How can I quickly get over the death of someone I love (i.e., both of my grandmothers)?
There is no way to quickly get over anything of this magnitude. You can try to shut your feelings down, but you when you have another loss, you will end up grieving not only for the newest loss, but also for the other losses. Take your time and do what you need to experience the loss. It will pop up unexpectedly and it is best just to experience it and remember your loved ones fondly. I have relatives for whom I continue to grieve for many, many years after they passed away. For the most part it is no longer an unpleasant experience. I think about them and keep them alive with my memories. As time has passed I find that when I think about them I think of pleasant memories, rather than my overwhelming sad thoughts when the grief was still raw. Grief doesn't have a timer. Just keep moving and it will slowly get better.
How to cope with the death of a loved one?
I hate how some people believe that a grandmother is not that bad, better that than your mom they say. Well my nonna was my mom. My dad was an alcoholic and left my mom. My mom had to work three jobs so all we had (3 siblings) was my grandmother. She was everything to us. She was with us twenty four seven, she lived with us, cooked, cleaned, and loved us more than I ever knew. She was sad to say; more of a mother to us than our own, but that wasn't my moms fault she just had to work a lot. My nonna was diagnosed with cancer and things seemed hopeful when she beat seventy percent of it, but two years had passed and she couldn't fight it anymore. She died this past July. It didn't hit me harder until the past few months. Its very bad. In school I just started to drift away into my own world. None of these people know me so I ignore them all. And I had a lot of friends. I just don't care for these people who I wont see come 3 years. They're all fake. Also considering I live in a rich town, and they're all snobs while I have to worry about if I'll have food the next day. So in school I just don't care to be nice, to try to be friends with people, all I care about it getting out of there in three years. I'm in my own little world. I just don't care about anyone else. Is this normal? How come I suddenly don't care for these fake friends now? And lastly, how did/do you cope with death? I cry myself to sleep constantly and when I go by her room I can still hear her voice and I cry so bad. She's in my dreams sometimes and that's when it's the worst. I miss her so much.
How do I cope with the death of a loved one?
I don’t know that I would call it “overcoming the death of a loved one”; it sounds as if you’ve conquered death or gotten over it entirely or something. Neither of which I have done!I think that, for me, I’m okay now because I took the time to grieve when it happened.Eight years ago this February, our firstborn child, whom we named Annie, was stillborn. I was in shock afterwards. I could not comprehend how the universe could be so cruel!So I cried. I asked questions. I asked my pastor why in the world God had done this to me; he didn’t have an answer, which made me feel weirdly better. So I read about it in books like “Why Bad Things Happen to Good People” by Rabbi Kushner, who also didn’t have an answer either but whose anecdotes made me feel much better. I attended church and actually spoke up in my small group, explaining that we’d lost our little girl and I didn’t know why.My pastor suggested that I curse at God; after all, He could probably take it. I never did; I never really needed to. Permission to do it was enough.I cried. Oh my goodness, did I cry. I cried every day for months. I sobbed — and I mean SOBBED — every day for four weeks afterwards.About six months after our loss, I went to a doctor and asked about the medication I was on for [my medical condition, which is pretty serious]. Could I have killed my daughter by continuing to take it during gestation? The answer was no, that is exceedingly unlikely — and besides, I NEEDED to be on said medication. Forgiving myself for whatever part I played in Annie’s death was important.Then, on Annie’s third birthday, I started a foundation to sew quilts for mothers who’ve lost children like we did. That made me feel better; it doesn’t provide an excuse for her death, but it does give me something to do with the empathy I’ve gained from my experience.I’ve helped friends who’ve lost their babies.I’ve joined the executive board of a babyloss group that helps other mothers and fathers who’ve been through similar experiences.I’ve answered questions on Quora about my experiences.Now, I can look back on my pregnancy and smile because it was beautiful instead of cry because it ended too soon (usually). Though I would take Annie back in an instant if given the choice, I wouldn’t go back to the time before she died. I am okay now.
How do I accept the death of someone I love?
This is coming from someone, who once worked on construction. I am saying this for a reason…..grief is the hardest work one will ever do. Grief is exhausting. Your body will ache. The summer I worked on construction, my body ached at the end of the day. The physical pain when dealing with grief was WORSE.People will console you….for three weeks; afterwards, they will think it’s time for you to move on. Little do they know, grief is not like getting over the flu. They are afraid to mention your loved one’s name, because they don’t want to remind you of your loved one…..as if you aren’t already thinking of the one you lost nonstop. People will offer advice, such as I know how you feel, My niece died or My dog died. Be assured that it is not the same.Well, my son died in November 1991. Nothing I can do will replace him. I joined a support group, The Compassionate Friends (TCF). It’s a worldwide support group that meets once a month. This group kept me from going insane. If you’ve lost a child, please see if there is group in your area.TCF taught me - If you lose you parent, you lose your past; if you lose your spouse, you lose your present; if you lose child, you lose your future. There is NO TIMELINE for grief. We all grieve at our one pace.There may also be support group for people, who’ve lost spouses. Hearing from people, who’ve walked in your shoes, is very comforting. One thing I’ve learn is time does NOT heal all; however, time does take you further from the moment.The BEST thing a friend can do is say, I’m sorry and give you a hug. They will say, Call me if you need me. Hec, you don’t know what you need. You’ve never experienced this.Now, I want you to know this, if you can work the stages of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression & Acceptance; you can feel & laugh again. This is not to say you will completely get over it. That is NOT an option; however, you can live a normal life. It was just be a new normal life.If you would like to learn much more about my grief journey, read the ebook, Rise Above: Conquering Adversities on Amazon Kindle. It’s also available online in paperback format.Rise Above
What HURTS MORE: Heartbreak or death of someone you love?
Both are heartbreaking but in my opinion I think it's more difficult to get over the fact that someone you dearly loved is living the life you dreamed of with someone else. Death has closure, the other doesn't.
How long does it take to get over someone's death?
I am very sorry for your loss!! :( It is very difficult to put a time frame on a grieving process. Everyone takes a different amount of time and we all do it differently. Some people can take years or never get over it and others can take only a couple of weeks. Take it one day at a time and try to remember the good times. Take care!
How do you get over someone who died??
my sister died.....my heart is broken..and i know i will never get over it.but how do i go on?i cry every ten minutes!she was my only sister she died in a car crash and she was 17!!!help plz cuz i need it...it just happened a week ago.i feel empty
What HURTS MORE: Heartbreak or death of someone you love?
death
Can you feel grief over the death of someone you weren't that close with?
When I was first informed a family friend had committed suicide I was devastated.I cried for hours.Her family was broken, her friends were destroyed.I’d met her merely once, and I don’t remember much other than her being happy, and blonde.I was devastated because I was planning my own suicide for just a few months later. Watching everything that happened after she died, I was convinced I never wanted to do that, to myself, or to my loved ones.Following her death, I attended her funeral, and finally got myself into counselling.Whenever I think about her, I still feel sad.Her death saved my life.Without her, I don’t think I would have ever asked for help, or opened up about my struggle with depression to my parents.Even now, I still cry when I think about it.Her service was beautiful, they shared so many stories about her.She may be gone, and I might not have known her.But I don’t think I’ll ever stop grieving her.She’ll always be the woman that saved my life.