Has the thought of leaving someone behind ever been a hard decision, or one you regret?
I have had to leave three friends behind and i hated to do it but i really had no option. Tho are guys and one is female. In year 12 i was in a relationship with the female but i am horrible at expressing emotion in public and she couldnt stand the fact that whe couldnt hug me or something of the likes in public. I promised her i would change and work towards being more comfortable in public with her but she decided that i had taken too long and she broke up via text saying that maybe when i got more comfortable in public we could try again. After that i tried really hard. I started to improve on myself but very time i would have a conversation with her se would fight and she would end up metaphorically ripping my head off. She then stated making up stuff about me and she told two of my best friends and turned them against me. They dont talk to me any more and whenever i talk to her its always a fight. In the last conversation she told me that she was willing to make an effort to become friends again and then she proceeded to rip my head off again.About a day later i was at the community library studying and i was feeling really down and a random lady came up to me and with genuine concern asked me if i was alright. I dont know what happened or why but feom her asking me with that much genuine concern did something to me and i decided that if my ex did want to put the effort in to be friends i would test her to see if she would by not starting a conversation with her until she initiated a conversation. So far it has been about 4 months and nothing has happened so i have accepted that fact that i will never be friends with her othe my other two friends because of this. Ir hurts but every day i think about the lady in the library and tell myself that no matter how bad i feel or how down i am there will always be someone who is genuinely concerned for me.
How do I leave someone in the past?
It’s always difficult to leave someone behind, whether they’re a loved one (like family member, friend, an ex) it should matter as to how they have impacted your life. Did they have a negative or positive impact? Do they still keep in contact with you?I have a family member who put me through hell when i was younger, she’s a wealthy, fantastic business woman, but she had taken her family for granted. When we moved to another country did she only realise how many people she pushed out of her life, and so after 6 years of not keeping in contact did she send me a fb message asking for forgiveness. So i asked myself do i really want all the bad memories to be brought back, what more will she do this time if we do move forward from the past? obviously i still havent forgiven her for what had happened, some people deserve second chances, but in the circumtances that im in, i have to keep everyone happy and so im keeping in contact with her. But the right thing todo is to tell her what i really feel, and keeping her in my life is like keeping bad juju. you need todo what is right for you mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally.also trying to ‘leave’ someone in the past, means maybe you should confront them first, about whatever situation they’ve put you in so that you get all the answers you need or want to move forward. tell them what you want, whether you want them in your life or not so they know where they stand. be firm with your answer. some might say talk to a counsellor or therapist and come up with strategies, but from my situation i asked that family member of mine all the whys ,hows and whats questions of our past to find answers for myself to see whether i really do want to continue a relationship with her or not and whether it will benefit me mentally ect in the future.hopefully this helped alittle. sorry if its abit much…thanks for reading it though.-Mickey
If someone parks their car behind mine, leaving me no other way to get out, is that false imprisonment?
In my apartment complex, there are several cars that choose to park in random places around the lot instead of in parking places, often blocking in my car so that I can't leave. Due to a contract the apartment complex has with the towing company, I as a resident can't have someone towed, only office personnel can make that call. After hours there is no one to call the towing company and this is when the problem occurs. Is is considered false imprisonment since I have to reasonable way to leave the complex since I can't have the other car moved.
Is it bullying if you leave someone out?
Like if you have a group of good friends, and then they all hang out but they leave you behind and don't even invite you or talk to you? Or if they post who they are hanging out wih on Facebook and don't even invite you? I was wondering cause I'm being left out now and it's been happening for a while. Is it a type of bullying?
Why is it so hard to leave someone?
I think it is due to the attachment and unfulfilled expectations. Everyone deserves to be loved and to be happy. But it really pains if you love someone so truly from the bottom of your heart and it goes unrequited. You will never completely move on if you ever truly loved her, but you will have to start living with it.Memories don't hurt. Love doesn't hurt. It is the attachment that hurts. It is the expectation that hurts. It is the imagined future that is now broken that hurts.When we lose someone that we love so truly and they walk out of your life for some reason, it hurts. This doesn't mean memories will haunt us. It is the collapsed future that hurts us. Living in the past with the ones we love brings us tears, not because that is lost, but because there was something that could have been forever, but it isn't now. That hurts. That stings and we tend to associate it with good memories. Sometimes we love people more than the memories they gave us. We fall for the person, not just for the memories. We love, we live life to create beautiful memories for us and for the loved ones around us.Expectations hurt in proportion to the emotional investment. Whenever we are too much attached to someone or something, we grow attachment and that attachment leads to expectations. These expectations when fulfilled is an awesome experience. But when we are too much emotionally invested and when those dreams aren't coming true, it stings and hurts and kills from within.Getting over it is by forgiving and moving on with life accepting that you will never get over that true love. Forgiveness is your trait. It solely depends on you and not on the other person. You want to forgive them because you want peace of mind and don't want to hold grudges against anyone in your life.Forgive because you have a strong heart. Forgive because you are strong.Strongest people are those who forgive people who aren’t even sorry for hurting you.Forgive but don’t forget the lessons learnt.
How do someone leave somebody behind and move forward in their life in a positive way?
It sounds weird that http://being.in love with someone, being committed to him/her and thinking of him or her as your soulmate then arriving one day you have to leave completely that person and acts like strangers as if nothing really happens after years of being engaged together. At first it seem to be difficult to move forward in life if you have been truly loved that person from the deepest of your heart. Engaged your mind in other thing like your work by keeping yourself busy. To move forward positively in life you should first at all accept the fact that the person will no longer return back to you.
What is the psychology behind leaving someone you love / treating them wrong?
Which question? One study found that most people will stay in a rship they aren’t happy with as long as the person doesn’t annoy them.Treating them wrong? You mean why do people treat an intimate partner poorly? It might be a power play, or a lack of respect, or some people don’t realize the value of treating other people well. It’s a lot of effort to retrain people, and if they don’t like you a lot then you don’t have much leverage.
How can I leave behind someone I love but don't need in my life anymore?
Why don’t you need this person in your life?Well, you force yourself to do so. You force yourself staying away from this person. Don't try to reconnect to this person by deleting the number and unfriending the person in social media.Memories play a good role here. What this person did to make you take this decision?