What are the ingredients for a happy, purposeful, and enriching life?
I believeDo maximum what you love (eg. I tried gym, dancing, playing guitar, writing shayaries and tried to write novel... And many more things i want to do) I felt satisfied by doing all this, i did not continued any but still i am happy that i triedHave loving people around you. I know expectations hurts but still try to give them happiness by giving them gifts, surprises, support, etc. You will defiantly get happiness by thatTravel and meet new people, i am not that extrovert but i suggest be one. So that you will know how world is living. You will learn many things. Go out from house stay with different people. (It helps me a lot)Make friends. Do not be alone. Making friends are best thing in life. If you have large group of friends you defiantly enjoy each moment of your life (I am trying to but i do not have many friends)Most important be confident about yourself. Everyone is good at something, you are too. So Proud and feel best about yourself. (I know while negative things happens we broke down but try to come from that). Always think that whatever is happening with you is not for forever and time will make everything perfect. That's it. I am also exploring many ideas for happy life. Above ideas are we should try :)
Why do people complain about things they can't change?
Control and Manipulation. Toxic Environments.People try and change what they do and their environment but are stopped or derailed by controllers and manipulators.Examples A woman in her 30’s is overweight, she decides that she wants to eat better and get healthier, more exercise. So she endeavors to put plans in place to do this. Her husband then conspires to take her out every night of the week to a fast food restaurant.Or A guy wants to learn more about the job he is in, in particular other aspects of it. He approaches management and arranges to go to other areas to look at processes and new ways of working. His boss conspires to overload him with work for the weeks that this has been arranged.Or a girl who is part of a church loves sociology. Being from a predominately white/Christian background, she loves different cultures. There is a Taoist temple in her city that she has been invited to go to and meet people. The people at her Christian church dissuade her from going claiming that Taoism is demonic.7 TIMESI have seen not so much these things happen but much similar things occur. People proceed to put positive changes in their lives and the manipulators around them, afraid of loosing control, then proceed to use controlling tactics or road blocks to ensure that it is much harder to obtain the goal or at least not to pursue it.I have heard that it take about 7 attempts. So telling a person that it is perfectly fine to visit the Taoist temple, to learn new things of the job, to change the diet to get a healthier eating habit. Usually over 7 Times before being convinced.This, I think, is why domestic violence survivors find it hard to leave a toxic situation. The manipulator is usually a familiar who is trusted and is often poisoning the well.If you find it easy to make positive changes to your environment, this is usually an indication of a supportive environment. The people around you are supportive of change.So if you ever see the overweight people jogging around the park and they look up and you make eye contact. GIVE A THUMBS UP. It is encouraging things like this that help. Remember, these people have a lot of barking dogs (figuratively) ready to pull them down.
Is it ever healthy to complain?
NO!Complaining is bad bcos:1. It makes things look worse than they areWhen people complain, they focus only on what’s wrong. If things are 80% good and 20% bad and you spend most of your time thinking and talking about the bad 20% – the situation will look a lot worse than it really is.2. It becomes a habitThe more you complain, the easier it gets. In the end, everything is bad, every situation is a problem, and nothing is good.3. It kills innovationBecause the situations looks so hopeless, people become less creative and innovative. What’s the point of coming up with ideas and implementing them – it’s never going to work anyway.4. It promotes bad relationshipsPeople who complain together unite against the world and can create strong internal relationships based on this. But these relationships are based mostly on negative experiences. That’s not healthy.5. Pessimism is bad for youPsychologist Martin Seligman showed in his groundbreaking research in positive psychology that people who see the world in a positive light have a long list of advantages, including:They live longerThey’re healthierThey have more friends and better social livesThey enjoy life moreThey’re more successful at workWe sometimes think that pessimists and complainers have the edge because they see problems sooner but the truth is that optimists not only lead better lives, they’re also more successful because they believe that what they’re doing is going to work.
Isn't the "gender wage gap" feminists complain about simply an Argument from Ignorance?
Argument from Ignorance = When you assert something is true simply because the answer is unknown. People give all different numbers about the wage gap, but it's most commonly said to be around 25%. The first issue with this is that you are comparing raw averages. You are not controlling for any variables to determine if the 25% is really caused by gender discrimination, you're just asserting that it is, which is an Argument from Ignorance. A report done by CONSAD Research Corp actually attempted to control for some variables. They originally found the raw wage gap to be about 20.4%, but after controlling for variables (mainly work time and career choice) they found that the number 5.95±1.15%. As you can see, they demonstrated that ~75% of the wage gap was due to the variables they controlled for. Now, you may say, there's still about 6% of a wage gap, that still shows there's discrimination. No, what you're doing is akin to the God of the Gaps argument where religious people claim any gap in our knowledge is evidence of God. Any gap in gender wage isn't necessarily gender discrimination. You have to demonstrate that on its own. You can't say "any unexplained gender wage gap is evidence of gender discrimination". This is inherently an argument from ignorance. CONSAD Report mentioned: http://www.consad.com/content/reports/Gender%20Wage%20Gap%20Final%20Report.pdf Argument from Ignorance: http://philosophy.lander.edu/logic/ignorance.html
Will the defense ever try to purposefully get a mistrial?
Absolutely! I assume you mean goading the prosecutor into making a mistake that results in a mistrial, and not merely moving for a mistrial when appropriate.I was prosecuting a murder case and the defense attorney was being a complete jerk towards me, fully in accord with his reputation. I generally resisted taking the bait but at one point he was muttering some obscenities at me and I politely asked him if he’d like to “discuss” the matter outside in the hallway.He jumped up and screamed to the judge that I had threatened him and now he was so scared he couldn’t proceed. He demanded a mistrial. I explained to the court that I had merely asked him whether he wished to “meet and confer” outside the courtroom. The judge wasn’t having any nonsense and told us both to knock it off. Unfortunately, this lawyer had a local “reporter” in his pocket who published a front page story the next day falsely claiming I had threatened the attorney.It was not my finest hour to allow myself to be provoked like that but good instincts kept me from crossing the line. He was clearly trying to cause a mistrial. It’s been said that, unlike fine wine, criminal cases don’t get better with age, so I assume he was hoping for a better outcome if he got a do-over.
Why do liberals never mention the pork attached to noble-sounding bills?
So many of your answers say that "Pork is attached to every bill" which is true - the headline that "Progress" links to reads deceivingly like ALL republicans are worse than ALL democrats, but the headline really should read, "THREE Republicans lead the list". That would be a little more accurate. The Democrats are way, way better at this than the Republicans, and it isn't just the pork they're good at. Pork is a way of getting funding for pet projects in your home district that will benefit your re-election. That's not what the Democrats do. As you say, they give these bills noble sounding names that won't do what they really sound like they will do, then load it not with pork, but with details that go against the Republican's core points. This way, if the Republicans oppose the bills, they're the ones who look bad. For example - when the Democrats wanted to extend unemployment benefits for an additional 90 weeks - they actually had broad bipartisan support for that cause. However - the Democrats wanted to pass an "Emergency Spending Bill" (i.e., "borrowing") to fund it, whereas the Republicans wanted to use some money that was allocated but not committed from the stimulus package that had just passed, along with making some cuts in other areas. The result was the same old saw - "Republicans hate the poor." "Republicans want people to starve in the streets". "Republicans are the party of NO". In the end, the Republicans lost the battle - the bill passed, we borrowed the money, and they were dragged through the mud. Same with the "Violence Against Women" act - which contained language that subordinated American courts to Indian tribunals, and gave federal jurisdiction over laws that had been the purview of the states for decades. It was, in essence, more federal takeover, and less sovereignty for the states - but again, people did not read past the noble-sounding title, and the Republicans became the "Anti-Woman" party. The list goes on and on - and make no mistake - it is a purposeful strategy. The Democrats are able to get what they want - AND trash the Republicans at the same time. This is possible because we do not want to read past headlines - as the Reuters article so conveniently points out. Thanks, "Progress".