What does a girl mean when she said we should be acquaintances rather than friends when telling me she has a boyfriend despite giving me her phone number?
This could mean a couple of things. Firstly, she may be saying that because she is afraid that she’ll get feelings for you and she doesn’t want to be put in a position where she could be disloyal towards her significant other. Secondly, she may be dealing with someone who has jealous tendencies. She may not want him to know about you, because she doesn’t want him to become worried, insecure, or even confrontational with you. It’s just best to respect her wishes, and wait for her to be ready.
Disloyal boyfriend???
I went to a pub with my boyfriend and one of his acquaintances was there with his girlfriend. Not a friend, just someone who goes to the same pub as he does most of his weekends. I talked to this guy for a bit, and all of a sudden he says, "You know, I never expected John (fake name) to have a girlfriend. Whenever I see him out, he always tells girls he doesn't have a girlfriend." I didn't immediately react, basically because I was taken off guard and was pretty shocked. Then his girlfriend said "Let's go to the bathroom" so I talked with her in there for a bit, and she said, "Oh don't take what he says seriously. He always says things he doesn't quite mean. I'm sure your boyfriend has been loyal to you." I was still shocked when we got out of the bathroom and suddenly, my shock turned to anger. I called this guy out for it, and said, "How can you say that my bf tells girls he's single?" etc. etc. And the guy immediately turned to his gf and said, "What is this ***** saying?"
Why is it that when a friend or acquaintance talks ill about you to others it is considered more of a betrayal and disloyalty than an eye opener and a blessing from which to grow and learn?
Something said behind the back is backstabbing. When you have anything wrong with me, and you are not telling me but talking about it behind my back, wouldn't I feel cheated? You could have simply told me or texted me about it if you aren't confident enough.Talking to you in front of others can also be wrong. The best to do is to keep the complaint personal. Why elaborate it?It would be a chance to grow if the talker has approached you and pointed out the issue in front of your face. That will be much appreciated.
Do taurus women have the tendency to lose friends?
I notice in some taurus girls (I know) have many people they know; acquaintances but don't have anyone close to call a "friend". I used to be close with a taurus. She was shy at first, nice, and with that, I became a close friend to her. Loyal, did nice things for her (here and there w/o expecting things back), babysit her kid (last minute too... grrr), and genuinely was interested in her and how she was doing - NOT the facts or gossip of her or other people. Also, being a sagittarius, I HATE being set up; i like my single-ness and she (apparently) has a hard time understanding it and tried to set me up with RANDOM guys (seriously, any "nice" guy she met, she would kind of force me to date him). Yeah, I put up w a lot... It wasn't until late last year when I felt insulted/disrespected by her actions. It was one of those things when I had a bad feeling in my stomach; like someone just punched me and felt like crying. (Intuition). This one time I respectfully stood up for myself, she got upset and since then, there's been tension... like she's super nice but has a grudge against me, that's unspoken because she's completely passive aggressive. She also took part in making fun of how I dress up, how I smile when i take pictures YET what's funny is that after that incident, she wanted to dress up (which she rarely does) and look girlie and pose for pictures as well. I distanced myself from her but remained "cool" with her. I think she would realize this yet doesn't understand why. I don't know if it's a sag thing but if a "friend" does something completely disrespectful or shows any signs of disloyalty or being 2 faced, I leave. She took my kindness for granted and because of this, seems "weird" and almost defensive around me. This was heartbreaking for me but I'm realizing how much I've changed/grown and how she hasn't. I went to a birthday dinner for her and (of course), it just all seemed so fake. It makes me realize if she knows how much she's taken our friendship for granted and how she treated me. She won't even look me in the eye; we barely talk, and she doesn't even text me back, in general. (I noticed she was sad during her dinner so i just gave her a compliment and said, "smile pretty birthday girl"). What do you think is up?
Am I overreacting? I really hate disloyal people?
It's interesting that as I read your question I can see you go from annoyed to out-of-your-mind upset. You ask if you're being overly dramatic and then you !?!?!??!? like a 13-year-old girl. I would say, yes. You have the right to your emotions. If something makes you angry, it makes you angry, ipso facto. Does your friend have the same right? It's what you do with your anger that matters to the rest of us. If you stop associating with that friend, will your life be better? When this happens again (some variation, guaranteed), will you be upset that this keeps happening? Are you aware of the extent to which you work yourself up about problems? We're all trying to hang around with people who make our lives better. Your friends are your team. When a teammate misses the ball you can either practice, move his position, or trade him. So, if you talk to him about these problems of what you don't like about him, and show him by your behavior how not to do those things, will he change? If you change him from friend to acquaintance, will that solve the problem? If you replace him with a new friend, will that be better?
Do independent people care if they have friends or not?
It makes a big difference. I have friends from different walks of life, professions, religions, political views... all are a resource to me. And I am a resource for them.
My friend keeps flaking on plans!?
My friend Kristina moved away a couple months ago. We see each other occasionaly. Were 15. We have been supposed to hang out lately and she keeps falking on plans. She was supposed to call me today and we were going to hang out. I've been here since school ended and she hasnt even had the deciency to call me. its too late to do anything. this happened on staurday to. We talk on IM a lot, but lately shes just been flaking on our plans. She recently reconnected with an old friend and since then she has started flaking. Im really mad she hasnt had the deciency to call. What should I do?