What changes when you get married?
If you don't watch out, this will happen: 1. Freedom to date (including dates with your spouse) 2. Sex wanes 3. Your pecs turn into moobs 4. Your breasts turn into soccer balls 5. Possibility of spawning a brood of cute cuddly rug rats 6. Responsibility vs irresponsibility 7. Noticing how your hairs turn gray faster. 8. Matching checkbook covers 9. Answering machine talks about Mr and Mrs. or you get xmas cards addressed to your wife and you, in that order. 10. Pets are a mutual choice 11. Cars are a mutual choice 12. Those neat hobbies like skydiving, mountain climbing, and rock climbing have to be abandoned. 13. You find out you're nickname at work is "Paunch" or "Gallon Butt" 14. You realize that you can't go drinking at all hours of the day and night because your spouse is waiting for you and ... angry 15. Variety is no longer the spice of life But ..... And seriously, nothing unless you let each other devolve into 1 through 15 above. So if you want things to get better, you have to focus on each other, work on fulfilling each other's needs and curiosities. Spice things up. Shake things up. Go do things together. Have regularly scheduled, wild, sweaty sex. Things like that.
How has the world changed since you were a child?
oh yeah... woman are allowed to vote and wear pants.
How has your life changed since you started writing a novel?
Well, in the nine months and some change since I’ve started my first novel, I’ve discovered-There Is An Amazing Amount Of Stuff On The Internet. And some of it is even relevant to your needs. I think I’ve become a pretty kick-ass Internet researcher at this point, as I’ve learned more about the New York and New Jersey area, Catholic high schools, female relationships and dynamics, and very sharp pointy objects than I’d care to think about.NOBODY Wants To Talk To You About Your Novel.Until it’s done, that is.Call it the “little red hen” issue-nobody wants to be there with you in the process, but they will all love to see the final results. And, if you’re like me and need some feed back to be sure you haven’t done something stupid, you’ll wander off that cliff on your own happy lonesome…It’s All A Deep End.You ultimately have only yourself as a boss. You’re ultimately the only one responsible for your time, your labor, and justifying what you put down onto paper. You are, for all intents and purposes, your only manager, your only employee, and your only customer.It is lonely as (YAY!), it is scary as (YAY!), but it is strangely satisfying.You Learn Your Writing Quirks.And, oh boy, do you learn to hate them. I’ve gone through the story at least once hunting for “said,” if only to find a better word to use.You Learn More About People.People do things for reasons that they think are entirely valid. Even if it is only in the heat of the moment. Even if it only makes sense to the octopus in their brain. They have a reason for doing it, and that reason might be as well thought out as every line of the Declaration of Independence or built upon the last straw of years of abuse. There’s a reason. Somewhere, and if you look hard enough, you can find it.Oh, and finally-Write. Or Your Brain Will Hate You.I have to put down about a thousand words a day. Or, something in my head will keep me awake, make me think about characters, think about the stories that come next and before (dear God, I have to write that short story about the last few Thule Society magische weibliche Soldaten fighting with the NKVD Рабкрин магические воины-дамы in the ruins of Berlin, and what leads them to the end where they all defect to Switzerland)…But…It’s all worth while when you print out about eight hundred pages of 12-pt Ariel text to start going at it with a red pen.
How has your life changed since a year ago?
A year ago, I was a cocky, spoilt, self absorbed asshole. I was extremely overconfident and looked down on others. I judged every single person who didn't have a “huge goal” they wanted to accomplish. I remember this conversation I had with my friend,Me: So I am going to accomplish so and so in five years. I have it all planned out. Can't wait to start college and work towards my goal. What about you?Her: um…I currently have no goals. I don't exactly know what to do with my life.This was followed by a comfortable silence. The rest of the day I was busy judging her for how she is not “living” her life and how she is irresponsible and wasting away her precious life.So now, I'll let you in on a secret. Wanna know what?I screwed up my exams badly after a few months I'd had that conversation. Dropped a year. For the first few months, I was so caught up in thinking how much of a failure I am, that I became the worst version of myself but then later, as the days passed I became more humble and understanding. There were many, many failures that followed but I could deal with them just fine. There were so many comments thrown at me and guess what!? I dealt with them so well. They didn't even bother me anymore like they used to.So, what do you wanna do with your life now, You ask?My answer: I DON'T KNOW!Not even in my wildest dreams did I ever think that I'd end up in this situation. Dropping a year changed so much in me. I understood a lot of things about life and reality. I became stronger but humble. The best thing of all was that I found myself! Failure can teach you so many things. I spent hours over planning my life, if only I knew life had a different plan for me. I'm starting college in a few days and I can't wait. But anyways, here I am.
How has learning economics changed your life?
I only buy goods which give me the highest form of satisfaction.I never buy the second or the third cake, chips, milkshake etc due to the law of diminishing returns.I have come to realize that if you want to get paid better, you don't need an ivy league degree. Learn a skill that is of the highest demand in the market and people will come to you. Higher demand and lower supply causes the price to go higher.I have come to realize that demand and supply is not just in consumer products. You and I and every person on this planet has a demand and supply scale on the top of our heads. If people come to you or leave you, it is because of the changes in the demand and supply of their needs and wants, be it a relationship, friendship or a physical need.A recent a survey was conducted saying that women didn't mind if their partner didn't have six pack abs. The reason is that six pack abs are in abundance, hence the novelty of seeing and touching them wore off. The demand for six pack abs which was higher 10- 15 years ago has been meet with the numerous gyms and Instagram selfies.
Is it alright for a 13 year old to write erotic stories?
Do what you want. It's not weird it's human. I'm a guy, and despite how I come off I'm not nerdy in real life. If my girlfriend wrote erotic stories I wouldn't care.
DCF success stories?
I worked for CT DCF for about 15 years before retiring. I was a specialist in emergency services (director of the first statewide child abuse hot line in the country), assistant to three directors of Protective Services, double-certification in sexual abuse counseling, director of the state's subsidized adoptions program. I shudder every time we appear in the newspaper, because it is always bad news about an agency that is under-staffed, under-funded, and constantly under the gun. DCF can do no right. Every time a child dies (and some do die from the abuse of parents, boy-friends, other family members, etc.) some social work is blamed for not living in the home 24/7, not having magic powers, not know enough to remove the child before the child died, and so on. You want to be a DCF worker? Make sure you develop a thick skin for criticism by the public, which has NO IDEA what it takes to protect the children of an entire state. But make sure your heart is beating, because you'll need that to in dealing with so many awful circumstances, and having neither the time or the resources to do as much as you want to. Good luck with this... -- Dr. Bob