Long distance break up. Help me?
My boyfriend broke up with me last night saying he can t do the whole long distance thing. There s no other girl involved and he wouldn t cheat. He just moved across the country about a month ago and we ve been together about 4 months. He s my first real relationship/love and I m not ready to just drop this since I feel there s not a reason to. We had plans to see eachother next month and we were currently saving money for the visit. I need help to change his mind.. we re both completely happy untill he said that he wanted to end things, it was out of the blue. Please help me to change his mind.
How to break up with my long distance, long term boyfriend?
Hi Ya'll, I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years long distance. We've always talked about our future together and how we'd move-in soon, get married, have a family, etc etc. We've gone through some major ups and downs but he's always been by my side and continues to work on things about himself that make me upset. He's really an amazing guy. I've recently moved out of my parents home and, now that I'm on my own, I'm starting to realize how childish this whole long distance thing is. I've outgrown it and want to experience a real, mature relationship. I feel guilty tho because he's been on his own for 3 years, wanting the same thing as me but he waited for me to finish school. I was suppose to move to his side of the country but things didn't pan out. I also want to be with someone who I'm more compatible with and whom I don't always have to majorly change for or expect him to change for me....adjusting is one thing, changing is another. I've brought up the topic to my boyfriend before....he's very resistant to the idea of breaking up and thinks we haven't given ourselves a chance because we haven't been close to each other. I just can't take it anymore....everytime I talk to a guy or feel attracted towards a guy, I feel like I'm cheating on my boyfriend. So how to do it? He's my first relationship and I'm his first serious relationship...I'm in my early 20s and he's in his mid 20s. How to break up without causing too much pain?
Long distance breakup - Still wants to be friends?
Ok. I am currently in a long distance relationship a little over 200 miles away from my boyfriend. I am new up here and am getting involved and searching for the person that I want to become. This is most likely the case with her as well. She probably is just really trying to find new friends and experiment with her life. She told you this because she needs room to grow. If you love her you'll let her do this and try to support her. However a friendship with an ex is one of the hardest things that you will ever endure because jealous and emotions come into conflict. The best thing for you to do if you can handle it, is to try and find yourself, and test out the waters. She won't know what she's missing until the thing is missing. And of course still call her but save the emotions for a bit. After a couple of months if you still feel the same way about her, let her know that you still love her. Remember distance makes the heart grow fonder and if you take some time apart it will be so much easier to be friends or even more than that in the long run. Take this from someone whose best friend now, is her ex :) Good Luck and I hope that everything works out for the best with you!
How do I break up with my clingy long distance boyfriend?
What he will do if you break up with him should not be of any concern to you because it's the most honest thing to do. You don't feel the love anymore and staying will only make it worse. Him being clingy by itself is already a good reason to break up with him because it's unhealthy. When you break up with him he might be hurt, but if he says something like that ask him if he'd rather have you pretend. I am sure he would not want you to pretend and would feel awful if he knew you were. If he hurts himself because of it, it's a sign he has much bigger problems than a break up and he needs to seek help. You aren't the person responsible for his well being. He is and as such he needs to seek help. So just take the step and get it over with. The longer you wait the harder it will get. Hope this helps.