I'm not a loser, but why do I feel like one?
You’re conflating two issues. You don’t feel like a loser because you are a loser, you feel like a loser because you feel like a loser.People can and do feel like a great winner while suffering soul crushing defeat. People can and do feel like a loser when they are winning the highest honors.You might want to check and see if you really want to be a winner. Given my background, I knew at a very deep level that success is dangerous. You may have the same belief.If you do indeed want to feel like a winner, then check to be sure you are taking care of the basics - do you get enough sleep? Do you get enough vitamin D?Do you feel that you are of service to someone or something?It sounds like you are doing want you want, studying law, and that you have good friends. All good. Keep up the good work.But don’t expect to feel like a winner just because you are winning. Feelings are more complicated than that.
My "friend" is a total loser.?
Okay, so me and my friends are the typical "in" crowd. We get invited to the parties. Can have conversations with just about everyone, etc. But there's this really tall anf chunky girl who just decided to tag along. She's always trying to be our friend even though we keep avoiding her and pushing her away. We tried once to tell that we weren't her friend but she just came back!! I REALLY want to get rid of her without being too mean....and ideas? We're in the 7th grade and want 2 get rid of her before the school year is over (june 27). She's really shy and doesn't ever talk and at the lunch table, all she talks about is her babay brother and her dog. She wouldn't have any friends if we kicked her to the curb. And she's all of the "lower" classes if you know what i mean.
I feel like I am a total loser and ashamed of myself, what should I do?
One feels loser for himself/herself when the result of something doesn't seems to please them or people around you make you feel dominant… so get one thing crystal clear that don't listen anyone's opinion for yourself except your inner voice… inner voice is always correct and true, but sometimes it also us who fool ourselves, by not accepting or listening to our inner voice.If you feel ashamed of yourself just ask that does it really worth your guilty. Here also your inner voice will help you. That voice will guide you to the right path.I understand sometimes it's our closest one who make you feel such stupid things about yourself, but Hey! Watch out world is a beautiful place to live in…. It's just when it seems to be ugly it's because of the people around you and sometimes because of your over thinking or some other your own behaviour or the way you see the world. Simply try to look this beautiful world with some positive way, a different way…! Sometimes changes are good for you even if it's about peolpe around you…! (Except parents)
How do I not feel depressed about being a loser?
The first thing you can do is to stop calling yourself a loser. You’re not. You’re just a person, with different strengths and weaknesses, just like every one else on earth. You mention you’re studying computer science at college. This is a positive real achievement. Give yourself some credit for it :)You also say that you’re always trying to learn. Congratulations. You have already developed a skill, that will benefit you for the rest of your life.The second thing you can do is stop comparing yourself to others. It’s pointless. You will always meet people who are better at some things and worse at others. If you compare yourself, you will always almost, do so in a negative way.Everybody has problems in their life. But, in general we present the best of ourselves, when we engage with others. Do you know how many people are secretly desperately unhappy? Have you ever heard of a supposedly perfect couple breaking up? Have you ever heard of a famous person being treated for depression, despite seeming to “have it all”? My point is, unless you’re extremely close with all those people who “do everything better than you”, you cannot possibly know the challenges and difficulties they are facing.The third thing you can do is seek help for feeling this way. Is there a counselor in your college that you can see? Is there a support group for students who feel like they’re struggling? Is there a therapist you can afford to see if not?Good luck. Be kind to yourself.
21, never dated/had a girlfriend - feel like a total loser?
Hey i was just wondering what girls think of a 21 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend or dated (yes, a virgin aswell), do you consider it pathetic? I dunno im a sweet guy, i'd dare say attractive, im just a lil shy, i guess it's true what they say: nice guys do finish last :( And please dont go with the cliches like *theres someone for everyone* *you'll find her when you least expect it*.I mean I'm 21 years old so i think my time should've come already, i mean it's not unreasonable to think that is it? No im not saying i should've met my wife by this time or anything, just saying i shouldve had SOME sort of experience, just makes me feel like theres something wrong with me, and has even gotten me to think about using a prostitute just to get the virginity out of the way since its not even about me wanting to wait for "that special someone" if this continues any longer i think im gonna get a hooker or something. Just feels like im a loser and theres something wrong with me but i cant quite point out what. :( I mean its not like im suicidal or anything but its gotten me to the verge of tears feeling like there's something profoundly wrong with me :( And please, not a single answer with anything like "god has a plan for you" or i'll vomit, no offence religious peeps xx
20, Never dated/had a girlfriend, feel like a total loser?
Hey i was just wondering what girls think of a 20 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend or dated (yes, a virgin aswell), do you consider it pathetic? I dunno im a sweet guy, i'd dare say attractive, im just a lil shy, i guess it's true what they say: nice guys do finish last :( And please dont go with the cliches like *theres someone for everyone* *you'll find her when you least expect it*.I mean I'm 20 years old so i think my time should've come already, i mean it's not unreasonable to think that is it? No im not saying i should've met my wife by this time or anything, just saying i shouldve had SOME sort of experience, just makes me feel like theres something wrong with me, and has even gotten me to think about using a prostitute just to get the virginity out of the way since its not even about me wanting to wait for "that special someone" if this continues any longer i think im gonna settle with any girl that shows any kind of intrest lol. Just feels like im a loser and theres something wrong with me but i cant quite point out what. :( I mean its not like im suicidal or anything but its gotten me to the verge of tears feeling like there's something profoundly wrong with me :( And please, not a single answer with anything like "god has a plan for you" or i'll vomit, no offence religious peeps xx
Am I a loser for not having a girlfriend?
I don't even think this sounds like a question. You are not a loser. You just seem to have A LOT of self esteem issuse. I know some great guys back in high school that never dated anyone and was very quiet and shy. You just need to start hanging out with more people. I liked the first guys answer, go to college, you meet so many great people, you're bound to eventually find someone. The gym might not be a bad idea either, I'm a decent looking guy but I'm only confident in myself if I feel good about your body. It takes a lot of failure to end up as a 40 year old virgin, don't worry, be confident and you'll be fine. =)