My family likes my sisters baby more than mine?
i know this might seem silly to some of you, but i'm a middle child, and i've always felt like my family (mainly my dad, my grandma and my aunt, (all on my dads side of the family) have always liked my older sister more than me. its bothered me a little my whole life, but now that i am pregnant with a little girl, i just KNOW that my baby is gonna be treated different than my sisters daughter (my 3 year old niece) i just dont ever want my daughter to feel like everyone likes her cousin more than her... some examples of what i am talking about are: - when my sister announced that she was pregnant, every one was so excited for her.. but when i told everyone i was pregnant, no one told me "congratulations" or anything. -when my sister was pregnant, they threw a suprise party for her and invited everyone over for dinner and my aunt took her to get a pedicure and nails done. no one ever did any of that for me.. - she also got 2 suprise baby showers and TONS of baby gifts. i am due in 3 weeks and no one ever threw a baby shower for me. does any one else have this problem? how do you deal with it? \ its not like my family is rude to me at family gatherings, and nothing has ever happened in the past for them to be mad at me, they just like my sister more and im sure they aren't going to treat my baby as good as they treat my niece
Why are Americans less family oriented than other cultures?
Other cultures have more marriages, weddings, Christening parties, fiestas/drinking and are close knit with extended families. Most actually live in the same community and see each other on a daily basis. So many traditions creates gatherings almost every week while Americans only see each other during "holidays" and everything event seems "corporate".
How do you handle people who get dangerously jealous of your happiness?
The first thing is to not let their insecurities get you down. You have a right to be successful and happy. You have the right to live a wonderful life and do whatever it is that makes you happy.My first piece of advice would be to distance yourself from this person. You don’t need people in your life who bring you down with toxic emotions such as jealousy. You deserve better.However, sometimes it’s not that simple and there are some people in our lives who are there to stay (namely, family). In this situation I would say be strong and know that you are better than their behaviour.Jealousy comes from someone who has low self-esteem and self-worth so, if you can try to empathize with them. In other words, remember that their jealousy is about them and not anything to do with you. By doing so you are seeing the vulnerabilities that they want to hide and seek to protect themselves from through their jealousy. This will make their behaviour less intimidating and hopefully less hurtful.You could also approach them and explain to them how their behaviour hurts and upsets you. Do this with kindness though, you’ll be surprised how effective connecting with someone in a genuine way can be. You never know, it may just stop their jealousy!Good luck :)
I’m a poor guy, and she's a rich girl from a rich family. Can we fall in love?
Money has NOTHING to do with who a person falls in love with. Love comes from within you. Money comes off of the press. You can’t pull money out of your ears & you can’t literally print love off of the press. Nor can money buy love. Your money doesn’t tell you who you can & can’t fall in love with. Nothing or nobody can. You don’t even get to choose who you fall in love with. It just happens & when it does happen, you’ll know. Not every rich person, in the worlds, parents were rich, before they became rich. Some of the richest people in the world came from some of the poorest families in the world. Just because you may be poor, that doesn’t mean that YOU aren’t capable of making something of yourself & working yourself & becoming rich like them. Just because you come from a poor family doesn’t make you any less inferior or any more superior than them. You’re just as capable of making something of yourself & becoming rich just like they are. Falling in love with & being with somebody who’s rich should just make you want to work harder to become rich just like them. THEY, THEMSELVES, aren’t superior over you. They just have more money than you, but if you work hard enough, you can become something & become rich just like they are.Money has nothing to do with who we fall in love with. The guy that I’m in love with is wealthy. My family’s not wealthy wealthy, but we’re ok. Does that mean that if he & I were to get married one day, that I can’t find my strong point & find what I’m best at & work my ass off & become rich just like him & his family? NO! It most certainly doesn’t. What it means is, that with him & his family being wealthy, it’ll just push me more to make me want to meet their standards. I don’t know if we’ll ever get married. I hope we do, but I don’t know right now.Yes. Absolutely. You two absolutely CAN fall in love with each other.
Why people laugh at the jokes in family guy even though they don't understand the references?
Maybe he does understand the joke, if he has cable or older family members, maybe he's seen some older shows. Also, what makes Family Guy funny is more than just material, but the randomness of it, the context, and the delivery - comedic timing can sometimes be picked up on without any need for understanding the material. The kid could totally be laughing at part of the joke without understanding the original reference. Or, maybe it's just that laughter is infectious. My roommate brings up a good point - Family Guy jokes are multi-layered, like onions! We may not know who this random clown is, or this particular actress, but there's something about clowns and random actresses that are funny, it's just that it would be more humorous if we knew more about the allusion.
How do you deal with miscommunication in your family?
Good communication has to start somewhere, and it can start with you. If you set the example, your family will eventually(with time and a lot of patience on your part) follow. A very wise man once said “Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.” -Thomas S. Monson.It's hard to scream at someone who is lovingly trying to communicate. After a while of screaming I’d just feel like a fool. In fact, this has a name. Well kind of. Richard Carlson, author of Don't Sweat the Small Stuff calls it mental Aikido. He says: “Aikido is a gentle-looking, but extremely powerful method of self-defense that takes the physical aggression and strength of your opponent and uses it to your advantage. It has the effect of disarming your opponent with seemingly little effort.The specific demonstration I witnessed was almost unbelievable. The contest was between two men. The larger man appeared to be at least twice as strong and substantially more angry than the smaller man. The larger man charged his opponent and began swinging his fists. Without so much as blinking an eye the smaller man calmly reached toward the charging man and moved over ever so slightly to one side. To this day I don't know how it happened but the larger man ended up on the floor, while the smaller man stood above him, not a hair out of place. A similar pattern continued for a few minutes before it became obvious to the stronger man that he had zero possibility of even so much as touching his opponent, much less hurting him. His anger turned to humility as he simply gave up. I've learned that the emotional equivalent of aikido works wonders in life as well. I've discovered that, more often than not, a gentle approach of resolving conflicts and attacks is more effective.”A lot more communication can happen without screaming or yelling. :)
My wife is too attached to her family; this is seriously ruining our marriage. She visits them at least twice every week. How do I deal with this?
Take it from an Egyptian ArabFor Remi Hansen’s records, it is the 18th century here. (joking)You are newly married. Both she and her mother will find it difficult to face the sudden change, which is her marriage living away from them. Do not be bothered so early. things will take a time to take its new shape. I suggest you help her trying to appear as a son to her mother. Without being a brother to your wife (Joking)Keep in mind, If your wife changed the habits suddenly, this will hurt her parents. especially her mother. she wants to prove them that marriage did not take her away from them. it is good to have such a wife. it is good for you.you also need to know that it is a bless to have a wife that is attached to her family rather than a wife that is having problems with her family.When you have your first child, she will start to find it difficult to keep the rhythm.I suggest you support her with what she is doing. let her feel that you miss her and you are fine with what she is doing.visiting her family twice every week is not too much.Suggest to have a sleepover with her at her parents home. (if they don't mind) she will love you more. don't panic. take it easy. don't have fights with her for her taking care of her parents. even if she is prioritizing them over you. Enjoy !
My mother in law could care less about my kids?
I think some people are just like that. They are going to choose favorites and don't think that it will effect anyone. I wouldn't say anything it will just make it worse for your family. you'll be known as a whiner and complainer. Just let it go. And sorry to say but your kids will notice because I did. My siblings and I have a grandparent that did that to us. She always chose the other grand kids over us. Yea we noticed and it hurts but what could we do. We are now adults and it still bothers us a little, just letting ya know. Also, my Mom loved us more than anything so that really made it better. When Grandma wouldn't be with us mom was always there. My mom was the best in the world. She knew it bothered us and we never had to tell her. She always spent extra time with us just playing cards and stupid games kind of like what you would expect your grand mother do.