How do i ask girl out when i have aspergers?
I like the note idea. Whether you ask her in person or in a note, though, keep your message very simple. Say, for example, "I think you're really _____. Would you go out with me?" Fill in the blank with whatever it is you like about her. Do not comment on her physical attractiveness/her body, even if that's what you like about her, because it is potentially offensive. Since you don't have much to say, I suggest you put your request for a date in a nice card. The card can make up for your lack of content, and a small gift like this makes you appear thoughtful to her. Get a female to help you pick out the card if you don't know what to buy. Be sure that when you ask her out, you actually have an idea of what you would like to do if she says 'yes.' I don't know your ages or interests or where you live, but I would recommend a date where you have something to do, like coffee, a meal, a walk, or some other interest you both have in common. You will have to make some small talk during your dates. Ask her simple questions about herself: "What is your favorite _____?" "What did you do today?" "What do you like most about _____?" "What are your interests or hobbies?" If she asks you these questions about yourself, be sure not to talk too much or in too great detail about your hobbies, or you are liable to bore her. Try not to talk for more than a couple minutes about yourself during your first couple dates. Talking too much about yourself is one of things people find most annoying, so be careful about this. If you get nervous or you don't know what to say, you should tell her the truth. Tell her that you are very shy and sometimes you don't know what to say. Tell her that even if you are quiet, you are still glad she is there with you.
How can I get a girlfriend if I have aspergers?
Not true. I have Aspergers and I am happily married. I think it is your negativity that turns women off. Also, I think you might be making the mistake of going for the shallow types, in which case you really shouldn't be surprised when a shallow person turns out to be shallow. I can't offer you any good advice. I only found my wife when I had completely given up trying and had accepted that I would be single the rest of my life.
How can someone with Aspergers get a girlfriend?
I think some women will be very understanding if you let them know about your situation up front. It will probably be much easier to communicate at first by text, email. If you are very open and honest about your feelings, she may grow to love you, even though you might have moments of awkwardness or difficulty with communication. There are a lot of guys that don't have smoothness or finesse when talking to people, but some women can overlook that once they get to know you better. The only real mistake is to try and cover up your feelings of insecurity by trying to pretend like you are cool, or trying to come across as arrogant. A lot of people that feel insecure often make that mistake. Just be very open and honest at all times, and don't be afraid to show your vulnerabilities.
Do people with Aspergers ever get girlfriends?
I have slight Aspergers and I'm 20 and I've never had a gf. Do girls notice I have Aspergers or have something wrong with me??? Is there any way I can learn to control it and learn social cues with therapy? Are there counselors just to teach people with Aspergers how to behave? I heard people with Aspergers get gf's in their 20's. I'm getting better i think. I know girls are really sensitive and people on the autisitc spectrum are insensitive. I don't know what I would have to offer a girl. I need to know the truth. I know that I lose friends sometimes. And people are intimidated by me. I dunno I'm a pretty good looking ugy and I do well in school. I have some friends and I work. I have good hygeine and take care of myself. What could i do to win a girl over??? I don't have personality and I can't play sports. Maybe drive a nice car and dress nice. Or maybe be succesful financially?
How to get a girlfriend if I have Asperger's Syndrome?
I'm a senior in high school and I've had two girlfriends before, but BOTH of them cheated on me and left me for other guys right away. I have Asperger Syndrome, and although I've improved tremendously from when I was a child, I'm still "weird" according to society. For example, I speak what's on my mind even if it offends people(which I have done many times), I give off awkward body language, I have trouble reading body language. When it comes to girls, I have trouble thinking of things to talk about and trouble having normal conversations. In society, I don't fit in anywhere, which gracefully leads into the next paragraph... My "strong interests" are musicianship/composition, foreign languages and basically anything European. I get really good grades, and I'm going to spend an entire year in Scotland for college, and someday I wish to write the music score for a film, even if I don't win a Grammy...As you can see, I'm no normal person, and I have a feeling I'm going to be alone for quite a while because girls like all of this "bad boy thrill, drama" and "swaggy" horsesh!t and sh!t, and here I am...How do you get a girlfriend if you're a Aspie?