How do I cope with grief from losing someone close to me?
Iam in this along with you. Iam also in grief. I can only say one thing dont do anything which will harm you mentally or physically. Make decisions only when you think you are fit to make them.After doing everything trying everything i came to know one thing that grief never reduces after time passes. Sometimes days are horrible to face, i felt like doing nothing…. just stare blankly. It hurts alot and the pain of lossing can be understood with someone who also lost someone.Their were days when i did not want to eat. Tears would not come. nights go without sleep.If its possible for you dont be alone . Try to be with people who make you feel settled. Be extra busy. Double the work what ever you are doing that helps alot.Dont expect others will understand you and know your pain. People just enjoy others pain and no one wants to be in company of unhappy people.Time goes on and no will be their for you except yourself. As the time passes everything will change for others but for you it will be same.Just take as it comes to you day by day . If you wanna hide somewhere and take a break that would be fine. NO ONE CAN UNDERSTAND OR MEASURE UR PAIN.Tell me know if you want to be in touch with me.
How do I cope with boredom and depression/loneliness?
Hi,First you have to make sure that you are not experiencing clinical depression. Untreated clinical depression can lead to leng term changes to your brain and make the recovery more difficult . Please go to see a mental health professional and discuss changes that can improve your life and feelings of loneliness.
How do you cope with loneliness in Thailand?
Everything passes, all emotions come and go. Whether it is loneliness or despair or grief, it will go. Keeping this fact mindful, while not attempting to escape helps to bring clarity and calmness, which only brings further clarity and calmness when you realise it isn’t going to kill you.I see negative emotions as symptoms of survival instincts. Though we might be highly conscious, buried beneath we are still dumb monkeys who I’m sure would rather be slinging poo at a wall.I’m only afraid of loneliness because of the outdated threat of ostracisation, but I don’t need to be part of the gang to flourish any more. I know this logically, but it doesn’t stop me from experiencing it. Our instincts are very slow to change. *Leaning back on my armchair* I would even say our instincts are very slow to change as they are developed and passed on through thousands of years. Will these instincts ever catch up with our current reality? Won’t we then be living a different reality.. that calls for different instincts?For that reason, I don’t listen to a lot of instincts when I’m not in immediate danger.Loneliness kills, no doubt. But I would say it is due to mismanagement of it (likely along with other emotions). Getting a handle on it is absolutely crucial if you want to thrive in a world that is moving closer and closer to isolation.That isn’t to say we shouldn’t socialise or we shouldn’t fight back against creeping isolation, but it DOES have its benefits, and I think it is wise to explore those benefits, and to do that you have to become completely comfortable with being alone for long periods of time.Also - you’re very likely NOT isolated or alone. Look at us - we’re talking over the internet. I’m not typing this to myself. Though it doesn't compare face-to-face conversation, it IS still a form of socialising, and, for some people, provides a perfect balance. If I didn’t have this form of communication I don’t think I would spend half as much time physically alone.
What can I do to cope with the depression and lonely feeling when my friends move away to another places?
Thank you for A2A!There is a lot of good advice here on what you should do when you are low. So, I would focus more on accepting the situation. I read this long back... maybe this would help you accept that people come and go. Once you accept this, you would be at peace. People always come into your life fora REASON, a SEASON, or a LIFETIME.When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend too you, and they are. They are there for a reason...you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.LIFETIME relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life.....A Reason, A Season, and A Lifetime written by:Brian A. "Drew" Chalker©2002Hope that helps.
What are the healthy ways to cope with grief?
Everyone deals with grief in different ways, depending on the person's relationship with the person who died or left, and whether the death or loss was expected or sudden. (Any loss, whether it is a death or not, and whether it is a human being or not, can be difficult depending on the circumstances) It's ok to be upset and to cry. It's even ok to be angry. However you feel is OK. Some people find that writing about their feelings is helpful. Remember to take care of yourself. Try to eat healthy, and get exercise. Joining a support group, or seeing a counselor or psychiatrist is very helpful for some people. Counseling, seeing a psychiatrist, or joining a support group are good options if you feel like you are struggling, and don't have much support from family members. Different members of a family may react to the death of one family member in very different ways, depending on their relationship to the person who died. Don't rush through your grief. Give yourself time to deal with the situation. People who say that you should not be upset, or that you should be "over it by now," may mean well, but they are wrong. No one can tell you how to feel. Although prolonged grief can be a problem, everyone takes different amounts of time to deal with loss, depending on the circumstances. You will always feel the loss in some way. The pain will never completely go away. But over time, and with support, you can learn to live with the loss.
How do I cope when feeling lonely; having no support network i.e friends, family and just gone through a nasty breakup with my girlfriend?
I am sorry to hear that you found yourself in this difficult situation. You can overcome these circumstances if you will be patient and take the right steps! When someone is emotional because of grief or great stress good advice is: ”DON’T MAKE ANY MAJOR DECISIONS UNTIL YOU CAN BE RATIONAL AND REFLECTIVE”.Everybody knows the risk of rebound relationships. Looking for a new girlfriend now is likely to result in another heartbreak. Changing jobs, moving to another city or making a big purchase is also a bad idea.Time does not heal wounds automatically. Take steps to grieve loss of your relationship and build a support network for future adverse life events.Consider your part in why the breakup was “nasty”. Relationship problems rarely fall entirely on one party so take steps to avoid any errors you may have made this time. A professional counselor would certainly be helpful in this regard.Begin carefully building a support network. Find people who are successful at relationships, finances and social activities and seek to spend time with them. Business or professional organizations, service groups, religious meetings or volunteer organizations may help you meet such people. You become like those you hang around!In all this be cautious about entering relationships—not just romantic relationships but friendships, mentors and business matters. Guard yourself until the new relation is found to be considerate and trustworthy.Finally I strongly recommend developing your spiritual life. A strong spirit helps when we are lonely, stressed, depressed or angry with someone. I recommend reading about Jesus’ life and teachings here: Bible Gateway passage: John 1 - New King James VersionAlso here is a web page with videos, articles and blogs with different views on life, religion and relationships you may enjoy browsing and perhaps add your own perspective: 45 Lessons I Didn’t Learn in School | THREDI hope you walk through this dark time with new life skills, better relationships and compassion for others when they have experiences like yours.
What are some tips for dealing with sadness and loneliness?
One day a person went to a reknown Saint and said- I have loosen all my hopes … i really don't sees any positive things in my life.Saint with clam on his face- PL brief all the incidents which makes you sad.He- I am from very poor background, my father has laboured hard to make me educated. So, I thought I will buy car for my father once I will have a good job. But couldn't…and now my father is no more. I thought I will take my whole family on trip, once I will get promoted. But promotion is still awaited. I thought I will take long leave and will go to meet mother after completion of ongoing projects and once the project completed my mother has left us… I thought I will give time to my son , once I will switch to other company…but it also couldn't… now my son is drug addicted…my wife doesn't care about me … gradually my professional life has also degraded and today my boss has threatened me … He paused..Saint- Ok I got the point. Let's walk with me.Saint took that person to a Rose Park where many roses were planted in a row. All plants were filled with different type of roses.Saint- Son, see the Rose row, go straight through the Rose and try to pluck the biggest and most beautiful rose. But mind that, once you will cross the Rose you won't be allowed to move back and plucking of Rose is must.The person has started walking through the Rose row, he sees some beautiful rose but at the very next moment he thinks he may get much beigger and beutiful rose ahead and leaves it.. slowly he was about to touch the finish line and once he saw the Rose is about to last.. he started searching for nice rose..but unfortunately only drowsy roses were available… and as per condition he plugged the better drowsed rose.He took that drowsed rose to saint.Saint saw the Rose and said- Son, the Rose through which you have gone through is Life.. and the roses were Small Small Happiness… and being Human it is our tendency that, we always leave small happiness behind in search of huge happiness and at the end we get only regrets…Let's enjoy each and every bit of Life…If God has given you Lemon then make Lemonade..Namaste!
My dad just died and I feel so alone?
My father passed away a week ago due to a sudden illness caused by his lung cancer. So everyone knew he was ill, but the death was still very quick and unexpected, as he had been responding really positively to chemo and radiotherapy. He was the centre of my world, and I adored him. I have a very difficult relationship with my mother and stepfather and he was always there for me, never belittled or patronised me, always listened. I feel so alone and lost without him, like I now have no one left in the world who truly cares about me. As well as this, my boyfriend dumped me yesterday because he doesn't want to have to deal with my grief and the pain of my bereavement. I feel so absolutely abandoned. I don't feel I have anyone to turn to, because my dad was always the one I went to when I was scared or upset or confused. I'm only 18. I don't want to have to face the rest of my life without him. I want someone to come and take care of me and be there for me like my sister's boyfriend is there for her. I don't have anyone, and it's worst at night with no one to talk to, no one to call or text. I miss him so much. I don't know what to do. Everything makes me want to cry. I just want to fall to sleep and never wake up.