How do I deal with a paranoid neighbor?
My neighbor recently put a motion activated alarm in his window directed at the common walkway. It emits a door bell sound anytime anyone walks past. It wouldn't bother me as much if I didn't have to walk by it to take out the trash. So not a big deal, right. Until I saw a sign on the apt mailbox. It said that someone was putting paper over the alarm and if needed to stop to "avoid physical confrontation" and that everything was being recorded on videotape. It goes on to say that if anyone has a problem with it to "bring it on". This note concerns me for a few reasons: (1) This is clearly a paranoid person willing to resort to physical violence. (2) The apartment complex is small (six units) and is home to young women and elderly people. What is he scared of? We live in a nice neighborhood. He has a lot of junk (broken computer, knicknacks, etc.) outside of his apartment. Any advise would be helpful. Thanks.
What is the best way to deal with a paranoid and mentally ill neighbor?
Well, this is a really tough one.I have actually been in this situation. It is extremely difficult to handle. The person I knew was totally out of touch with reality, and thought even I, her only friend, was against her.I listened. That’s all I could do. I didn’t judge her or try to make her see reality. That I learned was fruitless. I listened.Also, I truly cared for her, and tried to show it in ways she could accept.I always remembered that she was truly miserable and terrified all the time.I also knew the awful truth, that her paranoia would one day cost her dearly.Compassion and understanding, and just listening.
How can I deal with my crackhead neighbour?
Me and my wife live in an apartment and have been dealing with the noise of a crackhead neighbour. She lives above us and there has been several noise complaints and the police even recently took her three children from her. Its gotten worse since then, she screams like a banshee on a almost nightly basis. At around 4 am lately she starts moving furniture around the apartment.(sounds like she's barricading the front door) Its really beginning to piss us off!!!! This paranoid tramp is keeping us up all night and the building management is doing nothing. Any suggestions?
My next-door neighbor has paranoid delusions about me and threatens me. What can I do?
Wear a hidden camera like this one: Amazon.com : SpyCrushers Spy Pen Camera - Hidden Camera Pen 720p HD Video Recorder - Free 8GB SD Card - Money Back Guarantee : Camera & PhotoThen make sure it’s running whenever he’s around. After he’s done threatening you, turn the camera around and show your own face, to prove that he threatened you and not someone else.Then once you’ve got it on video, upload it to Youtube, publishing it as “unlisted—” meaning that only those with the link can view it.After this, call the police and tell them what happened; naturally they’ll come out and talk to him, and he’ll deny everything. Once he does, you talk to the police, and show them the video on your phone, and it will prove that he lied to the police. They’ll either arrest him, or at least serve him with a restraining-order; even if he gets out on bail, he’ll have to stay away from you.Likewise, send an e-mail to the police, with the link to the video; that way the police administration will also see it, so the reporting officers won’t be able to let it slide, and there’ll definitely be an investigation.The problem with calling the police, is usually that the other person just lies, and so it’s simply your word against theirs. But if you get it on video, then make sure the police talk to the person first, and THEN show the police the video; that way if they lie, they’ll get caught red-handed.If you show the police the video first, the police might tell the person that they were on video, and they’ll either lie in response (like say you “set them up” etc), or say nothing; likewise, don’t call the police until you have the person on video, since otherwise you’ll tip the person off that they’re being watched.You want to have the person on tape, but not KNOW it; then they’ll assume that it’s just your word against theirs. And that’s your advantage.Once you’ve got them on video committing the crime, then see what they do when they think nobody saw them; and then you spring the trap.This will “impeach” their testimony in court, since whatever story they tell will be suspect due to their having been a proven liar to the law.EDIT: Also wear the pen when you’re talking to police; when you show them the video on your smart-phone, they’ll assume that you took it with your smart-phone, and not with the spy-pen. Then if the police do nothing, upload the spy-pen video of the police to Youtube as well, and go to a lawyer and send him the links as well, and get his advice.
How should I deal with my erratic neighbor?
Sounds like your already doing the right thing, be the first to talk to the office, you know the kind of crap that shes going trough, shes just blowing off all of that extra steam, if worse really does come to worse, then it might be time to have the police involved, and if you cant do that,either 1) talk to the office see if they have any other places you can rent, or 2) move
Downstairs Neighbor Paranoia?
I find it strange that manager didn't just tell you about the issues with your downstairs neighbor instead of telling you some story about someone in the next building. However, I would ignore the downstairs neighbor's silly behavior and live your life as usual. If she continues to pound on your door at unreasonable times, call the police. As the previous post states, the LL may let you out of your lease if this problem continues.
How can I deal with my mentally ill neighbor?
This all depends on what kind of mental illness this person is suffering from, there is many ways to approach this. One being that if your neighbor is trying to hurt himself or another, there is a call to action so to speak. I would speak with a mental health hotline such as 211 in that particular case, if not the case I would allow the person to carry on as they please. You could try to persuade them to do a weekly therapy session, and medication. I repeat do not scare this person that's the last thing you want to do, they are probably disturbed and fearful of society as it is. Not all mentally ill individuals are aggressive, so no need to fear for your life. Look for a silver lining as mentally ill persons are gifted so to speak with an extra something. Being sensitive and have an open mind, heart, and ears
What are some tips for interacting with a paranoid neighbor?
Well, this could be interpreted in a lot of ways. Paranoid how? Suspicious of you in particular, or just generally paranoid about everything?If they're just being nosy, tell them to mind their own business and don't worry about what they think.If it's a real nuisance, consider reporting them for harassment or moving somewhere else.If you're feeling creative, give them something else to be paranoid about. Mention some questionable gossip about another neighbor, or maybe recruit a friend to park outside their house in a white van for a few nights. ;)Recommend they see a good therapist.
My neighbour has fell out with me - am I in the wrong?
Me and my neighbour (who is 57, im 34) have been friends since I moved in to my home a year ago. She's a little paranoid and suffers terribly with depression. I have her around at my home nearly every saturday and I cook for her and we'll have wine and have a laugh. I knocked her door last night to ask if I could print off my cv for a job I needed to apply for in writing today as it was the closing date. Im not expecting my new printer until monday. She was acting really odd and went all weird and pi**ed off. I asked if she was ok and said she just needed to relax and said she didn't have a printer (I was sure she had one). So I said thanks anyway then I received a text message 10 Min's later saying "I don't want to fall out with you but will you not bother me when things break wrong for you. My job is really stressful and I don't need you bothering me - please don't take this the wrong way"!. ......Well I was gutted to say the least and I cried my eyes out stunned at what had just happened. I text her back and said i felt like i'd just been kicked in the face. She said I had taken advantage of her and was always asking for stuff! I've only ever asked for her lawnmower once when I went over the cable, then I asked if she could collect my little girl from nursery as I was going to be late collecting her after work. However she twisted about it and I managed to get out of work on time. Then last night I asked if she could print my CV for me and she's just flipped. She said she has the full support of her colleagues and husband and that i'm nasty and she's disappointed in me for being angry about it all. She also said she cuts my grass all the time and never asks me for nothing...I was like HELLO? I make her meals and cakes and take them around to her and her family as a way of saying thanks....am I missing a point here at all or is the whole thing just daft? am I expecting too much of people? I've told her to forget it all and move on. I respect her request for me to never ask for anything again and that I wont fall out with her over it. She told me to go to hell though when I told her the whole thing was like a school ground, pathetic squabble! I could understand If I was borrowing money or really taking her for a mug but for god sake how dare I ask for her to print something measly for me! Can please somebody help me out with this??
How should I deal with a schizophrenic neighbor?
If he entered your house, it’s probably because he thought it was safer there, or he followed a hallucination (visual or auditory). He may think that other people (seemingly not you, given your account) are talking to him from your house, so he went over to investigate. He probably has no ability to stop himself from believing that, if so.For three or four months I believed that people were talking to me from the apartment upstairs, and I did once think of trying to get inside so I could prove they weren’t there (or that they were?) I didn’t do that - I knocked on my upstairs neighbor’s door so that I could see inside the apartment. I very much wanted to ask if I could go inside and look around. Thankfully I didn’t.But, I probably was not experiencing symptoms as severe as your neighbor. You seem to understand well enough, anyway, that he is another human being who is living in a completely different reality than you.You may not know that atypical antipsychotic medications often decrease quality of life to abysmal levels. They all have the same goal of blocking your overactive dopamine production, which drains you and depresses you quite a bit. It may seem selfish to you that he went off his medications (and possibly, he may not have been well enough to make that decision on his own. I can’t say for sure), but it may be that he feels like his quality of life off meds is just substantial enough to continue living.Context aside, I personally believe he has the right to live where he does, but of course he doesn’t have the right to enter your home. If he illegally entered your home twice and the cops did nothing about it, you may be able to get a restraining order so the cops have to do something when he comes in.