What can I do about my fiances depression?
I ve been having a lot of difficulty dealing with my fiance at the moment. He says he wants to kill him self and since I met him he has never really been in control of his emotions. What makes it worse is that he s not working due to an injury at his job, so he can t even excersize. I work paying all of our bills and we live with his parents and our 2 year old son. His parents specifically his dad constantly nag about small unimportant things which make his mood worse. He says he has dreams about killing himself and hurting our son. I m just scared right now and I don t know what to do. My mom had scitziphernia which is different than this and I don t have anyone to talk to about this. Please help.
How can I help my long distance boyfriend with depression?
I was going through the same situation as your boyfriend and we were in distance during that time. However, he turned out to have NPD and I was abused rather than being helped so I can share what I wished my partner did when we were in distance with depression. Hope it helps!First, never tell him this “You are just overthinking babe, you should take it easy, stop thinking you are depressed; it will make you more depressed, you need to be positive and look for the bright side”.One might think these phrases would help but it made me feel worse. Listen to him a lot. If his depression is hitting him hard on some days, get on Skype and just listen to him. When you get into fights, let him take out his frustration on you. You may argue that would be abusive and why should you be the victim here. But, for better and for worst right? When he takes out his frustration on you, don’t take it personally. Support him and guide him through but never say that his depression has been a problem for you.Also, therapy helped me a lot, find good psychologists and ask him to see them.
How can I help my boyfriend get over his depression?
Unfortunately, professional help is the best thing for depression. It might be a hard subject, but if this has been going on for a long time and/or you think he's getting worse fast, that would be something that I would recommend giving serious thought. What you can do for him is this. Make sure not to trivialize the problem. It doesn't sound like you're doing that at all, but I thought I might as well say, since so many people do. Depression is a real disease, not something he's choosing, not something he can just snap out of. Keep that in mind when you're trying to be helpful! Make sure you're not minimizing how he's feeling. This can be easy to do without realizing it. Even statements you mean well can come off badly to someone, especially someone who's in the thralls of depression. Be careful with what you say. Focus on statements like "I know it sucks right now, and yeah, it really does suck, but it will get better." This was a tip I got from a wonderful woman at my school who has degrees in this sort of thing: you can't change the way he's feeling, but you can help change the way he feels about how he feels. I realize that probably sounds hippie and silly, but hear me out. We all have feelings, of course. But we also very much do have feelings about our feelings - metafeelings, if you will. Have you ever felt down and then felt guilty or sad that you were down? Maybe you felt down and lonely but then when you went to hang out with your friends you were still down and you worried you were bringing them down, and then you felt bad about that? That's a large part of how depression takes hold. You feel bad, and then you feel bad that you feel bad, which I bet you can very easily see is a horrible destructive cycle. And you know what? You should never feel guilty about how you're feeling. You can't hurt other people with your feelings. So help your boyfriend understand that. Let him know that yeah, he feels really down right now, but that's okay. That's normal. Everyone is down sometimes. It's a perfectly normal, natural, healthy response to negative things happening. When something bad happens, you feel bad. That's perfectly appropriate. And bad things are inevitable. So bad feelings are inevitable, and you should never feel bad about that. That last has been one of the most useful things my girlfriend seems to respond to when I'm trying to help her out of a depressed place.
How can I help my boyfriend with his depression relapse?
I am sorry to hear your boyfriend has had a relapse in his depression. Supporting someone going through this can be difficult, and he is lucky to have you on his team. The most important thing you can do is continue to be there for him, lovingly and patiently, while he goes through this. It may not seem helpful, but it makes a difference. Andrew Solomon has written a wonderful book on depression called The Noonday Demon: An Atlas Of Depression which I found immensely helpful as a supporter. It helped me to understand what someone goes through during depression, the clinical and cultural aspects associated with depression, and how I could support someone who was suffering.If your boyfriend is not currently working with a therapist, I would recommend helping him find one who can help make the proper diagnosis and guide his treatment. Psychology Today has a good tool to help you find a therapist in your area: Find a Therapist. Your insurance provider can also provide you with a list of names, or your primary care physician (or your boyfriend's) may be able to make a referral. The National Institute of Mental Health makes the following recommendations for supporting someone suffering from depression:Offer him support, understanding, patience, and encouragement.Talk to him, and listen carefully.Never ignore comments about suicide, and report them to his therapist or doctor.Invite him out for walks, outings and other activities. If he says no, keep trying, but don't push him to take on too much too soon.Encourage him to report any concerns about medications to his health care provider.Ensure that he gets to his doctor's appointments.Remind him that with time and treatment, the depression will lift.Finally, make sure you take care of yourself. Supporting someone else can wear you down, so make sure you rely on your own support network, make time for your needs, and talk to a therapist yourself if it seems like it might be helpful. Good luck, and I hope this helps.
How can I help my boyfriend overcome depression and help him focus on building his career?
Identify the deeper reasons that cause the disturbances and conflicts within your bf and also with others around him. psychologists help you to find out the route cause of his present concern. first need to know his past experiences what more triggering him. what issues make him sad. First find out the route cause then work on it. You also get to work on his communication and problem solving mechanism thereby being able to create a positive life for him. In this current situation there are lot of thoughts that going through his head. Have to know what make him depressed ask him but in his comfort zone. when he get happiness in his own life then he will be able to focus on his carrier.Basically first you have to make yourself understand what should be done in a way to give him happiness and make him comfortable to talk to you openly every thing that he facing right now.Then step by step you can work on it as mentioned above.Things can be resolve no doubts in that .Good luck !!!We have proper panel of different different psychologists.We provide counseling through telephone, skype and face to face also.contact us on 9560511611 for more understanding.Dr. Kamal KhuranaINNER SELF INTEGRATION WORLDWIDE Inner Self Integration | My Blog
My boyfriend left me because of his depression. Is there still a chance for us?
This really is a tough question. One thing I would do is tell him that as a friend, he can reach out to you if he needs to talk.There may be a chance if he starts to feel better/ works on himself. Until then, you will need to give him his space after telling him you are there for him as a friend if he needs you. If he still loves you after he is done working on himself, he will come back to you. If that doesn’t happen, there are better things in store for you.One thing you should know is that you can in no way change him or how he feels. Not only can you not change how he feels, but you shouldn’t put that pressure on yourself— that is overstepping the boundaries of a girlfriend. If you were to get beck together with him, as a girlfriend you can support him and let him vent to you— but that is about it.
If i have manic depression, how do i get the right treatment? what is the treatment? &how do i get a diagnosis
You need to seek professional help now. Manic depression never remembers any good times, and only results in downward spiral of mood. If you have an HMO, consult with him or her first, and ask for a referral to psychiatry. If you're really pushed into a corner, and feel like you are at your wits end, call 1-800-SUICIDE. It sounds like you might have PTSD, or Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome with the flashbacks. On-going counseling and or medication can help with the flashbacks. Please consult with a psychiatrist soon. Good luck to you and don't give up.
My boyfriend broke up with me because of his depression, should I wait from him or move on?
The real question is your boyfriend is getting help for his depression. If he is getting help you could say he is moving forward, and you could say there might be something there worth waiting for. However, if he is not getting help for his depression and expecting you to wait than he is not moving forward and still expecting you to wait. So ask yourself this is that fair to you and aren't you answering your own question. Then he says to you "I can't imagine you with anyone else" that is instilling guilt within you to keep you from seeing anyone else. so he says that so you won't move on until he decides he wants to move back into a relationship with you. Really what it sounds like to me is he is looking for a break in the relationship for one reason or another. He wants that break but he wants to keep you in the wings, this is old school player moves. I tell you what You tell your Boyfriend you'll wait for him if he agrees to seek help for his depression from a professional and you'll drive him to the appointments. but if he doesn't you can't agree to wait because you need to think about a solid future. I'll bet his depression clears up real quick or he says it's over. either way you'll know the truth.