How Should I Address This Sitaution

How do I address the situation that I am in with a friend?

Like, really? You can ask "How do I address the situation that I am in with a friend?", leave the details blank and not even tell us what the situation is so we can make proper fun of it?The answer to your question and to thousands of others here on Quora is:Talk to [him|her|them|it]. Treat [him|her|them|it] like [a] human being[s] (well, maybe not the last one).

Another NPD was gaslighting me. I tried to address the situation directly with him and even reached out to his friends and his girlfriend -- no dice. So I kicked his ass. That worked like a charm. Should I have 'felt his pain' instead?

Narcissists are the biggest cowards ever from my experience. I've never heard of a narcissist manipulating someone capable of kicking their ass male/female narcissist ESPECIALLY males. Their ALL cowards who push limits and test people. I guess this time the narcissist learned its lesson.Don't believe me? Take a look at the answer (Aiden)who's narcissist wrote below. It's evident (Aiden) is in complete shock when his fellow narc brother wasn't able to escape the consequences of manipulating someone which is the norm for narcissist. And in return this person probably grew tired of giving the narc chances decided it was time to lay hands on the delusional "Devil".(Here's what Aiden said)"So wait, let me get this straight. You were being gaslighted, got pissed off, lost control, and got physically violent. A bigger shock is how a few individuals are praising you for “doing the right thing.” The only time someone should use physical violence is if they are in immediate danger. Any other situation seems way too much of a stretch to justify using violence to solve the problem."

How does one maturely address the situation where a girl expects you to pay for everything (assuming both of you live in NYC and are pretty secular professionals)?

I generally dealt with this by insisting that they pay for the entertainment of their choice. No matter how close your tastes are, there are going to be things that she suggests you do. In these cases, let her know that you're fine with doing them as long as she pays. This allows you to budget what you're willing to pay for, and gives her an opportunity to be more of an equal contributor in the finances of the relationship.This policy eventually resulted in me only dating women who were at least marginally self sufficient. The perpetually struggling types often had difficulty connecting the effort of income to the entertainment expenses and had perpetually escalating "satisfaction costs".From Bogdan W Caprita:My question is how do you bring this up without coming across as "cheap", "ungentlemanly," "obnoxious"? thanks"Sure we can do that. Are you paying?" or "That's a little outside of my budget. You wanna chip in?" or "That's kind of expensive, I'll go halvzies with ya..."Negative reactions are generally a defensive measure because you're accusing her of not carrying her weight. If she never wants to pay for anything, then she isn't carrying her weight. Many women feel that the right to have her beautiful self on your arm should be enough of a contribution to the relationship that you'd be willing to pay for everything. I'd avoid that type entirely if I were you.The issue is that there's a social expectation among some women that the man should always pay for everything. If she's the type who feels that kind of relationship is necessary to her self-valuation then there's no dissuading her of it any more than you can dissuade a motor-head that they can live without a nice car.If you set the expectation that you'll pay for everything early in the relationship, then changing it mid-relationship actually is a game changer and needs to be negotiated. Unless you have a significant change in financial status, it's a sure sign that you're losing interest in her and she'll know it. It's much better to set that expectation early. It isn't enough to just give lip service to the idea of not doing all of the spending, either. At one point I even went so far as to ask a woman "Will you still love me when I come to my senses and stop spending beyond my means?" She said "yes", of course. That mistake eventually led to my divorce about fourteen years ago.