How Does One Change Their View Of Love

Did having a child change your view on love?

Absolutely! I was a Christian before having kids, but it made love so much more real… the fact that God gave His only son to die on a cross for my sins. I became more sensitive to others and much more compassionate. I also became more thankful! I was in awe that I could have such intense love and protection from the very first moment.

How can I change my view of the world so that I love life?

The field of positive psychology has some suggestions.  The most reliable is to develop a gratitude habit.  Consistently looking for and reflecting on positive interactions each day correlates to increased happiness.http://www.health.harvard.edu/ne...

Would opening the heart chakra change my views on love?

Life is a reflection of your inner being. Children see life with awe because they're pure and have no set constructs. “Enlightened” people have let go of said constructs and experience bliss because their inner being is simply peace. You can not love someone else unless you love your self first. Once you cultivate your self love by reducing your karmic intake of dead animals you raise you vibration which is eventually the highest form of love. When you meditate you begin to dissolve the illusion of separation and begin to see truths you might not have seen before. You realize that people do wrong because they do not know what they do, so you forgive them and realize that love will always beget higher, more pleasant vibrations. In essence it's a choice to love, but like anything if you practice this love mindset this becomes your dominant thinking pattern, which branches out into other aspects of your reality.Meditating will surely open you up to higher levels of love, and awareness. Now the only problem is sticking to a disciplined meditation routine!

Do you think love can really change a person?

Unconditional love can transform a person in many ways. Love can turn a person who is habitually fearful, anxious, angry, and solemn to someone who is energetic, grateful, compassionate and adventurous. Love is the most powerful energy that I have personally experienced. To me, love is the most true thing. In this way, true love can elevate a person’s experience of life in general because every action they take is guided by a high vibrational frequency.The experience of love is especially transformative for people who experienced trauma during childhood. I believe that much of our personality (and thus ego) is formed in our early years. It is in these early years that we are most vulnerable to the influences of our close family unit. If there is a general lack of support for the developing child during these informative years, you can be certain that any dysfunction in the parents will be passed on to the child. It is only logical that the child develops a similarly warped concept of love and begins to act accordingly as they grow older, continuing the cycle.It is too easy for a child to blame themselves for any friction in the family. Unconsciously, the young child takes on many adult roles. The peacekeeper. The parent. Trying so hard to please others, the young child begins to form a negative view of relationships, trust, and most importantly, themselves. They have made a link between love and pain because in a dysfunctional family unit, love is not unconditional. Every member is out for themselves. Acts of “love” are really acts of manipulation. The child becomes suspicious of other people who attempt to give the child genuine love. Or, the child may seek the genuine love they crave from dangerous sources, reaffirming what they have come to know: that love is pain.But of course, for those who have been blessed with loving family members and an ever growing circle of supportive people it is a different story. People who know the experience of genuine love should be aware of their powers to heal those who have not been so fortunate. The capacity for empathy is great in people who have been loved at an early age. Thus, their ability to give love is also great and is a true gift to people who have yet to experience love.Be love, fellow beings <3NamasteD.Check out my blog for cool motivational content.

Do people change their personality for their loved one?

The short answer is no.Like the others have said, people can’t really significantly change their personality. They can hone certain skills and try to improve themselves, but they will still always be who they are. Further, the choice to make improvements is solely theirs. Nobody can force, coerce, bribe, blackmail, guilt or otherwise try to command change in their partner. That desire and will must come from within.So, your description of your partner paints a picture of a very selfish and self-serving person. It appears to me that he either does not value your relationship to the extent that you do or that he really cannot think outside of himself, in which case, he is incapable of being in a serious relationship.I concur with your friends who state that if he is not making an effort now, he won’t going forward either. Look at it from his perspective. What he’s doing is working, right? He’s got you. And he has his way. Why change anything? It is during this phase of the relationship that people put their best foot forward. Then, as the relationship progresses, you get to see the “other foot” - ugly warts and all. If this is his best foot, I can’t imagine his “other foot.”One last point, which may not at all apply to you and your situation:Sometimes people do appear to change personalities. The emphasis is on the word “appear.” There are some people who put on a good “show” during the courting phase of a relationship, just to “hook” you. And once you bite, and are committed, they suddenly and radically “change.” Their personality didn’t really change. They’ve just stopped making an effort to look like someone that they’re not. They caught their fish. The fish is theirs. The show is over. And now, they reveal their true personalities. And it’s not good.So, yes, in a way, people can and do “change” their personality “for” a loved one. But usually, it is done for selfish reasons and can never be sustained over the long term, because it is not their true personality. These people put on their best face to catch you, but once you’re theirs, the mask is off. And the true face underneath is not so pretty.So, I agree with your friends. If there is no effort now, there never will be.Best of luck to you.

How does love change as a relationship grows older?

It is not only the relationship that is growing older, but the people involved who are also growing older, and changing, hopefully for the better, in terms of maturity.Perhaps I can clarify my point if you will allow me to use the words 'love' and 'commitment' interchangeably here.Have you ever known a man (for instance) who served in the military and spent time in the trenches with other men on whom his very life depended?  The bond he forms with these men can be phenomenal.  And last for life time and beyond.  After the war is over none of them are the same, but that doesn't matter to the commitment that has been formed.This is the kind of love we all want.When a man and a woman begin a relationship with a commitment bond and go through life together, facing what must be faced, having each others 'back', sharing what may be their last cigarette (figuratively), a bond is formed and strengthened that can meet and overcome anything in life.  And it is a beautiful thing.In many ways more beautiful than that first 'blush' of love that was so much defined by the excitement of physical pleasure and discovery and passion.  While these elements may wane, they need not disappear but, hopefully, evolve into a love that knows no bounds.

How do we teach children to love change?

Don’t try to teach them. Create an atmosphere where they will have positive experiences with change. Give them the opportunity to decide how they feel about change. Don’t create an agenda to get them to change their view.(While the intent, I presume, is so they’re less stressed by change. But imagine for a moment if your spouse were asking, “How can I get my spouse to love soccer?” While the intent might be wanting to share a common interest, there’s an underlying message of, “I don’t like you as you are. I need you to change.” Again, that’s not the intent. But anytime we desire someone to change, even when we believe it would benefit them, there’s the subtle message that we’d like them better if they were different.)Listen to what bothers them. You don’t need to agree with them in order to offer your understanding. Take those concerns into consideration whenever there’s change.Respect that they’re different people. Share and draw them out about the good that’s in an upcoming change. Be understanding about their trepidation.Transitions might be helpful. It might inspire some ideas for other types of changes. Also How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk byAdele Faber, Elaine Mazlish. It’s a very easy read.