What would make you avoid and dislike someone?
Some people just don't match.Personally I hate it when a person keeps bragging about himself or herself and that will makes me VERY uncomfortable.I also hate people who do not respect other people’s opinion and think they are superior than others.If they do have a great brain or very high achievement that deserves to be proud of, that would be less disturbing. However, it is always people who are not so good keep bragging about themselves and disrespect others.I also don't like people who ar very aggressive. Those people never truly understand how to agree to disagree. They have to FORCE or MAKE others to accept their ideas,and always disagree with everyone else’s ideas. In fact, we call these people 杠精 in Chinese, just to show how much they like to start a quarrel.So basically I think my dislike towards people mainly lies in their personalities. That's very important to me to decide whether I'm going to make friends with this person, the personality.
How do you stop disliking someone?
I try to put myself in their shoes. Empathy can go along way, but only so far.If that doesn't work, I ask myself if I might be projecting.I do sometimes take a dislike to someone who has similar faults to my own. When this is the reason, it takes me a shameful amount of time to admit it, but I do get there in the end.If neither of these choices are relevant or helpful, I consider that the person might be very different from me. I have had to do this with someone who is firends with a close friend. I really don't like him because we have nothing in common. He is super insecure and not content with the idea that someone mightn't be the same as him.I’m giving him some space and it's not working. The more I pull away, the more he wants to chat about football, which I hate. He hates martial arts (boxing is better, apparently) and has no idea who any of my favourite bands are. Small talk is excruciating.I am now in the position now where I have to either find something to like about him or give him some honesty.I want to be tactful. I'm thinking of this,“Isn’t it weird that we don't like any of the same things yet we always end up chatting? Let's run down a list of all the things we like but haven't mentioned and hopefully we'll find something in common. Otherwise we'll end up getting uncomfortable every time we see eachother.”OK, so it's a work in progress.My point is that you can try to find something you do like about the person, failing that try to address the issue as a problem you share with them (I.e. You have nothing but this problem in common) or just avoid them.I wish you luck. I'm pretty sure I'll need some luck myself.
How do you politely tell someone that their constant throat clearing is distracting at work?
A little over a month ago, a new employee was hired at my office and sits at the next cubicle. Since she has started, she has contstant throat clearing & coughing. When I say constant, I mean it goes on all day, every day. Certain times of the day may be a little better, but when someone is clearing their throat at least once every minute, it can become very distracting. At first, I thought she was sick with a cold (as she always looks sickly), so while its still annoying, it's understandable because there is an end in site. But now its clear that this is just her and there is no end in site. I feel bad because perhaps she does have a condition causing this, but I also know she is a smoker as well. It used to really love my job, but now its become daunting to know that I have to listen to this all day. Should I drop cough drops on her desk when she isn't there? Do I ask her to try and keep it to a minimum? How do you even approach this politely?
How can I stop being friends with someone?
So I have this friend that has been very mean to me. She has insulted me and cursed at me over text messages, she has also offended me a few times, but I don't think she notices, she also annoys me so much, and she's very nosy, which bothers me so much, and she also brags a lot, and sometimes hurts other people, or sometimes my friends, and it really makes me mad. I've tried avoiding her, but she always seems to notice, and asks me why I'm avoiding her. I've also tried telling her in the past that she's not a good friend, but she ended up crying. She's not mature at all, and we really have nothing in common, and she says we do, and she also doesn't really accept me for who I am, but still wants to stay friends with me, so she tries to fit in with what I like, but that just makes me more uncomfortable being around her. One last thing, she says she has ADHD (or something like that) and anger issues so that's why she always acts like that, but after she's said it so many times it's hard to believe. I really need some advice for how to end this friendship.
Why do I dislike dealing with people?
Dealing with people is tough I totally understand. Like I just started my college life and trust me day one I was soo damn shy I just wanted to bury myself into a hole or something.But eventually I started mingling. I realised dealing with people was tough because firstly I was afraid upon being judged by what I look like or how I behave or how I talk to someone. Take it from me no one is perfect, and once in a while it's OK to be judged you atleast get to know how much you can work on your self to improve.Secondly we fear of being ditched or we fear getting hurt. As in you finallyyyy open up to someone and that person starts ignoring you like all the time for reasons unknown. Ouchhhh! I know that's really painful.Thirdly, we fear the “bad company”. Nobody wants bad people as friends. To be precise nobody is bad it's just the situation that makes them bad.So next time your are gonna deal with people just forget or ditch all the thoughts and go for it. Give your self the chance to explore the faces and make sure in a good.Happy dealing!!
How do you politely avoid someone that you dislike without them knowing that you're doing this?
I think you could be confusing being ‘courteous’ with possibly ‘blanking’ a person you dislike.I didn’t appreciate the noise my neighbour in the apartment below me made but it didn't prevent me from nodding my hello when I saw them. Thus I politely avoided them.Holding open this limited line of acknowledgement allowed me to occasionally remind them not to slam their doors which thundered and shook my apartment.Blanking a person can have a detrimental effect which can lead to a line of bitter animosity. To nod is to be polite
How to get rid of this annoying friend?
So I have a really annoying friend and nobody likes her (if it weren't for me, she would be a total loner) I will tell you reasons why I do not like her (and also why others don't like her) first, she is backstabbing. well, she spreads false rumors about her friends and lies A LOT. She tried to break friendship between me and another friend because she wanted to possess me. She wants me to be stuck with her forever because nobody likes her. second, she sings all the time. She always sings "Take a bow" and her voice is like...totally annoying; she sounds like a mice squeaking. I told her to stop singing but she got really glad that someone was annoyed by her...(i don't really understand her way of seeing the world and how she treats other people) third, she is very feminine. She always touches her hair, flutters her eyelashes, takes photos of herself all the time and she isn't pretty at all. She tries to attract boys by touching their arms and being all girly but all the boys ignore her attempts. fourth, she expects me to be like a boyfriend. I know this sounds weird but well she expects me to be with her all the time, gets mad when I forget to text her and she is always whining and asking me to do stuff for her. It's like I'm her pet and I have to act like a Biebian....and she always talk about girls. She says that she is straight but she always talks about girls and how she was dumbstruck by some pretty girl in another class or in another year. This really ticks me off because I already told her that I'm straight (I'm not interested in girls at all. I only like boys and that's it.) but she tries to force me into talking about girls. anyways, I copy her all the time to annoy her but she doesn't really care about that. and I also tried to ignore her but she cried and spread false rumors about me so I got stuck with her again. sooo I am now looking for another way to get rid of her. she doesn't get a hint! please help!
Annoying stepdad?
Nothing. I'm sorry but you can't just get rid of everybody you don't like.