How can I control my anger?
There once lived a boy who had a bad temper. He would get angry at every little thing. One day, his father gave him a bag of nails and told him, "Every time you get angry, hammer a nail into that front wall."And so the activity started. On the first day, the boy hammered 50 nails. The next day, he hammered 40. Each time he used to go there, he repented being angry - it was quite a challenge to hammer a nail into that damn brick wall! Slowly, he discovered that controlling anger was easier than hammering, and the number of nails hammered started going down.Eventually, a day came when he didn't get angry, and he felt the joy of it. Now his father gave him another task, "If you do not get angry the entire day, remove one nail from the wall." After several days, all the nails were removed.Now his father took him near the wall and asked him what did he see. The boy replied that he can see holes in the wall. The father then explained to his son: "These holes are like the scars that you leave on people when you get angry. No matter how many times you say sorry, the scar does not go."So I suggest you two things:Realize that words once spoken cannot come back. Your anger hurts others and leaves a sour impression that lasts forever.Each time you get angry, "hammer a nail". Simplest thing you can do is to carry a pocket diary and put a line each time you get angry. Then at night, count the number of lines for that day. If you make this a habit, each time you would get angry, you would be reminded to note it down. Indirectly, you would also realize that you getting angry. And because you are conscious and aware at that time, you would find it easier to control your actions and subdue anger.I hope the day comes soon when you don't have any line in your diary.
How to control my anger?
I am very sure that I have anger issues. I think I control it much better than before, because I used to break things when I was mad. I have not broken anything in years. Now, I tend to get very angry and I end up yelling at family and friends, then I feel very bad about it later. The things that I just can't control my anger about are when someone says something offensive to me and when my parents start arguing about stupid stuff. There are also times when someone will give me unclear directions when driving and it makes me very angry. How can I control these issues?
How to control my anger?
I have one thing to say to you that might make you stop, YOUR 14 before you let your ' anger ' go to your head, consider the problems other people have, consider how your parents have more problems in their life than you do, trust me, THEY DO. You think they don't want to get angry and just punch someone? Trust me, THEY DO. Your friends probably would want to punch you too if you keep getting angry at them too, one of these days your anger will come back to bite you in the butt because your going to get ' angry ' at someone who IS bigger than you and well he or she is just going to show you how to really get angry. Anger isn't but since your 14 i'm sure you haven't heard that quote, the best way to deal with anger ( lol and trust me I would know I played a lot of video games when i was younger, I went through 7 tv's) is to just ignore people, trust me it's a lot easier than it sounds. Just ignore people, put up the strong tough guy/girl act and that's it, that's how I do it. Well obviously don't ignore people 24/7 but when you start to feel annoyed, just start ignoring people simple as that. Ignore,ignore,ignore. Music is also great, if you listen to anything lame or something that gets your heart and blood pressure pounding than stop listening to that too. Here is a list of great music artists that you should start getting into (IT HELPS): - Empire of the sun: (best song in my opinion: We are the people) - Grizzly Bear: (best song? Two weeks) - Gary jules: (best song? Mad world) - Devotchka: (best song? How it ends) - Bobby Mcferrin: (best song? Don't worry) - Bob Marley: (Best song? I shot the sheriff) - Bill evans: (best song? TOO many options lol just choose one they are all great) - Art Tatum: (best song? Again, too many options!!!) - Mazzy Star: (Into Dust) And just Fyi anger if it's not controlled can kill you later on in life, (heart attacks, ruptured blood vessels ect.) I hope this helps, it helped me dude.
! IDK how to control my anger! an need help!?
as much as i try to keep cool i cant! im 22 a female! and life is good! im working in school my own apartment with my boyfriend. BUT it seems anything ticks me off! people overly calling to many texts at once! i turn into freddy kruger and wanna cutt someone lol. now i joke of it but dead serious. i get into catty screaming matches with ppl in the street! i once got pepsi instead of cola at a resturant and omg created a big deal over nothing! in the moment im in rage noone else matters as long as i make them feel bad then im happy! *will report uncalled for answers*
I Can't Control My Anger...HELP!?
I started having anger issues at age 12. They didnt get really bad until about last year. I scream at the top of my lungs until my voice gives out. I get so angry that I can't see. I cry for hours just to make myslef feel better. Now I'm 15 and it just keeps getting worse and worse. But the part I don't understand is that my outbursts come out of nowhere! Even the littelest things will turn me from happy and calm to crazy and Hostile. I've been in several fights and every time I do get into a fight I end up hurting the person really bad. I need help. I can't control my anger and I'm afraid Im going to hurt someone worse than I already have. Do you know what Could possibly be wrong with me?
My nature is very angry. How do i control my anger?
You should see a counselor about this. You should get control of the problem as quickly as possible by using tried and true methods known to the experts so that you can stop hurting those you love.
Please help! I can't control my anger!?
I used to have the same problem as you: Controlling my anger, losing my temper, going off in rages. I also pushed people away from me because of my anger. What I learned is: you CAN do something about it. First of all, you have to get to the core reason as to why you're angry in the first place. Deep down, you know why you're so angry, so do some soul searching and be honest with your self. Stop putting yourself in situations that you know will make you angry or aggressive! Remove yourself from negative people, surround yourself with positive people. Always think before you act. Ask yourself: what would my family think of me? How is my anger reflecting back on me and the ones I love? Do I want to be known as a hot head? Have you ever tried Anger Management classes? A therapist? Also good options. Avoid drinking and drugs...these will make you twice as angry. Only you can control your anger and your reactions. It takes time and practice, but you can overcome it. I did, so why not you? Best of luck.