How to deal with someone you hate?
I have to deal with my second worst (good thing it's not my worst) enemy everyday at school and on the bus. She's very different from me and we barely agree on ANYTHING. She annoys me like heck and reminds me of all the past hate I had for my worst enemy (all my life, I've only come to hate two people...). This well, er, "friend" is like stuck to me and she just has to be my "friend." But then she's going to become all popular and be all snobby, even though she is denying it. It's like she forgets me whenever she's hanging out with all the other snobby people. Please, would someone give me some advice? P.S: I'm currently going to act all sweet and nice to her... but I'm never, ever, ever, ever, EVER going to be her friend anymore. I hope that will be better for all of us. But... I don't think it's working. Please, any help???
How do you deal with being hated by someone you love?
The conventional wisdom would probably be to let it go and don't let it bother you... but if only that was easy to achieve.It largely depends on how the relationship ended up the way it was. The problem is that I am a sentimental person, for the better or worse, and feelings stick to me for a very long time.If it was my fault, I would most likely be wrecked by hurt and guilt.If it wasn't my fault, or due to a misunderstanding, most likely I will end up resenting and hating that person in return. I figured it stems from the hurt and anger I felt from the sort of rejection it was, and it is a reactive response, "You hate me? Fine! Because I hate you too!"I usually let it be... I vent it with internal screams and finding a friend who would listen to rant to because it felt unhealthier to suppress which could make me crazier.Thankfully, over the years I've learnt better to let go of guilt. I no longer simply rage; I tend to introspect a lot and these days I've added a new series of perspectives and actions to my introspection sessions:Learning to forgive myselfWhat can or did I learn from the problems I hadHow not to repeat the same mistakesNumber 1 takes a lot of effort... I kind of... brainwash myself into it by repeating "forgive" to myself nonstop and then just try to stop thinking about the stuff that makes me hurt.For anger, I have not figured out the best way to deal with it. I try to let it go by ignoring the people who hurt/hated me. I can't help getting angry at them sometimes when my mind shifts to them, but I try to shift my attention elsewhere when I do so I don't think about them. It's not worth getting upset over people who doesn't care about you, and definitely not worth it by giving them so much control over your emotions and life.
How do I deal with a person who hates me?
It's really unfortunate that we all wish to be loved, yet, some would easily jump to hating on others. If you've been a victim of hate or cyber bullying, this should be inspiration enough for you to tackle those a-holes.But first, let's understand what builds hate in people. Haters are usually people who are insecure. Know this. It has been established time and again that if people hate on you or criticize you without you having harmed them in any way, they most definitely are jealous of or intimidated by you. And their hate directed towards you is only their defense mechanism. Because they know no better."Not all insecure people are haters, but all haters are insecure people." ~ Jack Schafer, Professor and AuthorWhether you're a person who actively voices out their opinions or not, as long as you're on social platforms, you've most definitely experienced some kind of hatred - directed towards you or one of your social connections. But, it's amazing how people have started taking hate on social media, turning it into something nicer, and throwing it back into the digital universe. Earlier last year, Australian academic, Susan Carland decided to donate $1 to UNICEF for every hate tweet she received.This Is Exactly What You Should Do When People Make You Feel Ugly.This understanding of haters and bullies has led to many people coming up with ways to easily tackle them. Here are some:Be calm, and don't react. Because that's exactly what insecure people look for - attention. And knowing you got affected by their snarky remarks, will make them feel like they have some sort of power on you.But if you must, respond - instead of giving into stimuli, take a couple of milliseconds, and come up with a quip instead to tell them off.Don't take what they say, personally. Remember, it's not you, it's them.Know your own strengths (and weaknesses), and concentrate on those (the strengths, of course) instead.Know your opponents' strengths and weaknesses too. Then point them all, and say, "You see, like I just pointed out, you have some strengths and weaknesses too. We all do. So, we're all the same."Thanks for A2A!!
This kid hates me for no reason... how to deal?
If you have a lot of friends then I would not let this one kid make you feel insecure. Write back on your wall about how much attention he seems to pay you or something along these lines. That is actually considered bullying and they are making laws against that now. The guy that answered is totally right, everything changes in college. Nobody acts like this. Just ignore him. It does strike me as funny that no one likes you but he still makes a point to write on your wall. Is he trying to prove something to somebody? He is a joke...just ignore him, hard as it may be, rise above it. And by the way, NEVER quit anything because of someone else....just get angry and run harder and faster at track. RISE ABOVE HIM.
How do you ask someone if they hate you?
Most people won't answer this honestly, even if they do hate you.
How do you deal with someone who hates everyone and everything?
I doubt its just people's stupidity that makes him hate them. A lot of highly intelligent people do not despise the rest of humanity merely because they feel cleverer than most people. I understand the feeling, because I had that when I was young, but it is not just about other people's stupidity, because in my experience even normal people have interesting things to offer every now and then, and even the most intelligent people in the world cannot understand all the facets of existance. I suspect he has probably been bullied, abused, or otherwise badly treated, and his hatred of other people is based on that, coupled with confirmation bias (people say stupid things and that justifies his hatred even more, then his hatred becomes so important he ignores the good parts about people and focuses on everything that would give him a reason to hate them more.) He wants to hate people. I'm sure he's intelligent and it can sometimes be a difficult gift to deal with, but his problem is most likely that he feels lonely and misunderstood, something which, sadly, seems to affect you more the more intelligent you are.
How should I overcome someone who hates me?
If you will keep thinking about that person every single day, every single moment you will never be able to forget him or her. The best way to forget someone is that spend more time with people who loves you. Your parents, your friends or someone who loves you for you for who you are. When you will start spending more and more time with your loved ones you will start loving yourself by being yourself. Gradually you will stop thinking about that person and one day automatically overcome him or her. But it is not a one day task. You will have to be consistent.Remember, hatred can only be overcomed with love. When you have love around you there is no place for hatred.
How do you deal with people who hate you for no reason and have no problem expressing it to you?
My recommendation -- go to your local library, or used bookshop, and start digging through the shelves looking for wisdom that is at least two-thousand years old. Why so old? Because if a book has lasted that long, you better believe it has something to tell you.My personal favourite -- Stoicism -- has something just for you.This comes from Epictetus:"If anyone tells you that a certain person speaks ill of you, do not make excuses about what is said of you but answer, "He was ignorant of my other faults, else he would not have mentioned these alone."The great Marcus Aurelius continues the theme:"Begin each day by telling yourself: Today I shall be meeting with interference, ingratitude, insolence, disloyalty, ill-will, and selfishness – all of them due to the offenders’ ignorance of what is good or evil. But for my part I have long perceived the nature of good and its nobility, the nature of evil and its meanness, and also the nature of the culprit himself, who is my brother (not in the physical sense, but as a fellow creature similarly endowed with reason and a share of the divine); therefore none of those things can injure me, for nobody can implicate me in what is degrading. Neither can I be angry with my brother or fall foul of him; for he and I were born to work together, like a man’s two hands, feet or eyelids, or the upper and lower rows of his teeth. To obstruct each other is against Nature’s law – and what is irritation or aversion but a form of obstruction."