Scorpio has abandonment issues?
True Scorpios often say things they don't mean during the heat of an argument (many people do). In this case, though, he is struggling with the hurt that he suffered before (the abandonment) and his fear is making him say things that in a way is protecting him. In other words, if deep inside he's thinking "she's leaving me one day for good", then it's better if it's HIS idea ("if you leave, don't come back"). That at least gives him some control over the situation and most Scorpios need to be in control. I understand your need for a hug and an immediate act of apology but a Scorpio's temper (and pride) has to calm down sometimes before they can offer that and if he feels that he's done nothing really wrong (which you've admitted when you say that he's just being honest) then he feels that he has nothing to apologize for. The best thing to do is to talk to him after everything has calmed down about what he says (I suspect it's more how he says things that starts the argument - they can be so blunt and critical sometimes) that hurts you. But you have to find out what hurts him too, what he wants. He would probably prefer if you stayed there and fought back than walk out. As the Scorpio I know once said, "We can live through an argument. We can't live without each other." I know it's not your nature, though. I don't know your situation-where you live and all that-but when you feel you have to leave, can you just step outside or go and sit in your car or be somewhere where he knows that you haven't actually left? It will help his fear and dark imagination and he might calm down faster. That way, the next time he says "if you leave don't come back" you can just yell back at him if you have to "I'm not leaving. You're not getting rid of me that easily. I'm just stepping outside until I stop feeling so hurt." Yes, I am saying that you're going to have to be the slightly more evolved one here since it's obvious that you both love each other. And if the issue is something small (like him being irritated because you're late), then there are times when swallowing your own pride and apologizing and giving him a kiss and asking him not to be mad at you about that works wonders.
If Bipolar Borderline Personality Disorder people fear abandonment why do they use "splitting" & ignore friend?
Why do people with Bipolar Schizoaffective Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder Ignore? Why do they use their illness as an excuse to manipulate and control others by using the Silent Treatment to Dump and Ignore the people who are closest to them (loved ones, significant others, boyfriends, girlfriends, dating partners)? What I mean by this question is, why do people with borderline personality disorder ignore the person whom they have decided to "hate" and/or "paint black"? Why do they ignore their loved one with whom they have had a one-time falling out with, when the loved one try's so hard to talk to the BPD person to get things solved? It's always one-sided, where the "loved one" seems to be the only one constantly trying to repair the relationship. I've done my research on the disorders, so no need to describe what BPD is like, and no need to use political psycho-babble regarding "codependency." I just want to see if anyone, with or without this disorder, can answer my question on why they ignore the person. Is the ignoring permanent? How many days must go by before it's considered "being dumped?" Finally, please define "splitting"...
Why does everyone abandon me.....?
I've been suffering from abandonment issues for years now. Ever since my brothers death. I've lost so many people... I've done things I regret in my life just to keep the people I care about in my life. For instance sending naked pictures of myself.... I understand that was the wrong thing to do. And he ended up leaving anyway. I havent done it ever since. I've noticed people that I'm close with just stop talking to me. I haven't talked to this one guy in a week or so. So i just texted him. Worried something happened to him. I had texted him about 4 times in the past week. This was our Conversation. Me: Shawn v.v Him: Why do you keep trying? Me: Trying to what? Talk to you?.. Him: Yeh. Me:W-Why? Do you not wanna talk to me anymore?....... Him:I thought I made it clear (I Guess he ment by him not talking to me) Me:What did I do?... Him: Nothing. Me:Why don't you want to talk to me then... Please don't abandon me...I... I'm sorry... Him: Bye Me: Please just tell me why?! Give me enough respect for that! Him: B.y.e Me:Everyone abandons me... Bye Shawn. I'm sorry for anything I did. I trusted you. I liked you. You told me you liked me... I guess not. Bye What... What did I do? I dont know him in real life. I met him online about a month ago. We were fine. Then he just stopped talking and he finally responded today. Hes one of the many people I care about that abandoned me. I can't take it anymore. I miss everyone... They hate me. Whats wrong with me? Am I a horrid person? Am i ugly? What What did I do wrong?!?! I dont understand!!! I have mental break downs as I am now... When someone abandons me. I can't.. I cant do it. I'm a bit attached. But I wasnt very attached with Shawn. I'd text him at least once a day. And He was happy. Till he just stopped texting me.... What Did I do Shawn....
"Don't ever tell anybody anything. If you do, you start missing everybody"- Catcher in the Rye - Meaning?
What does the ending quote to The Catcher in the Rye by JD Salinger mean? "Don't ever tell anybody anything. If you do, you start missing everybody?" I think I have an idea, but ever since I read the book for the first time last year, I haven't been sure as to what Holden means.