When should a child move out of their parents’ house?
By answering this question I’m gonna assume your between the age of 18–25?I believe there is stigma in America for moving out at 18. False.You should move out of your parents house when you feel ready to move out.But that’s the tough part.When you feel ready doesn’t mean waiting till 36 and feeling like now is the good time. Feeling ready is when you have some-what of a stable income and can provide for yourself (for the most part).Moving out when you feel ready does not mean leaving when you have a long period of feeling comfortable. I suggest leaving home the moment before you begin getting too comfortable.I personally believe the sooner you can financially leave the better for two particular reasons:You’ll learn to become more independent.You’ll taste the real-world and be consumed by daily challenges.My kids technically moved out at age 17/18 for college, but they moved back in after school and stayed still they were between 22 to 26 (I have 5 kids).My husband and I didn’t put any pressure on them, but we made sure they found a job, and started saving some sort of income so that when they were ready to move on, they’d be able to.BUT…If your not going to college and simply want to “grind” and work 24/7, you get a long with your parents, and you don’t feel restricted living at home, then by all means, stay at home till when ever.You’ll save a TON of money that you could be spending on more important things, like your first house!Once you have a sufficient amount of income saved, rent an apartment. This could be at age 23 or even 27. It all depends on the situation.
Too much to charge for babysitting? $3/hr per 2or less kids plus $2/hr in addition per kid after that?
Wow! I don't know where you live, but that is cheap, cheap, cheap! I live in New England. I have three children 3, 6 and 9. We pay $10.00 per hour. If we hire the babysitter for an all day event such as a wedding, etc. we pay $12.00. Friends of ours who live in another part of the state pay $15.00 per hour during the week and $20.00 per hour on the weekends! I would definitely request a raise. You are watching very young children who require constant attention. In addition you are watching the other children. That's crazy! The parents should be happy that their kids are in good hands when they are away from home and pay you accordingly. Good Luck!
Does anyone here have children or siblings with an enormous age gap between them?
My stepmother is 10 weeks pregnant, and we're absolutely elated about a new addition to the family even though our situation is a bit unique. My mom and stepfather have four children plus I have a stepbrother on that side of the family, so I do already have siblings, but I'm my dad's only child right now. I'll be 18 when the baby is born. I hope they'll have even more in the future, so I could wind up being in my 20s with new siblings. My only sadness about it is that I'm not going to get to be as much of a part of their lives since I'll be grown and gone. What do you the advantages and disadvantages of a huge gap? Do you think you'd be a really different parent with the second one? My dad will be 47 when the baby is born. He's not that old-seeming, though. He's super athletic and not dorky, so it's really not gross that he'll be a dad again at that age. Some people think it is, but it's not at all. My friends have said that he seems more like my stepmom's age -35 than in his 40s. But I do definitely think he's changed since when I was born.
If a 6 year old boy molests his 5 year old cousin, is it considered sexual abuse?
It means that the 6 yr old has most likely been molested, so there is sexual abuse going on somewhere? I don't think a 6 yr old is capable of understanding the act of rape of molestation, and would again be just acting out what was done to them. So no...not abuse by the 6yr old
How much should I charge?
I used to babysit my sister in laws children (3 of them). She insisted that I get payed. I felt really uncomfortable about this but at the end of the day, if I were working somewhere else, I would be getting paid. Usually when you are staying overnight as a babysitter, you are paid as a lump sum and every hour is not counted. For a day plus night, I used to charge around AUD$120 per day, if the parents were going away for the week. It's hard, I understand, but don't get into any issues either of you. Money issues can cause so many problems in families, good friends.. -- By the way, you shouldn't be supplying all the daily necessities for the children, that is normally up to the parent/s. I say keep receipts for all expenses paid for the kids, so you can be reinbursed.
My boyfriend’s really mad at me because I got high around my cousins (ages 9 and 11). He said that was irresponsible of me, and that he’s not sure whether he wants to have kids with me. Is he overreacting?
Nope, if you’re unable to appreciate HOW inappropriate you behaviour was I am surprised your boy-friend is still with you.When you are high you are incapable of reacting to situations in an emergency, if one of the children had fallen and cut their head open or broken an arm, what would you have done - remember you were high - you probably wouldn’t have even have recognised something was wrong - and if an artery had been nicked the child could have bled out before you were aware there was a serious problem.And then the other issue - you had drugs where a 9 year old and an 11 year old were, what if they had got hold of them and taken them - they could be DEAD because you had to have them in the house while you were babysitting.Drugs are for idiots so what does that make you?When I was 14 or 15 we were having a big family party, most of the adults were having a drink or two and one uncle was drinking straight scotch, he’d had a two or three but that was normal and he wasn’t driving so no-one was too worried. One of his daughter’s had a new baby who was about 7 weeks old, I was getting to look after him (he was her third or fourth and she knew I was good with babies), she was going to heat up a bottle for me to give him and we gave him to his granddad to hold for a couple of minutes while I got his change bag and got the bottle and everything else (because he definitely needed to be changed). We could hear him really screaming on his granddad’s lap and the bottle was nearly ready so I went to get him - only to find my uncle pouring neat scotch down him - no wonder he was bawling, but my uncle didn’t think it was a problem even though he’d got most of a fresh drink down this tiny baby - my uncle just laughed and said, it didn’t hurt his mother when SHE was teething - ��that’s because you only rubbed a little on her gums - she never DRANK the stuff and besides he’s not TEETHING he’s HUNGRY (which is why he’d actually swallowed the stuff)” but my uncle’s judgement was impaired because he’d had a few drinks. Years later he still thought of it as a great joke - but I never trusted him with a child when he’d had a drink or two in him.How much more impaired were you when you were high and what damage to those children COULD you have done without even knowing it?
I'm getting paid $25 a day to babysit a 2 and 4 year old for ten hours.?
In the summer, I will have their older brother as well. What is a fair price to ask for babysitting this many children for ten hours a day? We live in a very small town (no stoplight, just a flasher, lol). I want to know either what you currently pay in childcare or what you currently charge and what size of a city do you live in. Also, the 4 year old has behavioral problems and the 2 year old is not potty trained. I want to know if anyone has ever been charged more per day because your child needed more from the provider, and if so, how much more. I really appreciate your help. I want to provide loving and good care for these kids, but since its requiring so much more than I expected, I want to be paid fairly.
Would you let your 7 or 8 year old kid watch "Jaws"?
Okay - well, I can somewhat see why the generations are coming up the way they are. First, my son is mature enough to handle it but there are some things I just don't think a child should see at that age. Second - to the person who took their 5 year old to see "Pirates of the Carribean". I went to see that on Friday and was SHOCKED at how many little kids were there and I sat there thinking what idiots their parents were. It's not really the fact of nightmares per say, but "Pirates" is a violent film and while it may not scare them, it only shows that guns and whatnot can solve problems or so it would seem. And since it is fantasy it probably makes guns and violence seem less horrible than it is in real life and as they get older it will have an effect on them. Boy - I'm no perfect parent but most parents these days are morons it seems.