Is not attending my co-workers wedding rude?
I work in a small office of about 9 people. I was hired eight months ago with another new guy. We are the only two guys in the office besides for the two owners who don't really socialize with the rest of the employees. The girls in the office obviously had their own cliche before we started, but they haven't exactly been welcoming. Although they are polite (sometimes not) to our faces, they do happy hours after work that we arent invited to, they all chat on google messanger with each other all day, and they generally only talk to each other. (Its as if we have cooties. We are both normal, career oriented guys with girlfriends) It's like I am back in high school. We were both invited to one of the girls weddings. Is it rude not to attend? I don't really know this girl well and I definitely don't want to spend anymore time then I have to with these co-workers, especially outside of work. The other guy said he won't attend if I don't, because he doesn't talk to any of the girls either. I would have no quams with not going, but I don't want it to mess with my job or make my days with these girls anymore unbearable. I could careless what they say behind my back but I don't feel like dealing with attitudes all day. Any help is appreciated.
I'm going to attend a wedding of a girl I love the most what should I do?
Most time when girl sent wedding invitation to her ex boyfriend, that mean she knew you loved her, and she loved you too, but she plan to have a new life now , and want you know she s happy now, like you to have you happy life as her too. If you really love her, go to the wedding , congratulations for her, wish she happy forever, and leave . Move on, to have you new life with someone love you. If you don't think , you could face her peacefully in her wedding, then don't go, or just leave a wedding gift and don't attend the wedding. No matter or what , she just try be nice , only you know what you could do. Good lucky , you will find someone belong to you .
Is it bad that I don't want to attend my own wedding, even if I do wind up getting married?
If you’re serious, yes, it’s definitely bad that you don’t want to attend your own wedding. Although, it may not be as bad as you think. It really depends on the answer to why you don’t want to go.You may just be having a general anxiety that many people experience because it’s such a big event. You may have social anxiety. In other words, your problem could be with the nature of weddings themselves, and not with marrying.This is the distinction you need to make. Are you against getting married or are you against weddings? If the problem is just weddings you’re fine! If the problem is marrying the person you’re engaged to, that’s a huge problem.You need to get to the bottom of these two different things. Is it the wedding ... or is it the marriage.Sincerely,Daniel
I really don't want to go to this wedding...?
Sounds like a bit of jelousy (cause ur not the one getting married) mixed with some baby blues and a bit of insecurity on the side. I'm sure You are the ONLY one that sees yourself as "a random unwed Mom", drop the self acclaimed title and things wiill start looking better instantly. You are a mother to a very special gift from God. That is the best thing any woman can be. I can understand that u feel it should have been you getting married, and I'm sure your day will come soon. In the mean time you have to show your partner what a great spouse you can be. Not only did you bring his child into this world, you are close to his family and therefore must only want the best for them. If she is making HIM happy hope and pray they will be happy for many years to come. Regardless of what you think and feel about this woman,You are there for your partner. Don't stress bout the weight either, everyone knows it tkes 9 months for ur body to be stretched to its max and it takes time get back to your normal self. Put on a black dress, dress it up with some nice jewelery and carry your baby as a proud mother. Put on your brightest smile and mingle with all the guests;) no bad mouthing the bride or anything though! :). Baby blues is not a joke and if you are feeling down and depressed pls speak to your doctor, there are antidepressants that's safe to take during breastfeeding and can even help you lose your baby weight. Good luck!
Do you always have to attend family member's wedding, even you don't want?
Unless you are ill with a contagious disease, or otherwise immobilized, the answer is yes, you DO have to attend.The reason is because you are part of a family, and one of the very important family Rites of Passage is getting married.So you go to the wedding as a witness to the fact that they are indeed married (“I was there, I saw and heard it.” kind of thing).But you also go to celebrate with them and enter into their hope , their commitment to each other, and the promises that they exchange.You wish them well and happiness in the creation of this new union that they have formed, and in essence you become a part of the family cheering section as it were.And those are not bad reasons to go to a wedding.
Do I have to attend my cousin's wedding?
It is up to every adult to decide what to do, when.How do you want to live your life? Are you family-oriented? Because if you are, and your mother's sibling's child (your cousin) is getting married, it may be important to you at some point to please your family and attend a happy family event (like a wedding) so that your parents are happy.If you can't afford transportation to the wedding, and explain that to your parents; if it is important enough to them that you attend the wedding ceremony, they may be able to help you with the costs.As far as a gift goes, I don't understand why money is preferred over, say, monogrammed stationery, embroidered silk pillowcases or some other memento of the day (either of which is probably much less expensive than the amount of $75-100).Really, even though you aren't close to the cousin, you are close to your parents. If it's that important for them to have a happy family event and to be present with you as part of the family, why not attend and be glad with your other family members for the one who is getting married (your cousin)?Sometimes family harmony means doing things for the family requiring some sacrifice of time and/or money. As an adult, it is up to you to decide whether you feel this is an event which you can somehow afford and should not miss. Imagine it is your own wedding -- your parents would hope for everyone to be happy for you, including their siblings and your cousins.TLDR: I'm all for family harmony, but not at the expense of your sanity or if you will go into debt to participate. If you honestly can't afford to make it to the event after discussing it with your parents, and you really don't want to attend, express your regrets by mail, and in a separate package, send along a thoughtful, personal gift (not money) to the bride and groom.
I don't want to go to this wedding with my girlfriend because I don't know anyone and she's a bridesmaid.?
I'm realizing that I won't know anyone at this wedding because I only know the couple and I only know a few groomsmen/ my girlfriend who will also be in the wedding party. They will all be separated at their select tables for the reception. I don't know what to do because I don't think I'll even get to see my girlfriend at all. The wedding is 1.5 hours away from where I live. I don't know anyone and I barely know the couple. How should I handle this? We've talked about this multiple times but she keeps saying she really wants me to be there- but she also doesn't want me to be miserable and not enjoy it. So I don't know what to do and how to approach this. I really want to go to support her but I know I'll be bored and lonely for a good percentage of the reception and wedding as I'll have no one to sit with. Advice?
I don't want to go to my daughter's wedding?
You're incredibly selfish. This is your daughters happy day, and evidently she loves this man enough to marry him despite his poor qualities as you describe them. How cruel you must be to deprive your daughter of your attendance on her wedding day. It's immature and nasty. You don't have to like him nor approve of him, but a daughter needs her father to be there. Who is she going to be thinking of when she's walking down that aisle? You're going to ruin her day, and I hope you can live with that.