How can I prove I didn’t do something that I’m being wrongly blamed for?
I’m going to assume that if this involves the law, you got a lawyer, and you’re working through it with them.But in the rest of life - the social, familial, workplace aspects - you may not always be able to prove your innocence.Sometimes, it takes God and years and living in a way that proves you to be an honest person.I know it’s frustrating. I’ve lived for weeks now getting blamed on several sides for something entirely out of my control.One could say I opened the door; it’s true, I did. But a baby kitten knocked on the door and I invited it in. The stampede of elephants that followed was entirely unforeseen. And it hurts to be treated like I put out stampeding elephant herd bait and hung it from the highest tree.But when you’re feeling misunderstood, you have to put your feelings aside. You have to see how things appear to others. Sometimes you can even identify how they arrived at the conclusions they did.You reject your feelings of hurt and betrayal and misunderstanding - something I cannot do without God - and you live your life doing your best.Do your best to live in a way that makes it crystal clear you are not the type to do what people are assuming you did.And leave the rest to God.
Best way to spread a rumor without getting caught?
So I am college student and was recently used for sex and lost my virginity. I know that I can't just blame him but I have to blame myself as well. I'm just so upset how things have turned out. First he bragged to everyone about taking a girls virginity and when most people found out he just didn't care. He's told his friends and teammates. He hasn't apologized to me and ignores me when I message him. I feel like I need to confront him face to face and talk to him but idk what to expect. He may just ignore me. So before its too late and another girl gets hurt like me I want to do something about it. I don't want any other girl to get used by him and make them go through what I did. I want to make it public and let people know that he is a man whore. Whats the best way to spread this without letting him know that i spread it (which he will probably know i did.) And when he wants to come and talk to me ill just ignore him just like he did to me. Any suggestions? p.s. I'm not trying to be mean or evil, i have good intentions. i don't want any other girl to get hurt by this monster.
My friend got a rumor spread about him and he's blaming me. What do I do?
Granted that you didn’t spread the rumor, it doesn’t matter how many times he blames you, or strategizes about how you had to be the one who spread it.Firmly tell him, “I did not spread the rumor.”“How do I know you’re not lying?”“You don’t. But I know I didn’t spread the rumor.”“Well, you’re pretty much the only person I told.”“You must’ve told someone else, because I didn’t spread the rumor.”“You’re always playing jokes on me like this-”“That guarantees nothing. I didn’t spread the rumor.Your stubbornness might push him to believe in you.If not that, your directness will show him that you’re not trying to make any excuses.If not that, your omitting of words like “Well, Like, Look, I…” makes you seem even more to the point and truthful.Now, if you know you had to be the only one to spread the rumor, apologize and tell him you didn’t mean to do that.Things can come out of your mouth without them meaning to. You might not have even realized it at the time.Either way, getting to the point of the problem is key to maintaining your friendship.I hope you get your case resolved.
I am being blamed for something I haven't done. How do I fix it? How do I stop people from believing I am lying?
I know this hurts the most. Even I get hurt if same thing happens to me. Reaction would be different for different scenario but I would try these things probably.Who are judging or blaming me? My dear ones? I will go to next level. If not dear ones, I dont give a damn about the blame. But if something legal stuff associated with that I would seek professional help. My dear ones would understand me. So I would try to explain each one of them in a calm conversation. I would explain the situation, my intention, outcome, the blame, how deeply I was hurt, what is important to me, I value their love and opinion etc.. I would be very honest, unbiased during this. If I had done something wrong, I would confess and apologize. This should work. Additionally I would confront that culprit. I would convince or drag him or her to give testimony if needed :) If it is not possible, I would atleast try some other associated evidence. Very important: I would take this case as a lesson and would be careful in future with similar situations. Some factsYou can not please all.You can not be in everyone's good books. It is better to rise your voice when it is needed, not before or after. It dilutes the seriousness. If we think too much what others think of us, we are fools. Nobody cares. Who has interest to think about others all the time? Indifference is the best punishment for people who criticise unnecessarily.
***PLEASE HELP*** random girl spreading rumors about me that ARENT TRUE!!!!?
honny, bottom line - she's pathetic & jealous. not trying to be mean, but your a FRESHMAN for gosh sakes. the fact that a junior is bothering trying to torment you is actually really sad. she needs to get over herself and "pick on someone your own size." the truth is though, rumors will always be spread so there is nothing you can do but keep your dignity and be the better person. the fact you got a softmore guy to kiss you is pretty good too, so good job there. haha. be flattered she wastes her time talking about your life, her's must be pretty boring. on the bright side, she'll have graduated soon (but then agian, she sounds pretty dumb so who knows). best thing you can do is NOT hook up with a ton of people and not act the like sleezy girl she's trying to paint you to be. if your nice, and stay sober most of the time, and a get good grades people will realize that there's no way all those lies about you can be true. sorry you had to encounter such a b****y junior, trust me, we're not all like that. but yeah, bottom line, forget about her and realize how pathetic she is.
Ex best friend spreading rumors about me?
In middle school I became best friends with this one girl. We were so close we were practically sisters. However, I guess I did something to make her mad and she spread a vicious rumor about me that I was lesbian and had crushes on 2 of my other friends. Oh, and this was in a Catholic school and my mom worked there. It was so embarrassing. All the teachers had a meeting about it, and it was discussed in every class and my name was mentioned every time. And my friend blamed the rumor on me, saying I started it to get attention, yet she changed her story when she faked an email from me claiming that I confessed to being lesbian. I'm 100% straight, was and still am. This was in 8th grade. We graduated and went to the same Catholic high school, but I changed schools last year for junior year. My old friends from that school talked to me for a little bit, but then all of a sudden they un added me on Facebook and didn't respond to my texts. We're in our seniors year and I'm still at my new school. My only friend that still communicates to me from the old hs called me yesterday to tell me that the girl who used to be my best friend spread the same rumor! Why, even after all these years, does this girl hate me so much? I never did anything wrong to her, yet even now that I'm gone she still feels the need the need to spread rumors about me. What's worse is that she tells everyone, her parents, her friends outside of school, her family, and my one friend from that school told me that the girl is planning to tell people at my new school. I'm so depressed by this situation. I lost all my dignity the first time she spread that rumor, and if she does tell my new friends, I don't know what I'll do. Any advice?
How can I get out of rumours of having sex with my boss?
Never go with rumors..they are rarely true as you well know. You need to stop living with the boss. It doesn't matter if you sleep with him or not...the fact you live in the same place is unprofessional. How old are you? Maturity really needs to step in here. Why are you masturbating in the workplace? I don't care if you live there. It's still the workplace...and you wouldn't masturbate in an office, would you? If you want to do that, do it in privacy. Talk to your boss. Set the record straight. Explain the situation and that you need to move out. This set up is clearly not working. Technically, you were having your own little moment of one-sided phone sex. It's not a rumor, it's fact. If I was the co-worker, I would have told the boss and been disgusted. Seriously...you don't masturbate at work! People aren't jealous...they want to know what you're problem is and what other favors you're getting from the boss. They aren't bullying you either. YOU were the one that started this by living with him, working with him and then masturbating to his phone message and picture! Don't blame others for things you've done. MAture up. Move out. I would consider getting another job though you can probably make this work. But you need to keep your distance from him in the office...you're their to work not to play with yourself or others. You also need to tell him everything. He has a right to know. As the boss, he needs to know what's going on in his own company.