How do you stop a narcissistic ex from the continuing bullying, the controlling behaviour and lies?
You don’t stop a narcissist from being who they are. What you do is stop putting yourself in a position to be bullied or controlled by his behavior.You’ve achieved step one; you broke up with the ex.Now comes the hard part. Step two is No Contact. This isn’t just for him, but for you too. While in the relationship, you demonstrated how you could be bullied and controlled by the now ex.He will attempt to exploit those same things about you now that you’ve broken up. He’ll most likely go from mean and condescending to sweet sounding, just to get you emotional and lure you back in. And he knows the ways to get you to respond.Remember that a narcissist cares less about how you respond and more about just that you do respond. Anger or love, its all intense emotion that proves to him that he still can affect you, and that’s his power source. It’s why he keeps coming back to get reactions out of you.Going No Contact allows you to cut off all communication with the ex, thus cutting off his emotional food supply. Meanwhile, you’ll have time separated from the drama to undoing the reprogramming your ex did to you while in the relationship. Narcissists are usually good at finding ways to make their abuse victims feel dependent on them, and they hype up the fantasy until you can’t see reality anymore. You’ve got to break the mindset that keeps so many victims still latched onto their ex long after the terrible relationship ended.Remember that No Contact is not the same as No Response. You need to cut off methods of communication, not just ignore the messages as they roll in. No Response keeps avenues open for your yet deprogrammed subconscious to cling to. It’s not good enough to not answer the phone when it rings right now. You’ll find yourself still connecting to the past.
I cut myself because of bullying?
I'm being bullied at school but I don't want to tell the teachers or anything like that, counselling teachers, helpers, etc. It all started at the beginning of September, and they wouldn't stop. Its a daily basis now.. All I've been doing is ignoring them until they started to say really mean things about me and I just couldn't take it anymore, and I wanted to just break down and cry, but I know they'd make fun of me even more, but all i did was ignore them. All they do is make fun of you for their OWN entertainment purposes, and i'm sick and tired of it. Everyday, even if they see i'm happy or smiling, they'll come over, and ruin my day. I can't tell them to back off, because they'll be like " ooh, we're sooo scared. " I've actually cried once, at home because of this. Its not like any of my friends would even defend me. Considering that she's one of the bullies sometimes. And she never hangs out with me anymore..so..I wouldn't ever count on her, even if she was my friend before. But i've actually gave myself cuts because of this, and I felt like dying. I didn't even want to go back to school. I was scared to go back. They always call me rude names like slut, whore, bit*h, c*nt, lg, ugly faced. And all I've done up to this point is ignore them. But I honestly want to die because of them, and even if I did, everyone would know the reason I died. Bullying. And when I started to cut myself, I did it with a kitchen knife, and it was pretty deep and I bled a lot..But what should I do to make them stop? Thanks (:
What do I do when I find out my bully is cutting?
Do the right thing, The same thing you would do if you figured out the class nerd, or the new shy girl, or the head cheerleader was cutting themselves—-that is what you should do for the person bullying you.Notice I did not say you should do the same for the bully as you would do for your close friends. With close friends you have to be careful that you are not violating their trust and confidence in you. Betrayal could push them over the edge, so you have to lovingly talk things over with friends. In the end, with friends, you still need to have them get help, and stand by and support them.But with acquaintances, as well as with the bully, you go to the school counselor—after you talk with your own parents about what you are compelled to do. Ask your parents to stand by and support your decision to do what is morally right.
Should you stop people from cutting you in line?
You should do what ever you want. If you feel the need to stand up for your self, do it! Why not? Those that cut in line do it, so putting them in their place is fine.I normally don’t do it. I just don’t care. Lining up is one of the most boring things in life. So when I am in one, I am day dreaming. I know that there has been few scenarios where I even smiled at the person cutting in (seconds later I thought “I should tell them to get back”, but it’s just too late).I feel similarly in traffic jams. If I am going somewhere where I don’t need to be on time, I do not care. I listen to my music or my book, look out the window or day-dream. There are times when the traffic moves and it takes me seconds to notice (though I rarely get beeped for this).Years a go I was insecure about my place in the world. So these habits of mine were alarm bells within me. I would say things like “God, why am I such a push over, letting people cut in line.” Or “I should be a better driver” - I am terrible at it.But as I became more confident in my own skin, I find a serenity in most of my habits. One of them is that I don’t care to make people be like me. So I really believe you should do what ever you want, if you want to practice standing up for yourself, go ahead. I wouldn’t even want the line-cutters to stop doing their thing. They should do what they want, and accept to be blocked when they do.Years back I read some book (I can’t remember the title) talked about how much time we spend doing chores, for example; in traffic and at various stores. And in most part, we do these by reenforcing the fact we hate doing them, and that this is bad for us. This totally resinated with me. Whilst queues and traffic jams don’t bother me, I hate being in waiting rooms, and the way I feel when I am there it really is stressful - stress for no reason what so ever.Whilst that has nothing to do with your question, I think it helps to think about how much are you actually standing-up for your self and how much are you just putting yourself in a stressful situation.As for the idea that you are mending a wrong … meh!
Am I immature for cutting? Serious answers please?
Ok I started cutting about a year ago and never really stopped. I cut cause I really have no friends, bullied a lot and I just feel like a complete loner and loser. I mean I have people to talk to but nobody that's close to hang out and stuff just small conversation. Anyways Ive grown up always being bullied till this day. Last year I got bullied a lot like followed, beaten up, threaten etc. I went through a lot of depression last year and I just started cutting. Anyways my friend knew last year about my problems cause I had a bunch of braclets on and he tried taking them off to see them and I overreacted and was like no and he told me to show him or he was gonna tell the teacher I'm hiding something's or some stuff like that so I ended up showing him. Till this day I hide them, I wear pants and I wear braclets to cover up my cuts so I'm not an "attention seeker" it's just my way to cope. Well he latley kept bringing it up after its been a couple of months since he found out. He really made no effort to I guess help me ( I don't expect him too) or just show any concern. Latley he just said i hate Emos and there such attention seekers and I'm immature for doing it. I told him he will never understand unless u been through it but he just kept insulting me for it. Am I really immature for doing that? Serious answers please. Thanks guys
Im running out of places to cut that i can find?
I've been cutting for about 6 weeks. I've just been doing it on my hips where my underwear covers. I've started running out of space to cut there. I don't want people to know I cut since I already get bullied and called emo. Don't tell me to stop because its the only thing that stops me from wanting to kill myself or someone else. Anyway where can I cut that I could hide or that isn't too risky to injure? Should I keep it a secret? A counselor knows about it and my mum does too but that's it. Sorry if this is triggering but please answer
What should you do if you're bullied without snitching?
Although ‘snitching’ is portrayed in movies as a ‘rat’ and almost universally shunned by everyone, in reality when support is needed there is nothing wrong with seeking help. To seek help, someone in authority needs to know what’s going on.If you want to try to stop the bully by yourself, do understand that it’s very likely that the idiot (bully) may escalate and physically attack you. So, aside from asking firmly for the bully to stop, or leaving the area. Putting distance between you and the bully will only be a temporary fix if you have to see this person on a routine basis e.g. work, school, family.Think about it, if every victim reported a bully, most likely there’d be less bullying. The only reason likely to not report a bully is fear of escalated bullying. Which is exactly what the bully needs to thrive. Fear.Don’t buy into it. Report it.
Help im being bullied?
You said make your life a living hell if you actually want to stop bullying gain weight and muscle and upgrade Stamina stop cutting for that is for losers I was in your predicment. You should learn Boxing or wrestling physical is the only way you can get them to the stop or you can show them that you have a very paticular set of skills skills that make it a night mare for people like them I started fighting everyday the loses made me stronger look up how to fight or get a fightios add me on Facebook I can show you how to fight if you want to or you can feel sorry for yourself and fight PAIN IS TEMPORARY my Facebook is Raphael Clark-faust
My coworker is always cutting me down in subtle ways. Is she bullying me?
In short, Yes. that is a textbook definition of verbal abuse, which constitutes bullying.You have several choices. you can feed her her own medicine, report her to higher ups at your company (which will probably only work if you are more senior than her), find a different job, or you can do what i would choose to do.Befriend everyone except her. have a couple of your other coworkers over at a time and make friends with them. Act your absolute best in front of them. completely disprove anything negative she can, has or will say about you.Then, proceed to ignore her completely. never be alone with her. cut her out of your life, and interact with her in the absolute least capacity possible without seeming like a total dick.She can do 2 things: stop, or get worse. getting worse will do nothing, and if she doesn't come to realize that soon, then she’s probably on the spectrum. her influence should start to dwindle, and soon the hunter will become the hunted. but you aren’t going to hunt her. the ultimate ignominy for her (although she may not realize it) is to befriend, defang, and deweaponize her, then draw her into your circle of friends and forget any ill will ever existed between the two of you.