Nasty roommate. i'd really like to let her have it.?
Being mean may not be the right way to approach the situation. Perhaps being firm is more precise. It seems your roomie has some serious personal issues that she isn't willing to deal with; hygiene being one of them. Since you're in a housing contract, I would suggest that if she won't change her ways that you contact the powers that be and tell them you need to have an immediate change made due to the reasons listed above. Either she has to move or you do because eventually you're not going to be able to be firm or polite; you're going to blow your lid and that'll be difficult for you and others involved. Sometimes you may have to be harsh: "Look, I wasn't raised in a pig sty. If you want to live and act like a pig and roll in the mud fine, find somewhere else to roll in the mud, not here. Tell her too that you find her personal hygiene habits totally and completely disgusting. But, you need to think too, there have to be some deep rooted emotional issues for her to be the way she is.
How should we deal with my roommate's stalker?
The cops aren't going to want to deal with this, and they're going to act like there isnt anything you can do. Police are lazy and really don't care about anyone. They're going to tell you to go to the police station and file a complaint, and I guarantee you that nothing will happen past that to prevent this psycho guy from harassing and stalking her. Find a lawyer immediately and have him write a letter to Rob warning him to immediately stop harassing and stalking his clients (your roommate and yourself), and that if he fails to do so, he will seek prosecution. Ask him to mention the harassing and inappropriate emails, the knocking on the door, etc. Hopefully this will scare him and he will stop. Save all evidence of everything he sends her. You BOTH should also go to the courthouse in your area and get a restraining order (lawyer can also help you with this). The only thing with that is you will have to serve him the restraining order in person, in that situation you should ask a police officer to escort you to do that (they have to do this).
How to deal with my awful fat roommate?
I know this sounds really really shallow but there is no nice way to put it. I moved in with my new roommate in September and have been pretty miserable ever since. First of all, she weighs 350 pounds and a size 26 pant. She very rarely bathes, so much so, that the couch she sleeps on now smells like sour milk and body odor and it's a smell we can't get out even with copious amounts of frebreeze. She eats constantly, totals up to 10,000 calories a day have been witnessed. She works two jobs, but very few hours at each. During her free time, she eats and watches porn on her laptop. She ALWAYS takes up the entire couch and hogs the TV so she can watch hours of anime. All my other roommates are getting really fed up with her behavior. We have to grocery shop several times a week just because she is inconsiderate and eats everyone else's food. She complains that she never has any free spending money when really, it all goes to $30 worth of McDonalds, twice a day. I don't think the word "exercise" is even in her vocabulary. She has to sit down every couple of minutes just when she's getting ready to take one small bag of garbage to the dumpster downstairs. Even after a couple of very uncomfortable "serious" talks with her, she acts as if she comprehends, then completely disregards it, like we were talking to a brick wall all the time. We think she really doesn't care at all about her health because at the rate she is gaining, she's getting closer and closer to giving herself a heart attack without warning and just dying. Please help. What can we, as roommates, do to help her get healthier? What can we do about her serious food problems?
How should we deal with this filthy roommate?
There is a proverb in our Hindi. It says "saam daam dand bhed " . There are four ways of making someone to do a task, stated as “Saam, Daam, Dand & Bhed”. This sutra by Acharya Chanakya is used worldwide. It works and is highly practical. It means:Saam: to advice and askDaam: to offer and buyDand: to punishBhed: exploiting the secretsAs per that you can start by gently asking your room mate to keep the things clean You can tell her how important it is to stay healthy not only for you but also her. You can tell that you care for her and hence you want her to keep clean.Next you can offer help initially to clean the stuffs and help her in making a habit.After that also if she did not change, you can always throw away some of her things and be strict that you are not going to allow her in room, if the same continues. Lastly you can go to the house owner and inform about the same to take the necessary steps. After all who will want their homes to be dirty !!
How do I deal with my nagging roommate?
She constantly rags on me... I'm not the cleanest person in the world, but that was absolutely no secret before we moved in together. Plus I work twice as much as she does, so when I AM home, I try to sleep and take care of more pressing matters than the dishes in the sink. Also, she owes me money. The first few months we lived together, she couldn't pay very much. She owes me around $500 and I still haven't seen a dime of it... it's been a year. I'm too nice... does anyone have any advice as to what I can do to deal with this until the lease is up and I can move out?
Mean, drunk roommate... how to deal?
I have a roommate who I've known for years and she has a drinking problem. When she's sober, she's fine. Everytime she gets drunk she says really mean, hurtful, backhanded things to me. She doesn't get mean with everyone. Only a select few (I'm one...lucky me). We used to be close, but I can't tell her personal things because she uses them against me later (mocking me... trying to make me feel bad). She also gets offended that I don't really tell her things anymore. I have 9 more months on the lease and I need to figure out how I can handle this? I can't talk to her about it because she gets defensive and angry and takes it out on me. It will only make my life worse. She is a lost cause. I just need to figure out how to cope with living with her until the lease is up. Any advice?
How should you deal with a roommate who grieves and pours out his anger toward you?
Someone told me – if you put a frog in boiling water he would jump out but if you put him in cold water and heat it up slowly he will boil to death = that’s like our life with an alcoholic…the abuse gets worse and worse and we still stay. I have only been married 11 years, together 13 – met as older people, I am 61 now. I have no husband when he drinks (every night and hugely every weekend) – he falls asleep on sofa, talks utter nonsense, gets nasty, bullies me, tells me to leave, locks me out, wants me to have sex constantly but why would I when he is so drunk and mean – this weekend I just cried into the pillow – I can’t really believe I am living this life! But I am leaving, just have to save the dosh so I can – because he is not going to change, nearly lost his job twice and is supposed to be alcohol free – yeah right – so yes, I do have to leave, but I do want to have money when I go, I am too old to have nothing when I leave. AND I am a gambleholic so we enable each other, this is partly why this horrid behaviour/life has gone on for so long – and why I have no money – but I have tried to stop gambling and have lost a lot of money (won a lot lost a lot), and find it so difficult to stop when it is so unpleasant at home….but reading these stories – we do stay too long, we do believe it will change (it doesn’t) and we do have financial difficulties when we try to leave- but once we leave I think we will be okay! I hope so – I trust so!