Would you date someone with a borderline personality disorder? and Why?
Absolutely not. You are asking for grief if you do. Don't EVER voluntarily enter into a relationship with someone who is telling you they are diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. I hope you will take my word for it and not feel compelled to see for yourself.
Can an Asperger's sufferer be manipulating and abusive?
I also have a friend who suffers from a level of Asperger's. It's different from a sociopath or a psychopath, who have no comprehension of right or wrong and no feeling/empathy. Perhaps your friend has a form of Asperger's that impacts her impulse control; ie, raging uncontrollably, violent acting out, etc. Or she may actually be a sociopath or have psychopathic tendencies....brilliant comprehension of manipulation, lying to get what she wants, feeling no remorse. The bottom line is this: YOU'RE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HER NOR CAPABLE OF HANDLING HER BEHAVIOR. You're not trained in this type of thing. To save your own peace of mind, which you deserve and should hold above everything else before trying to help anyone, END THE FRIENDSHIP. Your friend needs more help than you can give her. It also sounds as if she's getting worse in her behaviors and compulsions. She needs PROFESSIONAL help. I've been in cognitive therapy for dealing with a similar situation and my therapist told me that I couldn't help my friend, that I needed to walk away. I was too close and feeling too much; too much guilt, too much hope, too many misguided intentions and I was simply not emotionally nor clinically equipped to handle my friend's issues, as much as I wanted/tried to understand. Withdraw from the relationship. No more calls, no more interaction. She'll find someone else to cling to. Save yourself. Keep in touch with her family and if she gets better, slowly re-establish contact and see how she's doing. Good luck.
Why is personality more important than appearance??
I don't believe it to be so. In fact I think appearance is very important and helps to better the personality. I do not mean being beautiful, but taking care of your outside appearance is what makes you have a confident personality.
How to deal with a narcissistic manipulative sister?
She's always telling lies about me to people we know and have them turn their backs on me. She has told my mom lies about me just to get what she wants and my Dad who isn't her Dad. The thing is people believe her because I don't talk to people... I keep things to myself. After observing, I realize the things she's done/said just to get her way for her and her son. She's even lied about me to her son telling him that I'm abusive and literally beating him to make him believe that I'm abusive(I contacted CPS last night). She tells everyone that I'm abusive to my nephew when she's the one beating and screaming at the kid to have him be like her. All I do is put him on timeout when he does does something disrespectful and make my voice more assertive. She goes and tell everyone that I'm beating on kid which is lies. With her manipulative ways, she makes people not listen to me. Why does she do this? I don't know. Anyway, my mom has two houses. One in Haiti and one in Miami. I fear that she will put both in my sister's name thinking she'll share with me, When actuality she only cares about herself and child. I want to talk to my mom about this, but she's going to think I'm being manipulative when my half-sister is the manipulative one. Please help.
My sister is a narcissist. How do I deal with her?
My approach to dealing with narcissists and other personality disordered people is to minimize your interactions with them. It can be challenging when they are siblings. I believe one of my sisters is personality disordered so I basically, just handle her gently and try to only interact with her on a superficial level. I also try to only spend time with her when other people are around because then she is more likely to be on her best behavior and not abuse me. I realize that you are still a child and I am an adult, but it is the same thing. When a narcissist or other personality disordered person sucks you into their drama or becomes abusive, you have to say: "I will not tolerate this anymore". Frequently, they like to complain and never solve any of their life problems for two reasons: 1) personality disordered people rarely take responsibility for themselves and just blame others; and 2) they don't like to "fix" things because then they won't get attention; they like the reward of remaining sick. So, when someone in my life continually calls me and wants to blab about their horrible job or husband or whatever their problem is, and I have already given them some suggestions for dealing with the problem and they refuse, I cut the call short and say: "I am really busy, I have to go. We have talked about this many times before and you are still living in the problem and not making any changes in order to find a solution". If you don't do this, then you are just going to waste a lot of time that you should be spending on realizing your own dreams. Sometimes, you have to sever ties with narcissists or other personality disordered people who are extremely abusive if you can't manage them; I had to sever ties completely with my brother because he is extremely abusive and filled with rage--so much so that I am actually afraid of him.