My mom constantly is on her phone texting and looking at maps while driving. What can I do to make her stop?
First try to talk to her. Don’t argue. Just tell her. Stick to I messages and don’t lose your temper:Examples of I messages: Mom, I am very scared when you text and drive. I don’t feel safe when you do that. I feel that those texts are more imprtant to you, than my concerns. I would never do this to you. I need my mom to look out for my safety and her own. I am very worried, when you text and drive, I Know that you are a good driver, but you can’t know if everyone around you is one too, therefore your undivided attention is important. etc. etc.If this doesn’t work, either offer to drive yoursef (if you can), or take away her phone during the ride. Offer to handle the maps and even the texts if she will allow it.And if none of these suggestions should work, blankly refuse to ever sit in her car again. And stick to it. After all taking the bus or bike is preferable to dying in a car accident. If nothing else your refusal should drive the message home that you are really serious about this.And please don’t do what some might suggest and start texting yourself to scare your mother. I know this sounds sassy and effective, and it probaly is, but if something should happen in this moment, you will have to live with it forever.Thanks for the request.
How do I get my mom to leave me alone and stop texting me all the time?
I try to tell her nicely and even get mad sometimes but she does not listen. She is quite persistent and texts me all the time. Its to the point where im sick of her texting and calling me or asking where I am all the time. I am an adult.. she gets on my nerves. She constantly texts me to act my age but she is even more childish than me and shouldn't be talking. My brother is getting married and she texts me about it..... I don't care about my brothers marriage. I respect his decision and wish him luck with his new wife. She is not fat or anything. She is in shape and she is really nice...She is a blonde girl and I think he is happy with her. She is upset about it and bothers me ...
What are some excuses to stop texting someone?
My mom needs me for something My phone died I'm going out on the boat I forgot my phone at home I'm in the pool I'm at church I'm grounded There's tons of stuff, make excuses, you also don't have to text him back IMMEDIATELY! Just ifhe texts you in the morning respond in the afternoon and just tell him that your mom needed you for something and you left your phone at home
Mother won't stop texting and driving and she won't listen to me about stopping?
My mother is very scatterbrained, and constantly has to do five things at once. This extends to her driving- she's constantly texting or on the phone. She's always doing something at a stop sign or light, and I'm constantly telling her someone is behind her or there is a green light. I've also asked her every time we get in the car if she could please put her phone away. But she says she's a good experienced driver. Well we got into a minor fender bender when she started driving during a red light while she was calling a number on her phone (very minor- nobody hurt, and only slight damage). I screamed out her name to try stop her (in retrospect I should have screamed "stop" but I wasn't thinking to straight. Well now she's blaming me for the accident and says I was distracting her, and she thought I was telling her to go. (She was already driving and when I saw her heading towards another car it was then that I screamed out her name). Then she told me to stop telling her what to do while driving. She's still on her phone even after the accident. What the hell am I supposed to do? I can't drive, and when I visit her from out of town she's my only means of transportation.
How do I get my mom to stop looking through my text messages with friends?
Take the conversations to places that would be very uncomfortable for her to read, but would not get you in trouble… like… “does your mom ever just start gaining weight like crazy? I can practically see the fat rolls popping out around her belly.” Or, “my mom farted like a pack mule the other day, it almost made me yak,” or even, “I really don’t appreciate the way my mom invades my privacy, as if I’ve done nothing to earn her trust. If she was more open-minded and less judgmental, maybe we could talk openly about things that are bothering me.”
How do I get my mom to stop reading my text messages?
You can start by telling your mother that it’s obvious she doesn’t trust you. Oh, she will be upset and say it isn’t true but you have proof. She reads your text messages. To me, that is not trust. If she really trusts you, she will trust that you will be able to deal with what others text or tell you or you will ask for help with it.So, here ya go: password lock the phone, get in the habit of always swiping it locked after completing a use, be that a text read, send, voice call, or any other use of the phone. Make the password complex, if just a number at least 6 characters. Do NOT share or write it down and don’t make it your birth date or anything related to you. Make it, oh, a random number from the lips of your best friend’s second cousin’s younger brother’s hated enemy. That might be safe. There is a saying that two people can keep a secret if one of them is dead. There is a great two line sequence in ‘Clue: The Movie’ about secrets. The butler ask if Mr. Green can keep a secret. Mr. Green says yes and leans forward to hear the secret. The butler says “So can I.” and walks off. It’s a very funny movie, BTW. I recommend it.You need to have a serious discussion with both your parents about trust and privacy. As you get older you will need more of both. It’s probably time they understood this. Talking to them about it and reassuring them that if you are not comfortable with something you will come to them or a professional is a very good start.
How long will it take for my NPD mother to stop texting me after I ignore her texts? What should I reply to her to get her to stop? I've set clear boundaries before, but she always crosses them. My dad just died, so she's all alone.
Thank you for your question. And I'm really sorry for your loss. Unfortunately narcissists don’t grieve in the same manner you do, so don’t be surprised by that. Their lack of empathy is to blame. What a narcissist will grieve is the loss of supply they got from the departed, and nothing more.How long before she stops texting you? Well that will depend on a great many things but mostly it will depend on YOU. You've stated you've set boundaries before which she has crossed; so she will continue to do so as she knows you will cave in and allow her to.Breaking free of a narcissist is a challenge. Firstly you have to break the homeostasis that has been instilled in you. It draws you back to what you know whether it's good or bad. And as humans we are drawn first and foremost “home” because our parents home is supposed to be our place of safety, security, and ultimate love and acceptance. But when that parent is a narcissist, that really makes it tough to stay away and break yourself free.Ultimately what happens next is in YOUR hands, and ultimately always has been whether you knew it or not. If you truly want to break free, then change your number, block her emails, don't answer or involve yourself with anyone who could be recruited by the narcissist to dig up information on you…and begin to heal and learn to establish a new normal.Best of luck to you going forward. There is a better life than the one that a narcissist offers you. But you have to believe that strongly enough to fight for it and bring it, and you, to reality.
Is it harassment to keep texting someone when they tell you to stop?
Yes. Human beings have the right to set their own boundaries, and to expect that those boundaries will be respected by other people. In America it is considered part of our Right to Privacy.If someone has told you “Stop texting me. I don’t want to talk to you” (or any similar phrase), then respect their wishes and stop bothering him or her.If you persist in sending unwanted messages, you may find yourself on the receiving end of an order of protection (Restraining Order). Violate THAT, and you can go to jail.If, for reasons of business or court-ordered family visitation, you ABSOLUTELY MUST maintain communication with this person, do that through a lawyer or set of lawyers.
How can I get my dad to stop texting while driving?
Tell your father that he is not only endangering himself but all the other people on the road and the passengers (you.) Be rash and explain to your dad that is scares you and it is life-threatening. This is an odd case because usually it is the other way around with the kids texting and parents yelling. Pull up articles about deaths and accidents and show them to your dad as proof. Also research the topic and try to form a persuasive argument. You can also tell your dad you won't drive with him because he is endangering your life. Hope this helped, stay strong.