How do I move past regrets and mistakes that will have an effect on my life?
YOU CAN GO TO A TWO YEAR COMMUNITY COLLEGE AND BUILD YOUR GPA UP!!! GET IN SCHOOL. YOU NEED THAT KIND OF POSTIVENESS IN YOUR LIFE NOW. COUNSELING AT CHURCH OR WITH A THERAPIST. YOUR LIFE IS NOT OVER BUT VERY BRIGHT. LIFE HAPPENS AND AS USUAL WE SOMETIMES GET TANGLED UP IN IT. ITS TIME TO DETANGLE!!! THE PAST IS ONLY MEANT TO LEARN AND REMINISCE FROM. IF YOU KEEP HOLDING ON TO THE PAST THE PRESENT WILL NEVER BE. ALL YOUR DREAMS NEVER TO COME TRUE BECAUSE YOUR HOLDING ON TO SOMETHING THAT ALREADY HAPPENED THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH TODAY. SCHOOL HAS SO MANY POSTIVE ATRIBUTES TO KEEP YOUR MIND OCCUPIED. GO GET YOUR WONDERFUL LIFE AND AVOID THOSE REGETS. THE PITTY PARTY AND THE BLAME GAME HAVE OVER STAYED THEIR STAY. YOU WELCOMED THEM IN BUT NOW YOU NEED TO KICK THEM OUT SO YOU CAN GO GET YOUR LIFE!!! IF FOR SOME REASON SCHOOL IS NOT A CHOICE THEN VOLUNTEER IN YOUR SPARE TIME TO GAIN WORK EXPERIENCE IN THE FIELD YOU ARE PASSIONATE ABOUT. IF SCHOOL OR VOLUNTEERING IS NOT IN YOUR FAVOR THEN PLEASE SEEK PROFESSIONAL COUNSELING. COUNSELING WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE IN SO MANY WAYS. YOU'RE READY TO RELEASE THE PAST BECAUSE YOU'RE ASKING FOR HELP!!! CONGRATS ON REALIZING YOU WANT TO LET GO OF THE PAST!!! LET'S MAKE ANOTHER POSTIVE STEP WITH ONE OF THE SUGGESTIONS I GAVE!!!
How can I stop regretting for the mistakes I did and opportunities I missed in the past and turn towards future?
You pack what you learnt and head forward…For example, I had a bit love when I was about 18… she become my best friend and my biggest crush (at least so far). But I never told anything… I thought she knew it! How couldn’t she not know? It was obvious…Meanwhile I married for 13 years… and only after that I start to saw her again… we talked about the old times… and she said she had feelings for me to back then!! But as I didn’t anything she thought I wasn’t so into her…So I packed these learnings and some years ago I was out at night, with some friends and a girl I didn’t knew (a friend’s friend). As she was all night close to me, I, remember my lesson, tried to kiss her… she is lesbian.But we become good friends!!! :))So, if you think about the past, the missed opportunities and mistakes, think. But think how and why. Not just dreaming and complaining what you failed!! Think instead of regretting…And look forward… because here in Portugal we say:there are more tides than sailors. So, yes, there are always plenty of opportunities ahead. People keep forgetting it, be it at life in general, be at stock market, be when shopping!! :)Ahead there are lots of opportunities, and opportunities to make more mistakes!!Better to remember the things you did right in the past!! :)
Did the LORD make a mistake before?
And it repented the LORD that he had made man on the earth, and it grieved him at his heart. (Genesis 6:6 KJB) Having a grief and regret for making something sounds like a mistake on the part of the subject that's doing the grieving and having the regret.
How should I come over from past mistakes? How do I not think about my lost opportunities in the past?
Start by forgiving yourself. How?! Think of when someone you love does a bad thing to you. You love them so much, it hurts to not forgive. You love yourself enough to forgive yourself.Next step, don't think too much about past mistakes, take your time, think what could've been done different and then spare yourself from thinking about it again. Just assume a position where you have figured out what went wrong and you don't need to “mourn” anymore.You need perseverance of thought for both these things. For a better understanding of that, watch or read: The Shack
How do we learn from mistakes?
Thanks for asking Jayaditya.Looks you want to go one level below and analyze as to how to learn from one's mistakes.Actually "mistakes" are in a way addictive. People (including me) who make one "mistake" say for themselves that they should not repeat. But as they keep saying that itself becomes a more "conscious" feeling where by we introspect and realize we have done it again easily next time !So First and Foremost - we should never worry about a mistake. What we should worry about are A) Context in which we made the mistake B) The reason why we decide to make the mistake and C) Consequences of the mistake.C. Mistakes "too" insignificant should be carefully long listed into the memory until they become a too frequent happening.A. Context in which we make the mistake to some extent has to be "avoided" and.or faced repetitively in a Bold and Planned manner to improve our endurance, there by we resist making a mistake in such contextB. Reasoning why we make a type of mistake is very very crucial. It generally has a need for "deep-down self introspection".. Example you feel bad in middle of specific group of people or specific time of day etc., Let me give a better example - Loosing temper surely qualifies as a mistake to me. When my friends who are speaking LOGICALLY suddenly turns ILLOGICAL or PLAYFUL while I am still continuing to be LOGICAL OR vice versa drives me CRAZY...and I go mad at them... You can see this happen in college Ragging as well...With effort surely I tried to shift the gears...but admittedly it didn't yield a long lasting solution. Through experiences in life I realized the concept of "WHAT IS BIG DEAL".. This is equivalent to "MATIYAO YAAR" philosophy of North India, which my North Indian friends taught to me later...So...reasoning in the line of our experiences, can actually scale us up better in case of mistake. No cookie cutter or magic solutions. Surely some times it is time consuming... and that the beauty of life as well !
"Don't regret your past. Just learn from it." Agree or disagree? Why?
"Don't regret your past. Just learn from it." Agree or disagree? Why? A: Agree - my regret about the past doesn't make any better for today nor future. - Do you like your past or do you wish you could just forget it? A: some I just want to skip, but I know it's not possible to do, so just let it be gone with the wind. - Have you learned anything from your past? A: sure, everyday I am learning from what happened in my life. Bitter things make me stronger today, evil people were there to make me wiser today. - If you could go back in time, would you change anything? Why/Why not? A: well, yea.. I hope I was smarter...LOL. Why? because I ever did something really stupid. - Any advice for people who are still living in the past? A: Live today, stop regret the past and stop worry about tomorrow. Life's good.
I am 22 years old and I really regret everything I did the past 6 years. How do I get rid of this regret?
First of all let me tell you that you are very young and nothing to worry about your past. Every day when you woke up its a new day and you have to start with a fresh note. If you going on thinking about the past you are adding one more day of regretting. So what I suggest you do not dig your past and you start building your career. You have not mentioned your qualification so that I would have suggested according to your stream. Plan for higher studies, start investing and help elders or do some community service definitely you will have satisfaction and please remember failure is key to success and your past must be only a experience but if it bad don't repeat. If going on regretting there is no tomorrow. Today is your day start planning good. People who are weak minded only regret but I feel it's ones excuse to escape the daily challenges. You can make it and you will make it. All the best.
How can you get over the regret of losing someone you truly loved with the purest of intentions, over some mistakes that you realised later on and took time to reflect upon, only to later find them already committed?
This happened to me a couple of times, but there was one occasion when the regret was particularly punishing. Like an arrow straight through the heart. I had always known that I’d loved him truly, and I knew that my reasons were good ones. So the abject hopelessness of the situation was frankly overwhelming.I sat in my little home office and cried-cried-cried.But, I want you to look at this another way. If you lost someone despite having the very best intentions for them—despite your mistakes—it was also incumbent on them to overlook these mistakes and meet you at the halfway mark. Perhaps your level of commitment wasn’t enough to woo and win this someone. You can only do so much in one day, much less one lifetime.So I can look back and ponder, “What if I’d said this but not that?” and “What if I’d hung in there for another year?” Chances are still very good that altering the nuance wouldn’t have changed the outcome all those years (or months, or weeks) ago. The heart wants what the heart wants; it is not a logical organ. Your beloved wants, for whatever reason, someone other than you.Right now, you cannot fathom what that reason might be. In time, you will learn it.Regret is important. Regret teaches us not to make the same mistakes twice. That you took the time to reflect on yours and take responsibility for them is telling. It suggests that you have good character.I think that you’re being too hard on yourself, my friend. Mourn the loss of the one you loved. This is important. Then, onward through the fog.