How to deal with a condescending boss....?
I am getting to the breaking point with my boss... It seems like she's always saying, why did YOU do this, why did YOU do that and treats all of us here in the office like we are children. Speaking for myself, I am far from a child and a very professional worker. I have a bachelors' degree in my field or work and I am far from stupid. I haven't been given tons of great training and when I do get any help, it's too fast and I think she even battles dyslexia because she is always reading numbers out of order and telling me to do things backwards of how they should be. And when things turn out wrong, I get blamed for it! It's frustrating as all get out and I just don't know how to handle it anymore. I go home angry and I feel like I am visably frustrated at work. My husband said from the beginning he didn't trust her - said she was a backstabbing ***** and to watch out for her. Just looking for tips on how to handle the stress until I can find a new job that is comparable...
How do I talk to a condescending boss?
I work retail part time. I am a 21 year old college student, so there isn't much else I can do while trying to earn my degree in Business Administration. My assistant manager is condescending to me at times, and I really don't understand why. As an example, today my assistant manager wanted me to take the items from the "U-Boat," a wheeled device for transportation of merchandise, for those who do not know, and put them on the shelf where they belong. No big deal. Standard procedure. My assistant manager then said " What you should do is put the empty boxes to the side, and then put the empty boxes on the U-boat when everything is all gone, okay?" Now, this is not only self explanatory, but something I have been doing for the last few months I have been working there. I always feel so degraded and put down, talked down to and I really do not understand it. I am a reasonably intelligent human being, and no one else treats me this way. The head store manager is always good to me and frequently gives me complements on the way I talk to customers and how quickly and efficiently I get tasks done. He treats me as an equal, not a little kid. I'm not sure how to talk to this person, especially since I'm not sure if I am overreacting. I've tried to drop subtile hints that I am not some sort of basket case, but its obviously not working. Its getting annoying. What should I do, if anything at all? Sure, sometimes I will ask my assistant manager questions and ask for permission to do certain things, but only because I do not want to mess up and compromise the merchandise inventory or make a bad presentation. I'm not sure if that makes me sound unintelligent to her to ask so many questions, but its only because I want to get the job done right. Thank you!
How do you deal with a condescending boss?
Keep the enemy close........The best way to make them go away is always ask questions even if, you know the answer. They will begin to avoid you and ....then you will be at peace and if, they return asked even more question.....they just want to be important and feel needed
How do I deal with a SIL who is condescending, snappy, and judgmental?
Every time I try to open up a conversation with her, she acts snarky and belittles me. She treats my husband and children with respect and love, but purposefully tries to exclude me as a member of the family whenever around, even going as far as to try and discipline my children herself. I'm afraid to say something and make matters worse. I don't know what to do, but I know I don't want to continue feeling like less of a human being whenever she's around. I've talked with my Husband about the way she conducts herself, and when I asked him if it was something I'd done, he basically shrugged his shoulders at the matter, saying 'that's just who she is'. Maybe that's true, but it's difficult for me to accept that as an answer, seeing as she shows the rest of my family a different side of herself. What do I do?
What is the best way to deal with a boss who is condescending, rude and intimidating? She can be down right scary to deal with.
This can be the single best experience ever.If you can learn to work with someone that you experience as difficult, your entire career will flourish and you will have every advantage.This is entirely up to you. If you can do brilliant work professionally, graciously, work diligently and not gossip or spend time on personal things, you will become the most valuable employee and your difficult boss would do anything at that point to keep you and make you happy.Many will quit, as they don’t love their job or see it as a positive career choice. If you do love your job and are interested in a career, this is a great challenge for you.
How do you deal with an impatient, condescending boss who talks to you like you are an incompetent idiot?
Last time I went to the doctor, I told him that I was taking weight loss pills prescribed by another MD. A doctor is an authority figure for a patient.Now, I had researched the pills before taking them, the other doctor had seen me several times and was an expert in his area. I was taking the pill with great success (20 pounds lost in four months), my labs were great (better than before), my BP was below normal and I felt good. But my PCP talked to me like I was an incompetent idiot for taking the pills and so was the prescribing doctor for giving them to me.I am of an age where I really don’t care what my PCP physician thinks and am very proactive and co-responsible for my health.One of the things he yelled was, “No cardiologist would approve of you taking these pills!” I replied, calmly, “But I don’t need a cardiologist, do I? Then, who cares what a cardiologist would think.”I was calm, refuted all his concerns and generally acted like I felt: I know what I'm doing and you, doctor, are the idiot.He calmed down.It worked for me.
How do I deal with my boss telling me that I am condescending, but then says I have potential?
I am going to answer this question assuming that your boss is looking out for your best interests. In a perfect world, that is what bosses do. If he told you this and indicated that you have potential, he is intimating that your attitude is holding you down from advancement in the company. Good interpersonal interactions are critical to the smooth functioning of a department. You need to take this as a warning.Many times condescension, is a trait of control freaks or egoists, two types that find it hard collaborating on projects with their peers, as well as keeping a job. They feel they are superior to everyone else, when they are not. Humility is a real good trait to pick up and use. If you can’t get along with your co-workers, you will find yourself out of a job. You could be in the middle of a personnel crisis and have no clue.Clean up your act and realize that you are your own worst enemy. Go to your boss, hat in hand, apologize, and ask for advise on improving your relationships at work. First, it will confirm that you have the potential that he recognized, it will score points and when you reform, you will score more points.
How to deal w/ a condescending roommate?
My roommate and I met and we were really great friends for the frist couple months of school. She has travelled all over the world and I haven't, she is basically rich and I'm not, i'm from a really rural area and she isn;t. I constantly feel myself being talked down to like i'm something less. When we talk and she uses a big word or something, she stops in the middle of the sentence and asks "Do you know what that word means" like i'm not smart. I think she is so narrow minded that she thinks that since i'm from a rural area then i'm supposed to be ignorant. I have a 4.0 GPA and I'm younger than her and I'm a junior and she's a sophomore. I can't stand it. Also i'm a person who will avoid conflict at all costs, but I don't want to keep letting her say slick things to me. Lastly she talks really proper and I use slang when I'm at home, she tries to use slang and uses it wrong, then she asks me well did I say it right, if I say no then she says "well I'm sorry we all can't use slang like you" That really pisses me off.
How do you deal with assholes at work? The condescending ***** is getting on my last nerves!!!?
Your suggestion seems good. I hope your boss is understanding. One other thing you can secretly enjoy is that you make this person very nervous. They are very intimidated by you. They are weak and insecure. But they portray perfection and pride in your face. They will never admit to the competition how pathetic their lives really are. If you can ever work these emotions out, and get to the place that you do not let their immature behavior bother you, then you have already won. This will both drive them insane, and cause them to leave you alone (but only after ratcheting up the annoying behavior more to test your resolve to "stay aloof" to their foolishness). Eventually a person like this will wear everyone out. Furthermore, if your boss cannot see how destructive and demotivating it is to work in such an environment, then the boss is making a BIG MISTAKE. He is sacrificing the short-term (results he likes today) for the long-term (his total inability to influence his staff in the future because of consistent bad management). Praying for you.