How do you boost your self confidence? ?
To me I'm very stupid and very ugly. My family and friends disagree and keep saying I need to boost my self confidence but I keep trying and it's hard so what's a way to do that
How to get more self confidence around girls?
Let me quote some time honoured adages. For everything there is a first time. A journey of a 1000 miles starts with a single step. As an EX shy-guy, I found out that shyness stems from a feeling of inferiority. In the worst cases, it can be self hatred. What I did was GET ANGRY AT MYSELF FOR BEING SUCH A WIMP!! For me it was my general appearance; skinny and covered in acne. So I took up martial arts and keep fit and changed my diet. The fear of rejection is one of the major hurdles to overcome. Everyone has a certain type that they like. If you don't happen to be a girl's type, then you will strike out. But, that girl came to you AND YOU TURNED HER AWAY!! What damage might YOU have done to HER confidence?? If you found her attractive, and she obviously found you likewise, why miss the opportunity to start growing up! You have to ask yourself WHY you feel so uncertain around girls. The more detailed you can be the better. Make a list, GET ANGRY AT YOURSELF AND START ELIMINATING THE ITEMS ONE BY ONE!!. Take pride in your appearance and personal hygiene. Be pleasant and cheerful. Smile and maintain eye contact when a girl talks to you. Conversation is an EASILY learnable skill, but NEEDS CONSTANT PRACTICE [like any OTHER skill]. Listen attentively to what she has to say. Try to find out what she likes, her tastes in food, music, entertainment and so on. Where does she live, ask about her family, her hopes, her dreams and aspirations. Don't get TOO personal. DON'T use gutter slang or sexual innuendo in the MISTAKEN belief that you are being MACHO, or grown up!! It just makes you look crass, crude, ill-educated and ignorant!! Such things are an INSTANT turn off for MOST girls. The bottom line is that sooner or later you are just going to HAVE to take a deep breath and DIVE INTO THE POOL OF LIFE!! Good luck kiddo.
How to gain self confidence?
I used to have a horrible lack of self confidence. But this is what helped me. Learning to accept yourself comes at different times for everyone so I cannot really say when you will truly start to accept yourself for who you are. There may be beautiful people around you and I know how this feels. But remember that you have something they dont Have. Everyone is not the same. And peoples opinions on who is prettier is also very different. Someone may think girl one is prettier than girl two but then someone else may think girl two is prettier than girl one. Let me advise you that, for example, getting a nose job cuz you think you hav an ugly nose or getting contacts and wearing makeup when u have glasses and acne (like I did) may get you thinking for a lil while that your physical appearance will get u to accept your inner self. This will last for a lil while but not for long. So to just get to the point its all about changing the way you think and not how you change the outside. Listen to music that talks about how you are beautiful just the way you are, like Beautiful by Bethany Dillon or who says by Selena Gomez. It might sound silly at first but try it because it really helps. Also it would help to stop all those negative thoughts running through your head like im NOT good enough im not pretty enough and so on. Think about I am good enough and I am pretty and stuff like that.
Why do I have more self confidence when I'm stoned?
If you substitute marijuana for tobacco and alcohol, you'll add 8 to 24 years to your life. -Jack Herer ----- “They lie about marijuana. Tell you pot-smoking makes you unmotivated. Lie! When you're high, you can do everything you normally do, just as well. You just realize that it's not worth the ******* effort." -Bill Hicks ----- Bill Hicks knows whats up.. sometimes when you are high, there are certain things you care MORE about and LESS about.... When you smoke, try smoking without your shoes on, and try ripping the blunt, bong, joint, etc a little slower and keep an open mind. if you have a "im so ugly" mentality going into your first bowl, it will stay that way. What I do when I smoke is.. Think of a sport and think of the game winner:(play the scenario in your head) baseball: bottom of the ninth, down by two, runner on first and third, the pitch.... he hits a drive deep down the left field line... going going going... foul ball. 0 balls 1 strike etc? basketball: 12 seconds left, down by two, dribbling past half court, looks for an open shot, 5, 4, 3.. shoots a three for the game... 2, 1, SCORE!! AHHH the crowd goes wild!!!!!! etc etc for football, soccer, hockey volleyball, etc.. SMOKE WITH AN open mind and you are good to go. Plus, don't feel bad, I usually think i have no future, but then I smoke weed and I am like wow, I am good at math or I am good at accounting, etc etc..
Why do guys like for girls to have high self confidence?
less drama for everyone and she probably won't be obsessed towards him and she'll be able to actually stand on her own two feet and take care of herself.