How can you tell if someone is being genuinely nice to you, or being nice because they want something?
It can be difficult for me to decipher this without spending time observing the person. If someone is “over the top nice” and flattering without reasonable cause, I am immediately suspicious. I find genuine people to be relaxed and straight forward. They don't need a grand introduction. They have a willingness to surrender their pride and talk to you, irregardless of their social standing. They may make a kind gesture towards you just because, without anything being expected in return. They will listen to you without making snap judgments and encourage you with your goals.If you feel “ buttered up”, take that as a possible warning. If they are showering you with unrealistic promises, be wary. Pay attention to what they do and don't be fooled by words. Consider their history, if you know them, and if they have a good track record. If they're suddenly wanting to do all these favours for you and it's completely out of character for them, watch out. A genuine person would have gone above and beyond for you without any prompting, without you having to prove yourself with your wealth or status or power.
Is there a nice way to tell someone to stop calling you?
You have to be direct. Wishy washy answers encourages people to keep doing what they're doing. Direct does not have to be impolite. A gentleman called me after midnight once. I told him "it is not appropriate to call at ths time of night. I must be going now. Goodbye. " He never called back.
What does it mean when someone says they are "trying" to be nice to you?
Sometimes people tack on "I try" like others tack on "I know, Right?" I wouldn't read too much into it unless her efforts looked strained. Then I'd go find real friends. =) Likely she's just a happy nice person. (And nice people DO have to try...it's much easier to be grumpy and cross)
Whats the reasoning behind dumping someone by text? Its not nice!?
It is unfortunate that he did not have the courage to want to explain his reasons in person, perhaps he does not believe in the same things as you until someone comes along and breaks his heart by doing the same thing. We all learn the same lessons in life, but some learn them sooner than others. He is on the self centered side, and perhaps he thought it would be easier for him, to avoid all the details and make the break short and sweet for him. This is a good thing to remember, so if he ever wanted to get back with you, that you don't deserve a guy like him...you deserve someone better, someone a little more considerate, respectful, and mature. At least you know now the kind of guy he really is, instead of ten years later in life, where you have children, and then sends you a text saying it is over.
Why should I be nice to people if other people are not nice to me?
My mother has always taught me this one thing -How a person behaves is a reflection of his persona and his soul.If people are rude to you, it reflects their insecurity, irritability and disrespect.By being nice to them you showcase your patience and kindness.I also believe, that by being kind you are not only making the other person’s day but doing yourself a favor too, because any sort of negative behavior affects people around us and most importantly, affects us.So avoid yourself the pain, be kind…be polite..spread smiles and make the world a better place to live in !Thanks :)
Response to when someone says "nice of you to show up"?
This girl on my softball team is really annoying and when I missed a couple of practices because I was sick, she was really rude about it when I came to school a couple days later saying that "it was nice of me to show up" I know she'll say something along those lines at practice tomorrow. How do I respond? Thanks!