What is the punishment for breaking family ties? Please help!?
I have two cousins who live in the US. They live in Illinois while we live in New York. Real simple : They don't meet with us. Why? I have no idea. I dn't have much family in the US, just those two cousins and two other ones who live in Atlanta, but they are from my mothers side. They just don't like us. It's ironic because, I have all boys in my family, and the only girl cousin I have, doesn't meet with us. My mum says it's a status thing. They apparently are very well off (my uncle was a professor at Harvard and now teaches at University of Chicago) and we, on the other hand are not. My father and my uncle are blood brothers.. blood related. Yet they don't meet. The last time I called was 6 years ago. My mom says they're ashamed to meet us because we're not at "their level." She says that my aunt, who was married into the family, just doesn't like us. Doesn't think we're at par with them...pshh I've been going through a very rough patch in my life recently. I cry almost everyday and it's been a dark time. And one of the reasons is because, I .. I love my cousins. I love them so much. And i care. I'm always the one who does. I called 6 years ago, and you know what my aunt said. She said, "Sabrina doesn't have any cousins." I had to CONVINCE her that I was her cousin. Why this outburst? recently I spotted my older cousin on facebook. He's in college now, and he looks happy, he looks like he's moved on. I should be angry I am. But more than that I'm sad. Depressed actually. I've never met my cousins. never seen em. I'm sad. That we never got to meet. And I'm miserable. My life is soo bad right now. I pray regularly, but nothins been getting better. Why can't I ignore them? It really hurts me that they don't care. Really hurts me. I'm just not that kind of person. I've always been the black sheep ineverything. At school. At the masjid. I spend most of my Eid's doing hw. I.. I just wish that for once, I could fit in ith my family. Simply put, I'd like to know the Islamic solution. I want to keep my families dignity, and so if they don't want to be associated with us, I won't force them. But, inside, deep in my heart, once you get passed all the anger, I hope every day that they might call. That we might reconcile. What is the Islamic solution to this? And what is the punishment for breaking family ties?
Tennis tie break score?
***Is true that in tie break if is 7-7 continue till somebody makes 2 diferents points ?*** Yes, the tie break game continues until one player or the other achieves a margin or two points. ***So , if is 10-8 will be write at sets : 7-6 or 6-7 ( 8 ) ? The one who loose it is listed in parantheses ( ) ? *** Yes, if the score within the tiebreaker goes to 10-8, then the player who won the 10 points wins the tiebreaker and the *set.* You are also correct about the "8" going inside the parentheses. The number of points won by the loser goes into the parentheses after the "7-6," or "6-7." ***I saw on a match the score was 64 10 . Why is here 10 without no parantheses ? *** The 64 10 may possibly refer to the losing player either giving up, or retiring with an injury. If you see the abbreviation "Ret." following the "1-0," that stands for "retired." Today, many scores are written *without* a dash [-] in between the games won by the winner and the loser. If your score had been written: "6-4, 1-0" to me, that would imply that the loser stopped playing for some reason at 1-0 in the second set. Completed match scores are almost always written from the point of view of the *winner.* For example, if the score read: 7-6(3), 4-6, 7-6(12) It means that the winner of this best-of-three set match won the first set and the third set with a tiebreaker deciding both of them. The loser won the second set 6-4, but it is written "4-6" because that is the point of view of the winner of the match. The first set's tiebreaker score would have been 7-3, and the final set's tiebreaker score would have been 14-12. We do have 10-point "Match Tiebreak" games, but those would normally be used for a *final* set, not a second set. The 10-point Match Tiebreaker is just like a regular 7-point tiebreaker, except that it's longer and carries more weight, since whoever wins it also wins the entire *match,* not just a set.
Does anyone believe in a 'soul tie'?
Frank Hammond has a book on Soul Ties that a friend of mine has read and recommends. I have read other books he has wrote and enjoyed them. The key to being set free from a soul tie is to get revelation on why it would be present, repent, break agreement with it and walk it out by continually choosing to say no to any lie or temptation that presents itself. Wash yourself in the water of the Word, bible. We are not perfect nor should we expect ourselves to be, so do be patient with yourself. Also, I believe it is most effective when you break it off of yourself. Since you are the person who has to walk it out. But, having friends to pray for you does help. I have seen soul ties in the spirit realm. I have also asked the Lord to break them and He has. So, as you read about negative soul ties remember they may have power, however God has all power. The soul ties only have the power we allow them to have. I pray you find the truth you are searching for! If you are truly seeking He is always faithful in revealing.
How do I break up with my pregnant girlfriend?
When I read the header I was coming here to call you a douche but after reading I feel your pain. Firstly I applaud you for recognizing that a child is not a good enough reason to remain in a relationship. You mentioned that she doesn't want the baby but you didn't say whether you want the baby, only that you will be a good parent. You talked about the problems you are having and nothing has changed and building a family with her and those bad behaved kids will frustrate the hell out of you even more than they do now. Talk with her again and say exactly what you wrote here, mention the way she treats you, how you feel and what you know (that she doesn't care as much as she should) and mention the way she brings up her kids and its something you do not want for your child. Since you can provide for your child and she doesn't want the baby I can suggest that u ask her for custody before the baby is born. Hopefully you can come to a legal agreement before birth (if that's possible) because you wont want her to become attached to the child after delivery and deny you. Assure her that the baby will know her as his/her mother but to make things easier on her you would have primary custody. If that fails the most you can do is try to be involved as much as possible and while you can't discipline her kids you can teach your kid the right attitude and morals. Be sure to tell her that a baby is no reason for you to remain with her in light of how you feel. Its a sticky situation and I hope this helps. Whatever you do about the baby since sheisn'tt gonna have an abortion, be sure to make it legal because you never know the true nature of a person until you break up with them. If you're not happy and there is no compromise then do not stay with her. btw the custody thing would only work if you got someone like your mother or sister to help raise the child while you are away.
Cutting ties with asian parents?
I feel that its more shocking for someone who is asian to say that she she wants to cut ties w/her family vs. someone who's parents were born here in America. I just feel bad because I know that most asian parents work hard for their kids, but at the same time they are verbally abusive. At least, in my case. I tried talk to them, but in the asian culture, the parents don't apologize or they're never wrong. Stupidest **** ever! I talked to my father and he said I should just be understanding and realize that its their culture and just brush it off. He said that I should not force my "Americanized" culture on him. Again stupidest **** ever. By "Americanized" culture, it simply means say sorry,talk it out, be gentle to your kids, take into consideration of their feelings...etc So I just feel like I try and if they can't change, why should I be stupid eenough to keep them in my life to keep me down. So he's saying I should just tolerate and ignore the verbal abuse. What?! I was dumb enough to put up with that in the past and constantly thought about killing myself because I actually believed their lies about me. That I'm not enough. That others look down on me. When I bring up past incidents to try to explain to them how they hurt me, they always say they I like to think about unhappy things to make myself unhappy. Uh, no I don't think about these things when I'm not around you! Yet in the midst of all this, I still need to rely on them financially because I'm in my early 20s, live at home & have a hard time finding a job; and my parents are oblivious to the fact that I don't love them & resent them ; and act like everything is normal. What do you guys think? Please be genuinely honest and thoughtful
When is it appropriate to cut off contact with someone?
There's "not making contact," and there's "cutting off contact." I've only ever done the latter when someone's done something to hurt me, has betrayed my trust, etc. Once or twice, though, I've gotten a hard time from others about my decision to cut ties with someone. Just wondering what you think....