Is it true that the army will make you fearless.
No if you are fearless you are not human, take mr. parashoo for example, he's afraid of his own feelings that why he pretends he is such a tough guy to cover up all the guilt and shame he has and probably the embarassment of the fact that he wets himself on a daily basis then crys like a little school girl. I don't know know what he considers himself to be but it is definately not anything you or anyone else should reduce themselves to. He is definately not human by any means, don't let that happen to you. You will become more brave as you get older and have more experience, you don't have to kill people and lose your heart to become brave.
How do I become a stone heart person?
This is what I have done.I was an emotional fool but I still haven't become a 'stone hearted' person yet.I think it's better to have a firm yet soft enough heart.Here is what I can suggest:• Try observing people,learn from people.See the pain, the sufferings of innocent people.See what people are actually capable of doing if they choose to be evil.• Learn to accept the truth. Nothing but the harsh,bitter truth.It will make you strong from inside.Yes it will hurt but it will make you strong from inside.• Read and learn more about how rotten our world actually is! It is not all the 'Rainbow and sunshine'��� Learn to admit your mistakes. It may sound inappropriate here but it also helps.Because “Knowing your weakness makes you strong”• Talk less listen more. The more you listen the more you get to know people,the more you know about them, the more you realise who is actually worth talking and listening to. Leave the rest.• Meditate. Spend more time on improving yourself.Both mentally and physically.But in the end I would like to clarify that being soft from within is perfectly okay. I am strong hearted.But I am soft too. Is that a bad thing? I don't think so.There is a fine line between being strong-hearted and arrogant.Its okay to laugh and be happy after all :) just don't let anyone ruin that.Regards,Sohail
How can I be fearless in a given situation?
Why fear Fear ? To tell you truth, we can't be fearless. Fear isn't a bad thing after all. Its actually good. In evolutionary terms, the fear helped us move forward a lot. It prepares us to face the danger. Fear gives us two choice; confront it,or run away.The choice you make is vital. Most runaway citing the fear itself as the reason. If you choose to confront it, that does a lot of changes. Most wild animals feared fire, while humans confronted it and made it to their use. Many people feared to go far, while sailors ventured out and discovered a lot. Instead of just running away you need to face it. And for you to face it what you need is - COURAGESo what you should really ask is- How to be courageous in every situation ?To be courageous you have to build a lot of confidence, through meditation and other exercises. It is a long term process with no quick result. The key is- live the moment; no worries of past, no anxiety for future. For start you can decide what should happen to you in next 20 second. As rightly said in the movie We Bought a Zoo (2011), You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of itMost of our fears aren't real. They are one of the way our mind react to a challenge. Like I said earlier, it prepares you to face that challenge. Understand your fears, observe it, and act against it. There are many common phobias and fears. Phobias are irrational fears of a certain object or situation. It has to do more with psychological aspects, and cannot be easily overcome. The Listverse has compiled Top 10 Strong Human Fears , contains a common list of fears that people generally faces. Here are my suggestion if you are feeling one of them.Failure: Just be aware that failure is part and parcel on the journey of being successful. Many successful person had tasted failure in their one or more attempts.Death: Its ultimate truth, you have to embrace it.Rejection: Many great people were rejected. The list include The Beatles, Walt Disney, Amitabh Bacchan, Madonna..Ridicule: People take time to understand genius. Da Vinci, Einstein, Van Ghogh etc were ridiculed. Who knows what you hold..!And one last tip..
I am in love with this girl, but she has broken my heart in the worst possible way. What should I do now?
I am 29 and went through something similar. I am not sure what conspired but the girl i liked decided to severe off all ties with me one particular day. That day and today, there's not been a single hour in all the days that have past that i have not thought about her, tried to figure out what could have possibly gone wrong, sometime even contemplated to barge in to her place and give her my piece of mind, while the other time i even thought that this might have been a conspiracy she had planned all along, just as to use me when she needed someone in her life the most.One mind and so many perceptions as to why and how it happened. Do you think if it matters now at all, should i still continue to brood about her, if its logical to keep yourself reminding of someone who made me feel so small. The simple, straight answer is a big NO. I know the answer, but cannot help with the thoughts coming in every now and then. No matter how busy i get, how occupied i am, her thoughts creep in from somewhere or the other. And now, when its been almost 3 months now since she parted her ways, i have made peace with the fact. I am way better now, feel excited taking up new things, work out a lot, have become a fitness enthusiast, trying new things in life. On an average, the thoughts still pester me 2-3 times a day, but i dont feel upset now about it, as i have stopped fighting against it. I wish i could forgive and forget her, but the pain was too excruciating to leave my aisle as of now, but sooner or later that would be gone too. I have just kept my fingers crossed.The only thing i miss about her, is a friend. We were close friends before the shit happened. Though i have a lot many friends, but it was different with her and thats the only thing i wish would have remained.I know i did a lot of self banter rather than talking about you, but all i wanted to tell you was that, forgive her and let her go. She may come make again in your life, dont make a fool of you again, cut all your contacts and sever the tier. But before you do that, tell her why and what you are going to do. Be selfish and have some self respect.All the best and like all the bad things which might have happened in your life, this too shall pass.
How can I conquer the fear of death?
Accept that this is nothing new. Not for you, nor for anyone else.The time after your death is no different then the day before you were conceived. You don't remember anything before you were conceived and you won't remember anything after you die in exactly the same manner. You will no longer feel those hungers, pains and desires the same way you were not wanting for anything two-hundred years ago either. The universe is thirteen billion years old and you will be very lucky if you see one-hundred. You are made of stardust and someday you will become stardust again.Today you are alive, you can enjoy both simple and complex pleasures. You can smile at the laugh of a newborn child whom knows nothing of pain or fear or want, just like you were once years ago. You can enjoy the simple things such as a soft kitten or puppy and the downy soft fur pressed against your cheek while the little creature struggles in your hand so that it might properly lick you instead.. Think back to the last time you genuinely laughed outloud, remember that moment and hold it in your heart.I often like to add something to answers like this that I feel more eloquently explain and inform from where I gather my inspiration and my direction..... ❝ Death is the starlit strip between the companionship of yesterday and the reunion of tomorrow.❞ - on monument erected to Mark Twain & Ossip Gabrilowitsch ❝ The Impartial Friend: Death, the only immortal who treats us all alike, whose pity and whose peace and whose refuge are for all--the soiled and the pure, the rich and the poor, the loved and the unloved.❞ - Mark Twain, last written statement; Moments with Mark Twain, Paine ⬆ Stardust and the origin of every atom in our body. ⬇ Alan Watts from Jeremy Richardson's comment. Alan gives sage advice as a person far, far wiser then myself but whom expresses exactly what I was trying to impress.
What if I just died right now?
I've been cripplingly depressed for about a year and a half. I believe life has no meaning whatsoever and we are only guaranteed two things: birth and death. Seeing the world this way is the worst thing that every happened to me because it IMPOSSIBLE to just ignore this reality. People tell me, and I believe, life only has the meaning you bring to it. The problem is I have absolutlye no ambitions, no goals and no dreams because I know in the end it won't matter. I'll just be dead and so will everyone else so money, owning a house, getting laid, having fun and everything else is just more shades of gray for me. I'm scared of what's happening to me. I'm no suicidal but my life is just so BLAH I can't take it anymore. I haven't seen a doctor because I could care less what they have to say. They just say whatever they think you want to hear so they'll just tell me I'm depressed and give me some Prozac. What if I just got hit by a bolt of lightning and slammed by a semi-truck? Would it really make a damn bit of difference? Sure it would make people around me sad but they will die eventually too.