Is anxiety taking over a minor situation?
Hi Mellanie,I think you're over-analysing this now rather than your anxiety taking over.HE probably feels more self-conscious if he is aware you are staring, and because he's a male he may feel that his appearance is intimidating to you, so the fact he crossed the street may have been to make YOU feel more comfortable rather than him avoiding you because he thinks you're ‘weird’.I knew a ‘Goth’ in my younger days who was very shy, in fact, he used his appearance to avoid unwanted social interaction as there was more stigma in the early 80’s than there is now, so he knew people would purposely avoid him due to all his chains and this he found helped him cope with his own anxiety about going out alone.In your situation it's hard to know what he's thinking, I doubt he thinks you're weird, I imagine he's intrigued as to why you look but say nothing, hence he seems to be actively ‘avoiding’ you to make you feel less threatened.If I were you I'd just say ‘Hi’ - if you keep analysing this then yoy may miss your opportunity to say anything - I’m almost certain he's far more shy of you than you are of him - I doubt that unless you too are a Goth that he thinks you're looking because you find him handsome, he might wish it though!I know it's hard making the first move, but what's the worst that can happen?Say ‘Hi’ and stop driving yourself crazy.I wish you both all the very best!Dr K.
How can I stopped being stressed by a situation over which I have no control?
The only person that you have control of is you.Thinking you have control over any situation is an untrustworthy risky thought.Best advice is ‘Never fight a war that you know you cannot win.‘You have control over you. You did all you possibly could do And this particular situation cannot be fixed by you. Nothing you do will fix it. Therefore there is nothing for you to be anxious about.NOTHING is for ever, at some point the situation will be resolved, but not by you.You are done. Apply yourself to something that you can do or help with.
Swinging and jealousy - why can't I get past this one person?
PeteR - Thank you, thank you, thank you! I don't begrudge him a great experience. Heck, I've hooked us up with some great ones myself! It's just this one woman and her attitude. While I'm willing to share him, first and foremost, he is MINE. No woman, even in a swinging situation, should feel she has the right to shove me out of the way to get to him. He's a very attractive man with an awesome personality. I take pride in the fact that there is hardly a female that doesn't take a second look at him. After talking to him, most women get doe-eyed. Seriously. I LOVE that. Thanks so much for your frank answer!
Are all families dysfunctional?
As unenlightened/dreaming ones, we are all dysfunctional to some degree or another. Only in awakening to what we are in Truth will we "realize" our true estate as agents of Divine Mind/Source/All That Is...and only then will we "function" as intended...holy vessels of The One, selflessly doing/being as we are directed, rather than as we choose through the selfish interests of ego's limitation and misdirection. i am Sirius
How would a sales associate correctly handle this situation?
In stores that are a Franchise Chain and have other locations you can usually call those other locations and see if they have the item the customer wants in stock at their store and either direct the customer to that store (after reserving the item for them if that's possible) or offer to have the item shipped to your store and reserved for them. If they choose to have it shipped to your store it's usually required that they pay for it, that way when it arrives it's definitely reserved for them and there's no transaction required other than them showing their receipt that it's paid for.
Does one ever get over being abandoned by his parents?
You may never get over it for as long as you live. Some may be propelled to become more independent, to become stronger, and to use the experience to build themselves up. However, for others, they may be struck with a longing that can never be satiated.For myself, I had been disowned by my family before but it only spurred me on to focus on myself. I was fueled by anger and a desire to show them that I no longer needed them.However, once the tension died down, I realize just how hard it is for me to escape from loving my family and wishing to be safe and secure with them.Would I be able to live with the abandonment if my family did not seek to make amends with me?Most likely. Not without some longing. But you have a responsibility to yourself and you deserve so much more in life. Find your happiness.
Just curious, how forgiving is Aries?
Directed toward all of the Aries (preferably women) out there or anyone that has knowledge in this department. Just how forgiving is this sign? Most seem really stubborn to me...
How do I get over a bad heartbreak and seeing that person daily at the workplace getting involved with another coworker?
How to?Very easy. Or maybe not. But certainly not impossible.There is one solid reason to get over this particular situation if you rethink again and again:-He did not choose you. He is fine to see you go through the entire episode of their chemistry and HE CHOSE SOMEONE ELSE.We tend to feel sad because we never imagined our loved ones with someone else. But start doing so.Speaking from personal experience, when i came across a similar situation, I had a moment of clarity. This was extremely needed.Suppose you forever thought of your ex lover as a great man/woman and felt sad that it ended so badly. Then you would’ve lamented over the same topic over and over again and it’s better to end up in a mental asylum than this. So for starters you can:Thank your stars that you were able to witness the bitter truth of life.You’re obviously special so you got rid of a parasite. No offence.Do some shitload of experiments with yourself and see yourself land on an extraordinary place like never before.You’re good looking. Trust me you are. And you can do a lot with those looks than just keeping it limited to camera selfies.You obviously have a fantastically working mind which basically gives you a lot of time to think about those unwanted people. Use it wisely.Lastly and most importantly, don’t forget to write about your journey on Quora. :)