How long is too long to return a DVD you borrowed from a friend?
I kindly lent a DVD to a friend, but a month later he still hadn't watched it. At the one-month point, thinking that it would give him incentive to finally watch it, I told him that I need the DVD back the following week. However, when he returned it that week, I asked him how the movie was and he said he never watched it. He wasn't busy with work, school, vacation or anything like that which would make him not have enough time to watch it. So, how long is too long to return a DVD you borrowed from a friend? Is over a month enough time to watch it? Would you even loan a DVD to that friend again?
How to get borrowed clothes back from "friend"?
Tell her the truth, exactly what your saying up their. Say: "I want my clothes back." Firmly. "It really annoys me that you lie to me and say you don't have them. I thought I could trust you with my clothes, but obviously not. I am not trying to start a fight, but I gave you the clothes that I really liked. By lying and destroying them, I am not sure your a friend. But, if you give me them back now, I will forgive you. Don't lie to me, because I know you have them. Just tell me where they are and give them to me." If that doesn't work, than you need to get her mother into this. Get either your mother or yourself to go over to her house and talk ot her and her mom about this. If their destroyed, I am not sure their is anything you can do about it, but show her mom. Sorry, this seems like a tough situation. Hope you get your clothes back, not ruined or anything.
Have you ever "borrowed" something and never gave it back?
Yes, a very beautiful Pink Scarf from my then best friend. In India, it is common to find girls who ride motorbikes/scooters covering their face with either a piece of handkerchief or the ends of their duppattah. This is to avoid the dust settling on your face and sometimes to prevent your face from getting directly exposed to the sun.I used to ride a scooty that I loved very much when I was in India. Often me and my friend would hang out together and I would pick her up from her place. On one such occasion I had forgot to get a scarf to cover my face and asked her if i could borrow one of hers.This is the scarf that she lent to me that day. This picture was clicked on one such scooty rides.5 years later, it is still safe with me. I no longer live in India nor do I ride scooters. I still have that scarf safe and sound nicely washed and folded in my closet. It traveled with me from Chennai to Buffalo to Austin and definitely to the next place I go. I don’t use it for any other purposes as well.That scarf is a reminder of the great times we had together. We are not close anymore due to various reasons, but the memories with her and that scarf covered faces in my old scooty will always be missed.P.S I am pretty sure she knows I have that scarf of hers as a memory and won’t give it back even if she wanted to.
If someone borrows something, and refuses to return it, is it stealing? And can the police be involved?
If you are the rightful owner, can prove your right to ownership and demand it be returned and they refuse to return it, yes you could treat it as a theft. Whether someone else will do something about it depends on it's monitary value. You would have to go through certain steps like prove you gave notice of demand of return of the property...like a certified letter and a specified time in which to comply which is reasonable. Once this is done then the options are: 1.Obtain a court order mandating the return of the items. 2.Have a police officer meet you at the premises to obtain your items with proof of ownership. 3.Sue him for the value of the item or its return in small claims court. 4.Forget about it and chalk it up to experience.
Should I ask My friend to return my thing?
I hate asking for things back when people borrow them but..here goes..I have a friend who wants to borrow EVERYTHING. I always let her borrow clothes,shoes, jewelery and she never returns it anyway. My sistser bought me some really cute shoes and my friend wanted to borrow them and I didnt want to let her but she insisted so I finally said yeah and shes been wearing them ever since (2 months) and everytime I see her the condition of them gets worse and worse. Theyre like pretty much destroyed now. She has also borrowed good shirts even some shirts that were brand new and she never returns anything!!!! She has also needed her car towed but didnt have the cash so I let her borrow $60 like 6 months ago she hasnt paid me. How can I ask for all my things back without causing a problem in our friendship?! I know $60 doesn't seem like much but it is to me and my clothes and jewelry and shoes were all really cute stuff :(
Do you take good care and return the things you borrowed?
I see most people never care to return the things they borrowed and even if they did, the thing were not taken good care of and already looks like a junk when they returned it.
My friend borrowed money from me and now he has refused to return it back. What should I do?
1. When money comes in a relation, it aint a relation anymore.2. You should always be cautious with lending money, no matter what unless you're Ambani or Bill Gates.3. Consider this a lesson and you can legally do nothing about it, if you don't have documentation. Even going legal will be waste of more money and energy.4. Consult his family and mutual friends and tell them about this. How badly you need that money and its not a small amount for you.5. Despite having all his comforts now, he is still refusing, he was never your friend at least from his side.6. Try meeting him personally(Only if you live nearby or leave it, that'll be wasting your money itself).7. If he's married, try contacting his wife and tell or to make him understand. If not, ask his family.8. If nothing goes well, try settling for some amount, which will be fare to you too(something is better than nothing). Tell him about some emergency and this money is all you got. Try the emotional way.9. In any case, just don't be friends with this guy anymore. Once cheated is enough.
I let my friend borrow a phone because they needed it, but they aren't returning it even though they say they will? What should I do?
1. Call your service provider and report your phone as missing, ask them to suspend the service for the time being.2. Call your friend and tell them you really need the phone back; or ...3. Speak to his/her parents and explain the situation (for a parent, they should be ashamed or embarrassed that their son/daughter hasn't returned a borrowed item, so I'd expect them to act upon this news); or ...4. Go to your friend's place when you know they are home, and ask for it back right there and then.5. Re-evaluate if this friendship is worth keeping, as it appears they are taking the friendship for granted, and not respecting your property.6. In the extreme case, you could always report the phone as stolen, and report the matter to the police, then inform the police that you know who has taken your property and refused to return it. :-)When I was young, probably about 10 years old, some friends who lived across the road used to come over and play. One night I was searching for a packet of pencils which I wanted to use for my homework, and I searched high and low for it and couldn't locate it. The next day, I saw this "friend" in the schoolyard with the exact same packet of pencils that I had, parading it around as though it was her newest purchase. I suspected she had stolen it from my place the day before. That afternoon when I returned home from school, I asked my grandmother to ask her parent to return it to me. My grandmother refused on the grounds that I had no proof, and didn't want to endanger the friendship she had with this girl's mother. So I took it upon myself and spoke to her mother directly. Lo and behold, half an hour later, the mother came over with her daughter and forced her to apologise as well as return my property. Now looking back, I suppose I had balls to do that since I was only 10, but I got back my property, and that's all that mattered. Hence my suggestion from point 4 above, to go to their place and demand its return! Say very little, and leave after retrieving it, and never bother to speak to them again. If they don't understand why you don't speak to them, then they have rocks in their heads!
What would you do if a friend borrowed money from you and didn't return it?
If the money was significant, then I will show up at their door and ask for it. I won’t email them. I won’t text them. I won’t call them. I will show up unannounced.If the money was insignificant, I will make a mental note that this person is unreliable and has taken advantage of the goodness of our relationship. In the future, this person will have a difficult time regaining my trust even if s/he manages to pay me back.However, all of this is moot if I found out this was due to a situation they have a hard time with. So in this regard, I would look at the lent money as a loss, make a mental note of it, then ‘let it go’.Mind you, I normally don’t care about money being lent to friends, especially close friends. To me, that’s just giving money away.