How do you confront someone who thinks you're stalking him/her?
"confronting" the person would give them all the ammunition they would need to confirm that you are in fact stalking them. If word has gotten to you that someone thinks you're stalking them then the only thing you can do to protect yourself is avoid them like they are radioactive. you only "confront" them if they approach you directly & accuse you of stalking them. at that point you can deny & turn it around on them that if they know where you are at all times then they are in fact stalking you. but uninvited confrontation coming from you just confirms their accusations.
Should you confront someone about something they did years ago? Please Read?
I think your instinct is totally on. Let sleeping dogs lie. Now, how do we stop the propaganda that happened years ago? You have to prove to these people and show them the real you. Your peers must be part elephant, for them to remember and hang on to, 2 year old gossip! Are you sure that someone isn't keeping the gossip alive by some chance? That may be your problem. Any how, talk is cheap. Action speak louder than words. When you go to school Monday, you raise your head high, brush your pearly whites and smile. Make eye contact and start saying hi. If the chance presents itself, do favors or small tasks that could help them out. Waiting this long to try to correct a problem has put you in a bad position. But not a permanent position. Following this simple guide line, you will be alright. As far as your friend, the next time something like this happens, talk to her right away. It sounds like to me, she could be jealous of you, and want you to be her friend alone. But you can change that too. Just include her in with the things you and your new friends will be doing. Now its all left up to you, to take charge and end this once and for all. You go Girrrl.........!
How do you confront someone about something you're not supposed to know?
You should not butt out. You should butt in and help your sister. How did your other sister know? Take the blame entirely off the person who told you. If she's doing this at parties, then other people besides him know about it. Heck, guys around that age talk about their conquests with girls. A lot. There are a lot of places you could have heard about what your sister does. Tell her you heard it from a number of different sources who have seen her at parties, and you wouldn't have believed it except that so many said the same thing. This will drive home for her the idea that what she's doing will affect her reputation because people know about it, as well as keep your friend off the hook.
When confronting someone about cheating, do you think an angry response shows guilt?
Anger often is the first reaction to being confronted, along with strong denial. Someone who is not cheating might initially be confused, wanting to reassure you compassionately, and disappointed in a sad way. If they really are not a cheater and you continue to accuse them, they could get angry. It sounds like you need more reassurance about that letter. Ask him to explain the circumstances to you again and answer all your questions. Ask him why he's held onto that letter for so many years. Trust your instincts. If things don't add up, then unfortunately he probably is cheating on you. Cheaters can be quite defensive and self-righteous in their efforts not to get caught. I would strongly suggest marriage counseling. I stumbled across emails to and from my husband when he suddenly acted strange. I confronted him without mentioning the emails and he looked me straight in the eye and denied it repeatedly....until I told him I'd found the emails. He then downplayed them, because he didn't know which ones I had or what they said. He finally confessed. I always thought he was a really honest guy with lots of integrity. We had been married for 25 years. We've been in counseling for a couple of years now and I still don't have all my questions answered. All I can say is, trust your instincts.
How do you confront someone who said you are irritating?
How do you confront someone who said you are irritating?Irritating, as in they find my entire personality off-putting? I don’t. Confrontations only work if both people are willing to negotiate about specific actions with the hope that they can work something out (“Can I ask you not to whistle when we’re studying? I can’t concentrate and it bugs me.”)If someone finds me irritating, with no hope of compromise or negotiation, I find ways not to be around them, or if that’s difficult, avoid engaging with them whenever possible. Why would I want to irritate someone? Although I disagree that I’m an irritating person, everyone is entitled to their tastes, and I’ve never been a fan of creating discord. I’d much rather give people who appreciate me the honor of my presence.The one exception would be if someone finds me irritating for standing up to them for decency’s sake. I would still avoid being in their airspace if at all possible, but would not hesitate to irritate them at every opportunity.
How would you confront someone that speaks rudely about you in in another language that they think you don't understand?
Respond to them in said language. You don't have to know very much. I dated a man from India in college, and he and a Pakistani friend were always nattering on in Hindi/Urdu in front of me, despite my repeated requests for them not to do so. My boyfriend was not strong enough to stand up for me, and the Pakistani fellow was a jerk. Anyway, I picked up a little Hindi by going to Hindi movies. One day, the Pakistani fellow said something, and I responded in Hindi. He went 8 shades of pale, because he suddenly had no idea how much I understood. They spoke English around me from then on.
How to confront someone who you think stole something?
That is a tough situation. You may want to take some time and see if the ring pops up somewhere. Or you could invite your friend over and place some money on your mom's desk (with your mom + family knowing) to see if the money disappears. You could mention that your mom has lost a special ring and she is depressed because it has sentimental value to her and watch her reaction. You could ask her if she happened to notice a ring when she was at your house because your mom lost hers. You could ask "Did you happen to find or see a ring at my house the other day? My mom lost hers". All in all this situation sucks. I understand how unsettling it is to wonder if you can actually trust someone you consider to be a friend. Life shouldn't be this way. Me, myself, I'd set a trap. My best friend had the same situation when we were younger. I used to go to his house before school and meet up with him (Kevin) and then walk to school. During the a new kid moved in a couple of houses down the street (Mark). Summer was over and it was back to school. We invited Mark to join up with us to walk to school. We all met at Kevin's house because it was the closest to the main road. So one day Kevin says to me "I think Mark is stealing money out of my mom's purse". So the next few days we stuck a couple of dollar bills into his mom's purse (we told Kevin's mom) so they could be seen as you passed by the purse. True enough everyday the dollar bills would be missing. Kevin and I planned out the outcome of this situation. We walked Mark half way to school, tackled him to the ground. I held him down while Kevin beat him into unconsciousness while explaining to him that we know he was stealing money and he should consider himself lucky that we are not going to throw him over the train bridge into an oncoming train. Mark was crying as he was getting pummeled, but it felt good to set him straight and he deserved everything that he received, except for the free money. We left him on the side of the road. Oh ya, Kevin and/or I beat him everyday we saw him for about 3 more months. The fun wore off and we found better things to do.
How can you confront someone if they did something wrong towards you?
ETA: Think about rephrasing this question, rather than say "Someone did something wrong" what really happened is "Someone did something and I felt (blank) about it." Our feelings, disapproval, or approval doesn't make others actions correct or incorrect =)First decide on the best case scenario and focus on that. Also focus on avoiding the word "you", and when you have to use it de-emphasize the word since the word "you" can invoke a defensive response.The phrases "We both want" and "I feel" will help other people see and empathize your point of view. If they think you empathize with them, they will be more likely to empathize with you. People often hate to do something for you, such as give empathy, if they feel we aren't doing it. Another tip to getting people to see that you feel wronged, agree with them. So if you talk about the incident and they respond, "I really want to move on and live in the present, let's just move on." You can use the words we discussed, "We both want to move on and have fun right now. When we talk about what happened the other day, I feel more able to do that" And agree "I can see how you thought to do it that way." and agree "I totally get how you wouldn't know I'd feel this way"They may still naturally be sad or defensive that they were thought to be unkind. Offer reassurance that you hope they don't feel the way you feared. So push your hope for the best case scenario. The phrase "I like to think that you" followed by their best reaction helps. Dig for your own internal emotions separate from their actions What you hope them to say, what would hope to happen? If someone said something that offended you, "When you said that, I felt scared that you didn't like that about me. I like to think that you're okay with me as I am."Demanding an apology is generally ineffective. So finally, the words "What do you think?" gives them the opportunity to make amends, see for themselves that an apology might be in order.
How do you confront someone when you know they are talking about you behind your back when your source told you not to tell them that they told you?
You keep it to yourself.Just thank the source, and take what the source had to say with a grain of salt.You don't know the whole story.We never do..even when we think we might.Think of the Truth as a pancake.Every Pancake has two side. Then there's the batter in the middle…What's that batter made of? Is it dense? Too watery, too sweet, too sour?What kind of pan are you cooking with??What is your environment?How high is the heat?? What are the circumstances?Have you considered every possibility?What kind of tools are you working with?Is the pancake is too lumpy?Smooth things out! Instill in you the right tools to do that effectively.Rather than try to take control over the situation..just listen.Calculate before you make your next move.Is it time to set up a boundary?Why does the source feel a need to gossip? What was the purpose?Pick your battles carefully.Do not waste your energy on things you cannot change, instead, embrace who you want to be.Everyday. Make it a habit.Do not let what the source had to say “upset" you. Simply let it give you something to chew on. If action seriously must be taken, then take action..only after having had mulled over the situation, what the goal is, and consider the outcome before you execute it.Gotta just roll with the punches.Do not automatically make a fool of yourself just bc of what some source says.You have to “test the pancake" for playability, before you swallow, and allow yourself to deal with the consequences of eating said pancake.Swallow. Yes, swallow. That is exactly what you do, is swallow up what someone says..when we allow what they say to automatically control our actions. Do not just swallow up what someone says automatically without doing the research.Investigate. Keep a low profile. Ask questions that get to the heart of the matter, starting by solidifying facts.Once the facts are found, then you can invest more in the why...only if you think the energy spent is well worth it.Otherwise, if the why does not matter..just get the closure you need and move on.