How do I get my brother to move on?
I think this is much bigger than Quora. You really should seek professional guidance. You know what was happening was wrong, but you both chose to do it, and I am not judging. The problem with this, as with any relationship that has run its course, is that one of the participants is not ready to move on, regardless of the type of relationship. It seems clear that he sees you as an object of love and affection beyond familial and that is always going to be a problem until he moves on. These typical relationship issues are compounded by the need for discretion and secrecy. I am sure you do not wish anyone to know. In the worst case, he could blackmail or threaten you with exposure. I don't know how old you are but you should seek professional advice, not just for the current problem, but for the possible pyschological impact of the incest that you must surely understand. The intertwining of romantic, sexual and familial feelings and responsibilities is complex and hard to untangle. If you cannot get discreet professional help, then I think you should move far away, away from temptation and away from his wrath. You should probably do that anyway. In time he will hopefully come to realize that this is for the best, but I am guessing that your mutual isolation, autism and sexual attraction is going to impact him for a long, long time and you can only be hurt if he turns angry and bitter. It is going to be a long, hard road for both of you and I wish you the best.
How to convince my brother to let me move in with him?
Im a 14 year old girl and my life in New York is HORRIBLE, not to mention after 4 years my depression is the worst its ever been and my suicidal thoughts are of course back. I cannot tell you one good thing about my life here to be honest. My brother is a HUGE part of my life and I miss him like crazy. He lives in south carolina right on the beach. Problem is, I'm 14, and I can't exactly legally be on my own I guess until 18. Until them I'm my parents possession, and I KNOW they will not let me go live with him. The other problem is is that he's a DJ, and he's constantly out djing at parties. I don't see the problem because I'm always home alone, but my brother might think so. He has a house, not an apartment. I just think life would be so much better down there and not so much I have to deal with anymore. How do I convince? (He's coming home tomorrow :D )
How can I convince my parents to not make me move schools?
I'm currently in middle school, going to high school next year. My brother went to the high school I want to go to, but because of favoritism on the baseball team he moved to the one closer where I live. I'm able to go to the school district he was once in because my mother teaches there. I talked about this to my mom last year, she said we'll see. This year, she said she kind of wants me to go to my brother's high school. I was out working on my running, and lost my breath and had to take a break. My brother said "How do you expect to make the [His HS] baseball team like this?". My Dad sometimes references to me going to his high school. I don't wanna leave my friends. I don't wanna play baseball at a high school level. I just want to enjoy what time I have left before college. I don't want to start over fresh in a new place, where I have no friends, and know nobody. With high school approaching rather quickly, how can I convince my parents to let me go to the one I want to go to (his old one)?
How can i convince my parents to move to America?
so i'm 16 and i live in europe. i've tried to convince my parents to move to the US for a long time' not only cause i'm crazy about the US but also from a financial reasons. you see, here everything is wayy more expensive then in the US, and lately my father find it hard to get a job, my brother works with him and my mum works for the average amount of money, and the taxes and electricity and water and gas and those thing are 4 times more expensive in here. also accept of the money thing my kinda dream is to live in the US so.... yeah, anyways,every time i talk to them about moving they find excusess, some are probably right but not all, see they're saying they might not get a job there (my father is a truck driver and works with electronic shops, delivering, transformer or whateverr it calls.. my brother with him. my mum also is a house agent, or Intermediary? not sure hot to call it lol) also, they say that they don't knolanguagege, which is right, but i believe if we live there they can learn easilyy right? i mean, with my brother and my help. also they say that if we do it and it won't work we will stay with nothing' cause to do that we need to sell the house and that.. but i think that in max 5 year we will probably lose the house anyways.... its a big house and all, but since everything is so expensivee.. yeah... so i mean, if we move we could, maybe, have similarr house, and we will be able to keep it (if they will find a job). also they find the wors texcusee in the world, family. not like i don't love them or something, but i know that's not a real reason, i know they reallyy wanna move' but all those excusess are just cause they're scared.... how can i convince them? for their kind of job, can they find a job in the US? is the US is as good as it sounds? have any idea how to convince them?
How can I convince my dad to let me move rooms to the basement room because I want to be away from my brother who has high functioning autism?
I suggest writing a list of why you want to move. Then take each reason and make sure it isn't just complaining, but just straight facts. Chances are good your parents won't be interested if they think you are just complaining about your brother. However if you provide some reasons that are beneficial to both of you, that would be much more successful.For instancemy brother needs everything to stay where it goes or he gets anxious and uncomfortable. Want him to be comfortable in his space. I am not that neat and spend a lot of time worrying about if I have moved something and will upset him. It creates conflict and resentment between us. I would like to be comfortable in my space too. If we had separate rooms, we both could be comfortable and have a lot less conflict.My brother s uncomfortable having friends in his room and I want to bring friends to my room. Right now, either it is his way and I lose out or it is mine and he loses,out. If we had separate rooms, we both could get what we want.
How can I convince my mother to not move back to Florida? The only reason is so she can see her family again. My 2 brothers and sister all want to stay, too. Could I legally move in with my father? I’m 16 years old.
If your Mom has legal custody you can not move in with your Dad without a custody hearing. The next part may vary from state to state but I know in some areas, at the age of 13 you can ask to talk to the judge at the hearing and request to live with your Dad. I have to warn you though, He or she might not think you not wanting to move is a good enough reason. Especially if you haven't even given it a try and I would have to agree. Being a child of divorce myself; I can tell you from experience that there is always a reason for one parent being given custody over the other and judges do not like to overturn another judges decision.I feell like you are acting like a selfish child. If your mother has taken good care of you so far, if she does not abuse you, if you have clothes on your back, if you have shoes on your feet, if you have three meals a day offered to you and a safe place to live then I think she's doing a great job. Especially with four of you. It is hard to be a single mother. If she wants to move closer to her family then maybe she needs their support because it does not sound like she's getting any from you.You only have 2 years left. Just suck it up instead of turning everyone's lives upside down; start planning your future. You need to focus on what you want to do for a career and what you need to be doing to make it happen. Getting a job would be another thing you need to do. Applying for scholarships should also be at the top of your list and getting your grades up so you can get into the college you choose.If you realky want your life to change then quit wining about it and work to change it.
My brother is in his mid-20s and won't move out of our parents' house. How can I encourage him?
Here’s a synopsis of my similar situation when I was young. My brother and I are a year apart and he started his own plumbing business At age 22 and still very successful at it now at 47.I lived home until I was 24 but the entire time my brother would try to encourage me to move out. It was annoying and basically I was not him.I was smarter than him, as he puts it today.I told my brother I am not moving out because once you start working you work until you retire, I am going to prolong that part of my life for as long as I can within reason. I stayed home 2 years longer than he did and I have traveled more am just as successful and I’m 46 now and guess what.? His encouragement didn’t work and it did not do anything but let me be a kid a little longer. What’s wrong with that? My brother didn’t agree then, but he looks back and thinks I was smart.I didn’t disagree with my brother and I’m glad I did, my parents both died before I was 36 yrs old.Maybe cut him some slack. Maybe he has a good reason. A simple reason.Why encourage him at all? Everyone is adults and If your parents wanted him out they could easily take care of that, one would think.In other countries children do not leave the home until they get married.Not all kids develope the same, some have a harder time than others breaking out on their own.Some college graduates cannot even afford to move out with the current job shortage.
How to convince my parents to let me move into the basement?
I am 14 years old and I just renovated my bedroom a year ago. I wanted to move into the bedroom in the basement but my parents said no. It's my brother's room and he's away at college but will be back for Christmas in a few weeks and comes home for the summer. But I really want that room! What can I do to convince them to let me move down!?!