How To Comfort Her More Emotionally

How do I become more comforting, consoling and emotionally available when talking to women?

Thanks for A2A buddy.I appreciate that you feel concerned when someone close to you is emotionally stressed.  But you know, guys generally have this happy-go-lucky and carefree attitude and it’s OK to be like that. If you ask me, this ability of consoling and comforting others comes with experience of dealing with such situations. Also, I feel that not everyone is good at it! I can totally understand that you feel awkward when your mom or your female friends need an emotional support and you feel clueless what to do.“Sometimes, the best way to help someone is just to be near them.” ― Veronica Roth, DivergentAt this moment, all you need to do is just to make them feel better. You don’t need to be a philosophical guru to give an elaborated gyaan about that situation, just being a patient listener is enough. Small gestures which reflect your concern for that person are more than enough to comfort them. Simply buy her an ice-cream or a chocolate or her favorite flower or go with her on a stroll to cheer her up!  Simply saying ‘everything is going to be fine’ will do. You can use your humor skills too to make them feel light. Also, keep an update about them whether they are fine or not, but don’t overdo it. It’s these small deeds only which makes a person feel that you are by their side during tough times and you care for them.Hope this helps.

What is the best way to comfort an ENTP?

ENTPs don't like comfort so much as we like help, in physical ways. Cooking food for her, offering her a place to stay, helping her find a job to support herself, these things are the most valuable to an ENTP. As long as she's healthy (and not narcissistic or cutting all the time), she'll appreciate all that you've done for her.Ultimately, we're really independent people, and unless you're an especially interested INFJ, we won't let you see our vulnerable side. Even then, it's usually just a dump, not so much looking for emotional support and a cry session. We want solutions, so we can feel better in the future, because we're always looking ahead.I can almost guarantee that her angst is coming from feeling like this misery will continue into all of the foreseeable future. You need to help her break free of that by making a new (better) possibility seem more likely than the one she envisions.

My ex-girlfriend is deeply and emotionally hurt. What should I do?

Bro, let me get this straight. We can look into the problem from two perspectives .First from your point of view,she is hurt and you are feeling guilty for that but at the same time , you somehow want to help her. Actually you should not involve directly to   make her feel good because she s never going to be okay,with you being involved directly. She is in a bad phase i understand but whatever you do directly wont help the situation. She is angry and disturbed. In case if you have a good trust worthy mutual friend ,then ask him/her to talk her .First try understanding her situation and dont approach her directly. Give some time. Just think where did everything go wrong and rebuilding trust is a very tough job. From her perspective, She is a girl and she trusted you so much. You spoiled it somehow. Even though she is so disappointed, she is still thinking about you and thats why she is still hurt. Its been two years but she s still not over it , yeaa. no surprise. How can you expect her to be okay? . You build the trust and relationship over a period of time ..in many cases it might take years. So, in that case she will definitely need more time to overcome the pain. Usually girls overthink in many situations and at times  same thoughts keep running in their mind. Girls actually love when their partner remembers  the little things about her bcz girls(i dunno its general or not) remember little things and they give an extra importance to it. So, after break up even little things will keep them worried and disturbed. All i mentioned above is a perspective for few kind of situations . I do understand your pain and i hope atleast one point from above will help you in some way or the other.But to be specific, if you can give some answers to the below questions . You can actually help your ex-girlfriend in a better way.Is she a type of girl ,who keeps everything within her and never properly shares with anyone?If YES, then does she have any close friends ? or u have any good mutual friend?Before posting this question,did you have any idea to make her comfortable? or did you try anything?

Do men want emotional intimacy?

Eleven Minutes by Paulo Coelho.The book was basically about a young prostitute. She choose this profession because she wanted to be a rich in short span of time, during her profession of prostitution she encountered with different men. As all men were/are not same so their demands were also not same. Some wanted to fulfill their physical desires while other want emotional calmness.Some quotes from Eleven Minutes, which justify that men want emotional intimacy rather than physical intimacy.She(sex worker) read studies of the human emotions, because all her clients were in some kind of emotional pain. She realized that releasing tension in the soul could be as lucrative as releasing tension in the body.To her surprise, that one in every five clients didn’t want her in order to have sex, but simply to talk a little.They(men) wanted to talk about the pressures of work, about their unfaithful wife, about how lonely they felt, how they had no one to talk to.The business executive, who has every reason to feel wanted and happy, becomes the most miserable creature on the planet. Why? Because he has no one to talk to.They paid all hotel and bar bills, but when the moment came for them both to take off their clothes, the man would say,no, that won’t be necessary.I might not justify all my points in this answer just because a book mentioned these lines,because book can also be written in fiction or non-fiction manner. Yes, men do want emotional intimacy because they are also human being.

Why do we tend to cry more if someone's comforting us?

Regardless of the reason for the tears, when a person suddenly starts crying they can feel embarrassed for getting so emotional and make an attempt to stop crying.  If someone close to them steps up and tries to comfort them, whether just sitting there and listening or physically putting their arms around the person, it is a way of telling them that someone is there for them, which often elicits more of an emotional response (more crying).I have held a few people as they were crying, and I have noticed they always seemed to cry more knowing they had someone's arms around them and a shoulder to lean into because they appreciated the comfort so much they had more of an emotional reaction.  One time, a friend broke down in front of me and a group of people after his daughter's funeral.  Soon after I walked up to him and put my arms around his shoulders, he buried his face into my neck and shoulder and cried for several minutes as I held him and rubbed his back.  He told me afterwards that was just what he needed because he hadn't been able to really cry since finding out.