How do I deal with sister in law who hates me?
Always only an insecure person behaves in a mean and irrational manner.If your sister in-law is one of them, you need to feel sorry for her. Since you can notice her mean and cheap behavior, you are definitely in a better position. If you know she is back biting you can't swoop down to the same level once you know it's not the done thing.It's not always tit for tat. Smile off her insults, better still laugh at yourself. Take away her weapons to hurt you. Let her back bite to her heart's content, respond only to her and let her know very firmly when she trespasses to your territory.Don't encourage people who carry tales to you. Tell them in no uncertain terms that we shouldn't talk behind a person's back. People who volley don't have a stand. They may carry back tales from you.If you have heard and it hurts you go face to face and without anger confront that person. Remember you should not involve your spouse you should just stand on your feet and without raising your voice give it back!
Can I date my sister in law?
My sister just recently got engaged to some guy. And this guy has a sister that's like 2 years behind and younger. I know for sure that she likes me because I've like tested her with so many things. Like it's obvious she likes me even my brothers say that. But during the experiment of testing her love for me by like hugging her and comforting her and many other test. I soon started to like her for reals. I like her she likes me. But later that month she and I didn't know we were brother or sister in law. She's my sister in law. And when she found out she looked at my immediately and in her eyes I saw she wanted to scream. I was shocked too. I mean like my dad was best friends with my sisters man back in the days and it's not like we are related in a way. So im wondering if I could date her. Like date my sister in law. I'm Srry but I'm not so good at this family chain. Like I don't know how things work. But can I date her. I really like her.
How do I deal with a sister-in-law who ignores me?
It’s unfortunate but true that you can’t “make” others like you. It’s unlikely you can change her personality - and it’s probably a waste of time trying to figure out what, if anything, she has against you - but you can try to change the dynamic.Was your husband raised in a large family and you in a small family? That could be part of the difference in approach.Using resources - e.g., kitchen utensils while working in the kitchen - can often be viewed as helpful behavior using common tools, with people from large families more likely to just pitch in without asking. Sure it would be great if she said “which bowl may I use?” or “do you have a paring knife?” before using your carving knife on the vegetables, but if she’s going after tools or implements you would prefer she not use why not be proactive and say “oh, the red bowl would be better for that…let me get it.” If you gently and consistently redirect her away from the things you would prefer she not use she may get the idea of asking.Or just move the “good stuff” to higher cabinets so she chooses things you don’t mind her using that are easier to find.Next, where is it written you need to give presents? You might ask your husband about how gift-giving was handled in his family and find you’re creating an obligation she isn’t used to. Sure she should thank for presents, but perhaps giving up gift-giving is an option that removes that tension.As to your husband “not seeing anything wrong” it’s quite possible his sister has always been like this so it’s normal to him. Asking your husband to tell his sister to “stay out of the kitchen” or “say thank you for gifts” is likely to cause more hard feelings rather than less, particularly if she’s an older sister.You need to enforce your own boundaries. Say it with love, say it with humor, say it with a smile, but instead of stewing say “We really love having you over, and I’d like to make your stay comfortable. Please ask me if you need anything and I’ll be happy to show you where things are.”You may need to say it every time, but eventually she’ll likely get the drift.Finally, on your SIL ignoring you, you’ll just need to remain friendly and try to engage her. Find out from your husband about his sister’s interests, and try to ask her questions. People tend to warm up to those who show an interest in them, so if you make a bit of effort to engage her on topics with which she’s comfortable it may get her to open up.Thank you to OK for the A2A and best of luck!
How would you handle a toxic mother-in-law & sister-in-law?
Most of us never dream that one day we will have toxic in-laws to deal with. When we first think about getting married, the idea of joining two families together is very exciting. You can't wait to say "I do" and officially have new parents who you want to call "mom and dad".Unfortunately, not everyone is able to experience a joyous blending of two families and often find themselves frustrated and angry at certain aspects and interactions with their in-laws.This can be very hard to deal with, and disappointing. When in-laws start to become a negative aspect of your life, that is when it is getting toxic. Relationships with in-laws are quite complicated.Every family is different in terms of the type of relationship people have with their in-laws, but the idea of acceptance seems to be common throughout. If you have a wonderful relationship with your in-laws and like them a lot, consider yourself lucky! That is not the story for many people, however.It is important to be able to spot the signs of having toxic in-laws so you know how to address the issue.Signs of Toxic In-Laws1. They are overly involved in your decisions2. They try to turn you and your significant other against you3. Your privacy as a couple is not respected4. They say negative things about you to your significant other5. They ignore you6. They make insulting commentsSolution to Toxic In-Laws1. Always remember that you and your significant other are a team2. Both you and your spouse address issues to your own parents; don't confront the in-laws3. Take appropriate space when needed4. Set boundaries5. Don't insult your in-laws in front of your spouse; be respectful No matter what, it is important to remember that you and your significant other are a unit, and should be united together as your own family.It is important to take care of yourself if you have toxic in-laws, which ultimately help protect the relationship from harm that could arise if you did not take steps to address it appropriately.I created a video that goes much more in depth about this question, and I think it will be helpful for you. Please feel free to watch when you get a chance. :)
Sex with Sister in Law in Dream - and she had same dream?
There are psychological dreams and metaphysical dreams. In the book "Seth Speaks", Seth talks about five different types of dreams. Thought forms are real things. They have substance, albeit of finer matter than physical matter. The Thesophists, and other metaphysical groups, refer to it as the Mental Plane (a finer realm than the Astral Plane which deals with the substance of emotion). At a sub-conscious level, we are all psychic. Much of our thoughts are self-generated. Some are simply floating around and we pick them up, wrongly thinking that they are our own thoughts. That is why it is so much more intense walking through dense city streets than walking through quiet countryside. It is also, in part, how we get good or bad "vibes" from a person whom we have just met. There have been controlled experiments to verify the existence of shared dreams, in which the dreamers are intent on communicating while dreaming. Some sexual dreams are simply created out of one's own hormones and desires. Some, on the other hand, can indeed be a shared dream based on a mutual attraction. As far as "doing it in the sky", you are dealing with a mental and emotional creation, even if a mutual one. It is a personal reality. But, then again, even the physical plane is a creation, which, at some level, can also be understood as illusion. The question of what is real, and what is reality, is a complex one. There is also, as you suggest, variations of phenomena that people call, collectively, "Astral Travel". On various planes, in various ways, people can travel consciously or unconsciously, manifest as light beings, voices, thoughts or in other ways, and themselves observe and sometimes consciously retain what they see. On the inner planes, some people, while sleeping, do spiritual work or attend classes on inner planes. Very few people remember these experiences when waking, but they nevertheless have a profound effect on their personal development. So there are several possibilities regarding you eldest distant brother. You could have been communicating in various ways. Or you brother could have been communicating directly to your sister. This is a rich area for you to investigate. It has been my life's avocation, and I also teach a college course on metaphysics.