How Do You Get Into The Sociable Funny And Witty

In person, I’m sociable, witty, confident. I can talk comfortably with most people. Online, though, I’m socially awkward. Texting people (even those I know well) makes me feel shy. Why is it so? Isn’t it usually the other way around? I’m 22.

Maybe you’re thinking to hard about what you’re putting into the text or email.The curse/blessing about having access to such an easy and convenient method of communication is that we have AMPLE time to think about what we’re going to say. I mean too much time.try talking as you would in person via text rather than reading the response and re reading the response. Then backspacing and re thinking about another good response you have. There are no backspaces in conversing with someone IRL(In Real Life).Just like this response, sometimes I overthink it. Completely normal. Try going with your first reaction or genuine feeling about what you’ve just read.Good luck! And keep those strengths you listed off on your mind, always! I’m sure they’re true :)

Are people who are witty in text messages usually also witty in real life conversations?

There are 50–50 chances as we humans are quite unpredictable.Someone who might appear funny on texts may be diffident in real life and may want to portray himself as a person he is really not to achieve some social attention. People tend to converse more confidently,expressing feelings,presenting opinions turns cushy when they are not having a face to face interactions.or on the other part he might be normally messaging you. It's just he got that humour or Witt naturally which is being reflected in his texting.

What are some clever tricks or 'hacks' for successful social interaction?

It's so funny that I constantly hear the "don't talk about myself so much and focus on the other person...get to know them more" line, because I have the exact opposite problem. I tend to ask a lot of about the other person, and they tend to not have that much to say, and then I'm stuck in a situation where I'm trying to figure out if I should talk about myself, which is kind of difficult because I've never really "verbalized" my life experiences in my head and figured out how I can present my experiences in an interesting "story-telling" manner, or if I should just stick around and endure the awkward silence between the other party and myself.People tell me a conversation is a balance of exchanges between the other party and I. But at the same time, I have a difficult time talking about myself because I don't really know what to say about myself. I mean I have life experiences, however I don't know how to verbalize those experiences in an interesting way and sometimes all my life experiences just escape my mind as I engage a social encounter.People also tell me that they are certain that I have interesting things to talk about because I've been on the planet for X amount of years. Intellectually, I can see what they are saying is true because I have lived on this planet longer than many people. In addition, I can see that many middle and high schoolers can hold conversations and relate to others better than I can. And chances are that I have more to talk about than a typical teenager. Yet, I'm in this dilemma of not knowing how to hold conversations in social settings or relate to other people in a non-professional and technical manner. Absolutely frustrating...have no idea how I became the way I am.Apologies if I've been ranting about myself for so long, but I'm putting this out there because I'm pretty sure there are others out there who face this very same situation.