What is there to look forward to in life?
Feelings of "Nothing is left in life for me" comes to a person for 2 reasons only 1) When you have lost something (permanently) you held dear to your heart consciously or unconsciously which you realize after losing it. 2) When you have been through repeated cycles of ups and downs in life and feel that there is not much left in the future to look forward to. If case 1: you should consider it as fate or destiny and humans have to part from people and things (universal law).If case 2: you never know what future has in store, green shoots can crop even in parched desert and keep your hopes and faith in yourself and in the universe.An exception to the above 2 cases is when a person is mentally depressed or anxious. Then you need help from a medical professional or a psychologist. There is a school of thinking that says "A human being brings nothing into this world and carries nothing out of this world" so well said. All that remains is the relationship you create. When you get out of your life (box) and try to see if you can help somebody who's worse than yourself, thing will start happening and you will truly have something to look forward to. With regards, Professor Zam
Have you ever felt like there is nothing to look forward to in life?
Sometimes when I was in school I would go across these phases where literally all I would do is go through a prefixed routine - walk up in morning/shit/shower/hop on the bus/lazily start my classes/smile awkwardly at this girl I fancied/hop on the bus back/play video games/go to bed. All of this involved (except that awkward attempt at a smile) absolutely no thinking on my part. I would be mindlessly following my day as a routine. I was living a pathetic existence where my desires, fun, acting on my impulses had been killed.I had nothing to look forward, no wishes, no desires, absolutely nothing with which I could define the purpose of my existence. Was it me being depressed? I don't know. But I sure as hell felt like there was absolutely nothing to look forward to in those time. I never grew a pair and asked that girl out thanks to the peskiness that is so universal in our schools. But you know what has been the biggest healer? Broadening my mind. Not about all the wonders in life, and all that- literally broadening my mind horizon. Expand your thought process and look around you. Anita Sanz is 100% correct about life moving on. Stop thinking about what you're supposed to do and start flowing wherever the river takes you. Grab a pair of shades, a life jacket to ease your floating abilities, and jump into the river and just let yourself free. Irrespective of what plans we make in this life, who we choose to love, consciously or unconsciously, what decisions we take about ourselves, none of it matters at the end of the day because we popped on this world alone, and we move on, alone. What matters, and what is in our control is to how we choose to live on the air we breathe. The end is the same for everyone, and it doesn't matter. But what matters is forgetting about things that are not going to change despite how much you think about them, and start living your life instead. You aren't going to find out what happens in the future well until the future becomes the present. Life is a journey, my friend. It has its ups and downs, whites and blacks, daylight and darkness. You're in one phase moving on to another. In the meantime you might want to occupy your mind with coming up with a logical answer to your assertion about "age not being on your side". You might find that to be somewhat of a very useful distraction.
What is there to look forward to in life?
Tomorrow's my birthday and I'm going to be turning 16. I don't have a bad life or anything at all. It's nothing special but not bad either. My question is what is the point of living if there's really nothing to look forward to? I get VERY stressed trying to keep up in school even though I am a very smart student. I get up for school at 6:30 then don't get back from school until 4:00. Then when I get back I work on schoolwork for a few hours. Then on Saturdays I spend most of my time trying to make up for a lot of missed sleep from the week. Sunday I wake up early in the morning and go to church. Then I come back and do whatever. When I get older and go off to get a job, I'll spend most of my day everyday at work I would assume and then get back in time to chill for a couple hours before getting ready to go back to work the next day? Then when I'm finally able to retire I would be too old (no offense to anyone that's retired) to really enjoy my time the way I would like to. Through all of this, I don't see much to look forward to. I've had some very bad thoughts lately and have been wondering this. Can anyone help?
I'm 24, I am really passionate everyday and look forward to my dreams. However, I always feel fearful when I realize that there are only 20,000 days left for me to enjoy living in this planet. What should I do?
Here's a small experiment I suggest you do.Take a big wall clock. Watch the seconds hand of the clock move. A big clock is recommended because you can actually feel the little movement. Watch it for, say, twenty minutes. Its fun when you keep looking at it. You might get bored a bit but there is some movement happening every second which is enough to hold your attention and interest. If you are having trouble then keep counting each move, that should help. Moreover, it is just for 20 minutes.At the end of 20 minutes, take a break.Now set a stopwatch for 20 minutes and do some different activity. Like say, read a book. Pick any book, start reading and forget about the time limit. The stopwatch will go off after 20 minutes. Meanwhile involve yourself into the book. Enjoy it.At the end, which of the two activities was more fruitful? I am sure, the latter. Because here you were not spending your time counting, rather doing some useful work. If you keep worrying about the number of seconds, hours, days left you are wasting your time on something that is not your main motive. Focus on more important and interesting things. The stopwatch will go off when it has to, but until then keep moving.
Bored of life...Nothing to look forward to..?
One, your parents sound ignorant. I was not allowed to spend the night until I was 18, but I was allowed to go out. Try out for sports in your school (if you are allowed). Join clubs. They really can't prevent you from doing that. If your friends are not being attentive, then they are not real friends. Do not have a negative outlook on life. Find a hobby and stick with it. Stick your nose in a book because once you are off to college, the hard work will pay off and you will have something more than just this petty feeling you have right now. When the world gives you ****, flip them off and do something to better yourself. Building relationships is difficult when something or someone limits you, so you have to find ways to make yourself happy. You do not have to know what you want to be when you grow up. Most kids in college don't, which is why they keep swapping their majors. However, you have to some idea. If you want to get really good at soccer, get really good at soccer. Try to do something with art or writing, especially if you are kept indoors. I always say there are two sides to the story. If your parents say you are lazy, and I am not trying to attack you here, then something is obviously making them say that. Try doing a few chores. Be nice to them. If they really are assholes and are treating you like crap and calling you lazy, when you are obviously not, then they are terrible parents. However, parents usually don't say and do things for nothing. Try to work towards something to show them that you are progressive. Try to prove to them that they are wrong. In due time you will see they might change. After all, people who keep a tight leash will inevitably have a dog that runs away when it finally goes loose. The same goes with parenting.