a budget and that you know for sure you can move out. You don't mention how you're paying for school. If your parents were planning on paying for it, don't be surprised if they rescind that offer if you move out. (I just wasn't sure what your situation was or if you were paying for school.) *Edit: You say asking your parents will mean a huge fight. You aren't asking them. You're informing them of your decision and being gracious about everything they've done for you.
I’m 24 & I’m still living with my mom. I’ll be graduating in December 2019 & I'm ready to move out. I need my own space & privacy. What are the cheapest options for me to do so? I have a waitressing job & I’ve got a good bit saved but not enough.
In response to Natasha: if you have nothing nice to say then don’t say anything at all. I am the OP. I have a couple of thousand dollars saved. I have more in cash from tips at work. I live in the US, therefore, Ireland is irrelevant to me. I need privacy and space. My room is small, it’s not just me and my mom here, and I need privacy. I can never get a minute of peace, privacy, or quiet in this house—not even in the bathroom.All I asked for was advice on moving out. I have researched my options, but some of them will quickly exhaust the funds that I have worked so hard to save up, leaving no extra in the event that something were to go wrong. For future reference, don’t be so quick to judge. You know nothing about me or my current living situation, just as you know nothing about other posters on Quora.
Trying to move out of my parent's house as a single mom?
I am 21 year old single parent who has a two year old girl named June :)...I'll try to keep this short and sweet! Bottom line, my parents do not like me very much. I live in their house as of now and my mom helps me tremendously because she loves and adores June very much. Most of the time, living here is fine, but sometimes living here is taking a toll on me. There are days when my parents don't even talk to me, days when they yell at me (for illegitimate and nasty things, i.e. "Why are you looking in the mirror? You can't fix ugly."), or tell me to get out (and leave June behind...) it's just a bad situation. Also, June and I share a room and I feel like she needs more space. I've been dating my boyfriend Hunter for about a year now, and he was talking about maybe getting a place together in July. I'm very serious about this guy, he loves me and it RADIATES that he loves June as if she were his. Even my family says so (although you may say they're sort of invalid...),,, I'm still hesitant though. I am going to school every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday from 9-1 Hunter works 9-6 M-F, I'm sure my mom will be upset if I tell her that I'm leaving (she'll feel like I'm taking the baby away from her) so I think if I asked her to watch June those three times a week she would be happy. But I was thinking maybe June could spend the night at my parent's house Sunday night, Tuesday night, and Thursday night so that I didn't have to wake her up at 6 to take her over there before school? Am I doing the right thing? Does anyone have any advice for this stuff?
Can I move out once I'm seventeen?
I can't answer whether you can legally move out because I'm not from Texas and do not know the laws there. I personally moved out when I was only 15. I'd say if your father is absuive it is best for you to get out of the situation, if you're able to move out, great. If you aren't able to support yourself on your own I'd suggest looking for help.