Should I change myself for him?
Are you crazy? No. Why should you change yourself for some guy? Do you think there is something wrong with you? You only try to change if you're not happy with who you are. Kendra was absolutely right. If she's right about his looks and I'm right about his personality, or lack thereof, then he's not worth asking this question. What should you do? You should forget about him. The right guy will appreciate you for who you are, faults and all. By the way, how were you planning to change being black???
I want to change myself?
I've lived a gullible, gullible life. I want to be a stronger, perhaps ruder person, since being sweet has only gained zero respect for me. I'm tired of being the chubby cute sweet girl everyone sees as a friend. I want guys to notice me, I wanna be sexy, I want respect, I want people to stop taking advantage of me. I'm tired of giving and never getting. I'm tired of giving more than what I give myself. Give me the greatest possible advice you can, no moral crap. No "don't change the person you are" either.
Why can't I change myself?
You're already passed the first two steps hun. The first step is realizing there's a problem. The second step is wanting to change. You can't change who you are over night, but you can do small things to make it better. Baby steps. I'm a lot like you - I tend to ignore the small stuff and try to keep everyone happy. But like you, it all builds up eventually. Something you could try is instead of automatically dismissing something you dislike, why not addressing it? Tell her that what she said hurt you, even if she 'didn't mean it'. If you don't say anything, people will think it's alright to say whatever they want to you until you "randomly and unexpectedly burst" (even though you saw it coming a mile away). Be more truthful to yourself too. If you're upset and depressed, don't try to avoid it - try to make it better. I know this is way easier said than done, but I believe you can do it. I don't even KNOW you and I believe you can. But like I said, the first step to getting through this is to figure out what the problem is. Then you can go from there. The fact that you're wanting to help, put your life on the line and be a "hero", already makes you more of a hero than most. But it's time to put your money where your mouth is. Start doing some charity work. Take some classes and see if you can get into a firefighting career. The world could really use some well-meaning ambitious people like you. Lastly, don't try to be someone because someone else expects you to. Be yourself. You sound like an amazing person with a fantastic future ahead of you. Don't give that up because people criticize you or don't recognize the good things you do. Life is an amazing gift. The hard parts in it teach us how to become stronger and make us better people today. Show how strong you are by plowing through this tough time and being the best you can be. I'm rooting for you.
How do I change myself so that people like me?
Practice. You say you're a nice guy, so you obviously believe that you've got some pretty good qualities. The rest is just social skills, and I'm sorry, but that takes time.Most importantly, work on your introduction. There is no secret "line" here, no magic bullet. Just introduce yourself. To everyone. Shake hands, give your name, and that's it.Dating, friendship, they're all really just a numbers game. Ninety eight percent of the people you meet/introduce yourself to, you'll never speak with again. So don't worry about awkward moments, or if the conversation drops off. Just move on and talk to someone else.The other big thing is dropping anti-social habits. Excessive drinking, not drinking, playing too many video games or watching too much TV - these things isolate you. They may be fun - hell, I LOVE a good video game or two like Skyrim. But don't overdo it, and if there are social events to attend instead, don't skip them.And don't be afraid to be alone in public. Many find this scary. If you need some training, go hang out at your local bar/coffee shop, and do the same things you do at home - homework, taxes, reading, etc. You'll eventually get used to the ambiance, to not being alone, and start to feel at home in that environment. That feeling will give you the confidence you need.
If nobody likes me for who I am should I change myself?
If you change yourself and still nobody likes you, will you change again? If you change yourself and everybody likes you, will they still like you in 5 years? In 10 years? What if you change yourself and half of the people like you, and the other half don't? How will you live? Two-faced?What if you change yourself and a third hate you, a third love you, and a third are indifferent? What will you do then? The reality is that if you devote your life to try to get people to like you, you will end up trying to please 100 different people who all have different opinions.This is tiring, unsustainable, and you will end up losing your sense of identity rather than finding it.Don't build your life around trying to measure up to opinions that constantly change. Learn to be comfortable with yourself. Right now, as you are. Decide what is important to you. Decide what kind of person you want to be, and then pursue that. Hold yourself to your own best self, not the "shoulds" and "oughts" championed by the media, celebrities, pop culture, or what people say on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram. It's not worth sacrificing your identity on the altar of popular opinion.
How to change myself for high school?
I am going to be a freshman next year and I am terrified. I go to a K-12 school so I'll already be with my best friends and boyfriend. I'm scared because last year I was a horrible mess of anxiety because of bullies and low self confidence and bad grades, I don't want that anymore. I used to self harm and I was anorexic and attempted suicide a few times (this has gone on about 3 years and Im fed up so I decided to get better :) ) Everybody found out about my self harming. I was severely bullied because my school has a lot of cliques. I used to get tripped and punched and called names and get my bag emptied out on the floor. I used to have teachers shoving me or yelling at me abusing me. I was known as the "goth" or "emo" (I am neither) I wore black all the time because I never really bought lighter colors. My eyeliner was WAY to much and WAY to dark, I can see how people would assume I was goth. I was also very hyper and annoying everybody hated me for it. Now I've matured. I'm calmer and brighter and happier and I feel alive. So basically I've changed all the bad inside of me to good, but I don't know how ot work on the outside so please help? How can I be organized through the year? How can I stay happy? How can I get my teachers to like me? How can I be less annoying and more liked? How can I look brighter make-up and clothes wise? (uniform school -shirts: white, black, navy blue button ups allowed bottoms: knee length skirts no designs straight color or knee length shorts, or pants of any kind as long as they are black navy blue or tan) Here is my face these pictures are from when I began to change till now 1, http://www.flickr.com/photos/93737573@N07/8545982765/ 2. http://www.flickr.com/photos/93737573@N07/8547078548/in/photostream/ Now: This is how I've been doing my make up but its still a bit dark http://www.flickr.com/photos/93737573@N07/9259306899/ http://www.flickr.com/photos/93737573@N07/9259307035/in/photostream/ and this is how long my hair is http://www.flickr.com/photos/93737573@N07/9259306899/in/photostream/ Sorry its tangled Thanks for the help http://www.flickr.com/photos/93737573@N07/9259307035/in/photostream/