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How Should I Proceed With A Problem With My Friend

Is it wrong to date your ex's best friend?

The flat out, less complicated answer is hell yeah it is.Well, under certain circumstances. ( I’m gonna get so much crap for this)I once dated this guy who was 21 when I was 18. I thought he was pretty cool, coming from someone who had JUST graduated high school. We were coworkers for a few months, and then one day, he confessed his feelings to me. We dated on and off for almost half a year, and let me tell you, it was awful. He had a lot of emotional problems. He didn’t know how to love me. Some days I was his girlfriend, some days I wasn’t. He brought up having an open relationship and polygamy a lot, which I refused since that wasn’t my cup of tea. He held me on a string and used me for emotional support and sex and company; the list can go on and on. I started to feel like I wasn’t worthy of love at all, as if my only purpose was to be a puppet and a mother to someone who didn’t even try to fix his problems before entering a relationship. To this day, I feel ashamed for allowing myself to accept anything less than the love I deserved.And this is where I finally answer your question.In the place where I worked, I had another coworker who was best friends with my ex. I absolutely loved hanging out with him. We would go on hikes, play video games together, spend hours talking about how much we hated our current relationships and helped each other out with that. It was completely innocent, he and I thought nothing of it… at least until we were both single. He was a caring guy, I could tell he loved me in a platonic way. But he gave me everything I needed; support, love, friendship, a shoulder to cry on, and so much more. Eventually, I told him how I felt and it turned out he felt the same for me. But we could not be together until he talked to my ex. He was uncomfortable with the thought of dating his best friend’s ex girlfriend without talking it through first. I waited about a week until they talked. My ex had told him that he saw it coming, because he was caring for me, because he was capable of loving me. A year later, he and I are still together and I’ve never been happier.Under certain circumstances, it is ok. If you have the opportunity to be happy, do it. But be careful, don’t be devious. Do it because you cannot see yourself with anyone else. There are plenty people in the world.

Probability word problem?

Ok, I need some help with this one. It's one of the ones on my homework that I just can't get past. I have done some brainstorming, but before we get onto that, here is the problem statement:

A friend recently planned a camping trip. He has two flashlights, one that requires a single 6V battery and another that used two D size batteries. He had previously packed two 6V and four D size batteries in his camper. Suppose the probability that any particular battery works is P and that all batteries work or fail independently of one another. Our friend wants to take just one flashlight. For what values of P should he take the 6V flashlight?

Here's what I have so far:

P(6V works) = 4 to choose, 2 to work = F1(P)
P(D size works) = 2 to choose, 1 to work = F2(P)

The wise decision for our friend would be to take 6V if F2(P) > F1(P).

Now I'm stuck. How should I proceed with this problem?

I have a problem with my bridesmaids facial hair!?

So i have this bridesmaid. She is awesome- she takes care of so much for me and I love to spend time with her. We were really close growing up- but then i moved away to college. We stayed in touch- but we aren't super super close anymore.

She has a beard. Not just a little bit of hair- but a ton! all underneath her jaw line and big bushy sideburns. She's a cute girl- and is always dressed cute and everything. So i assume she just doesn't know.

How do I get that hair off her face by the wedding (3 months away) without offending her??

My friend is doing reckless things?

In a similar fashion to Becky's answer, you must be held accountable for your own actions..you cannot control others. To attempt so will be met with contempt and put the individual on a defensive.

If you must express your concern, a good example might include "I feel drinking and getting wasted all the time is a waste of a persons ability to be productive. To me, it is someone giving up on life. What do you think?"

Proceed from there. Do not specifically name them or insult their specific actions, keep it abstract. Avoiding the "you" word should hopefully avoid any confrontation or putting your friend on the defensive.

Perhaps, they might get the point.